ana0pera Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 I'm traveling solo and was getting a bit bored and lonely going out by myself, so about a week ago I posted an add seeking (guy) friends/activity partners/dates. I met up with one guy and we hit it off wonderfully, he is super hot and we have a lot in common and talked for hours. We made out too, he is a good kisser . Anyway, he knows that I am only here for about a week longer and mentioned wanting to see me again before I leave. I was traveling over the weekend and he was busy so we couldn't do anything then, but when I got back I FB messaged him yesterday to say hi and I haven't heard back from him, and I don't think he's even seen the message (according to the FB function that shows when a message was seen). I know much time hasn't passed and I shouldn't be so antsy, but I am leaving in a few days and would like to spend my last weekend here with people, not alone. Meanwhile there are other guys who've contacted me who are interested in meeting...I haven't responded to any of them because I am waiting on my one friend, since I've already met him and he didn't give me creeper vibes I would rather see him before a new stranger, and while I don't think anything is going to happen between us--and i am not expecting anything to--i am open to something more if it were to develop naturally. But he hasn't responded to my message, so should I just move on?
ForeverHopeful1 Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 Move on. If he was interested, he'd make time.
Ninjainpajamas Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 You're investing way too much with this guy, you don't even know him. And if he's super hot than he's got more than one fish on the line, so you shouldn't put all your eggs in that basket, especially since he hasn't even gotten back to you You should be hanging out with other people, if they have to be strangers then so be it, everyone is a stranger traveling anyway...just be smart about it, you're supposed to be just having a good time and socializing, not chasing and figuring out how to catch mr unavailable. You don't try and force it, whether one mile or three thousand miles away...If he wants you, he will pursue...don't just lay it all out there beckoning him to spend time with you.
Author ana0pera Posted June 28, 2013 Author Posted June 28, 2013 ok, got it. Just to be clear, I wasn't "chasing" him and I am not trying to "catch" him--we both knew well ahead of time before last weekend that we were busy then (and even if he did have time, I was out of town) and while we talked a bit before I left, I only sent him one message after I got back--not even asking him to hang out with me, just saying hi and commenting on something we talked about earlier. I don't have any emotional investment in this (despite the title saying "move on") and I am very new to this and will treat it as a learning experience, I am just unsure of what to do if I start talking to someone else, haven't made concrete plans yet, and then all of a sudden he contacts me wanting to hang out. A lot of what-ifs there, but given that neither of these activities have long-term potential (I have less than week left here, now), is it more sensible to go out with the person I already met or someone new? Let's say I only had time to go out with one person?
Ninjainpajamas Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 I think the main purpose of this is to socialize and meet new people...if it's a natural progression where you're seeing someone consistently that's great, but I wouldn't wait around for that text or phone call especially if you made the effort to contact him afterwards already and he didn't get back to you yet. IMO if you weren't chasing him you would have met him, he said he wanted to meet you before you left so let him initiate contact again...and that would have been that. If he didn't arrange nothing himself or contact you I'd have already made other plans or kept going on with life...I wouldn't just sit around hoping the person is going to contact me. The guy knows there's a potential for a one week fling before you get out of town...that's no obligation, no risk, easy no strings/casual thing...if he's not taking the bait on that, then I very much doubt he's that interested, especially after kissing you.
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