chaychay Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 ive lost most of my friends now including who I thought was my bestfriend. they seem to be walking out of my life because they'd rather not help me through my problems or deal with them. I guess they've had enough of listening to me. ive lost a lot of people this week, not only that the sudden appearance of my ex has got me stressed and depressed, I don't know if he means any harm but he knows that i cannot be friends with him, but hes been trying to win me back eversince , but im scared ill get hurt, im scared to get attatched or let anyone in ever again. I literally have no one left to talk to about my feelings, I have no friends, im struggling to cope at home, so I thought id write my feelings to whoever cares on here.. I just feel so worthless and lost.. I feel like my existence doesn't mean anything to anyone.
Toddbt12y1 Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 Friends and family, as great as they are initially with helping out with a break-up or problems, they do eventually get tired. Perhaps they are not moving on, just feel as though they have answered you with all the possible answers that they know how. I was like this, and would ask the same questions constantly. Just to hear a comforting answer. In short, no one can keep helping someone forever. You have to start helping yourself. 1) Realize that you are worth a lot. Many people(more than you think), love you. They want to see you happy again, and see you succeed. They may not always be able to help you, but it doesn't mean that they do not love you. There is nothing more worthy than being loved; and I am sure your friends and family do love you. You have tons of worth, to a future partner...and you can find one, who may spend forever with you. 2) Your existence means a lot. If it meant nothing to no-one, I would not be commenting to you here and now. You only think that your existence is worthless, because your friends have chosen to stop giving you advice, and or being around a sad person. Your existence is not measured by whether your friends provide you with advice. Your existence is measured by how you VALUE YOURSELF. How you are willing to go on ahead with life. Meet someone better, and don't give me that crap you won't - you can and will if you try! If your friends are unwilling to remain friends, and this best-friend disappears out of your life....That just shows that they weren't your true friends. One thing to be annoyed...by a constantly depressed person, and maybe limit contact, and or time spent. But another to totally ditch them, if they have. You are a capable person. You can move-on. You can do things to fight off the depression. To try again, and maybe find someone better. You have to do this. Friends will help with the troubles at first, but in the end...It is up to you to help yourself through them. Get up. Stop crying. Stop thinking of some guy(who should stay away or you should tell him to stay away), and find someone completely new. Being chained down to the memories of one person, will destroy any future memories you may can have with another person....thus making you further unhappy. You have power too. Power to help yourself. You must help yourself. People tend to not stick around through the thickest if they do not have too...so, you have to be the one willing to ride it out alone. Be strong. You can do this. Your life is very precious. 3
eddyctv Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 I lost the love of my life and my best friend a few weeks ago. I felt like I had no one to talk to either, but I reached out to my mom and my sister, I just needed their ear to let me vent, and they were there for me. Consider your parents or siblings - they will be there for you, especially now when you need them most 1
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