Short Relationship Breakup (Kinda weird)

[tinkabbs]

Hello everyone,

I am new to this community, and i hope i chose the correct section in order to state my problem:P.

I was at a short relationship(3 months) and yesterday i decided to broke up with her.

All right till now? Here comes the weirdness…we were doing fine, well almost fine. She was perfect for me: didn’t pressure me at all, didn’t do anything to me at all and she was there for me and, in my opinion, she was good looking.

But I just couldn’t keep this up. I had a surgery that held me to my home for most of the time for 1 month and now I am like a volcano ready to erupt. I just didn’t want to hurt her. She was very patient with me but deep inside me I knew I couldn’t make her happy anymore because I just wanted to be alone.

Right now I feel pretty bad, but mostly because I hurt her feelings. I am way too experienced compared to her and I know myself pretty damn well to know that when I want to be alone I just want this. If I pressure myself to stay with that person, the results would be devastating and I am 99% I was going to do something stupid and hurt her even more.

Well I am open to any suggestions. I just want her to be ok and I know she will be when she is off me. I don’t deserve this girl and I cant treat her the way she deserves. She deserves better.

What do you think I should do? Also any questions you want to ask me I am open.

 

Cheers and hope to talk to you laters.

[chinacat sunflower]

Hello everyone,

I am new to this community, and i hope i chose the correct section in order to state my problem:P.

I was at a short relationship(3 months) and yesterday i decided to broke up with her.

All right till now? Here comes the weirdness…we were doing fine, well almost fine. She was perfect for me: didn’t pressure me at all, didn’t do anything to me at all and she was there for me and, in my opinion, she was good looking.

But I just couldn’t keep this up. I had a surgery that held me to my home for most of the time for 1 month and now I am like a volcano ready to erupt. I just didn’t want to hurt her. She was very patient with me but deep inside me I knew I couldn’t make her happy anymore because I just wanted to be alone.

Right now I feel pretty bad, but mostly because I hurt her feelings. I am way too experienced compared to her and I know myself pretty damn well to know that when I want to be alone I just want this. If I pressure myself to stay with that person, the results would be devastating and I am 99% I was going to do something stupid and hurt her even more.

Well I am open to any suggestions. I just want her to be ok and I know she will be when she is off me. I don’t deserve this girl and I cant treat her the way she deserves. She deserves better.

What do you think I should do? Also any questions you want to ask me I am open.

 

Cheers and hope to talk to you laters.

 

You sound like my most recent ex. All I can say is be open and honest with her. Tell her exactly what you just posted here. No mind games. Go no contact if you feel the need to. Most people on this site are all about strict no contact. Especially if she is hurting and you want to move on from this. If you do choose to go no contact, just give her a heads up. Don't just cut her off leaving her confused. It's a terrible feeling. Good luck........

[flitzanu]

Hello everyone,

I am new to this community, and i hope i chose the correct section in order to state my problem:P.

I was at a short relationship(3 months) and yesterday i decided to broke up with her.

All right till now? Here comes the weirdness…we were doing fine, well almost fine. She was perfect for me: didn’t pressure me at all, didn’t do anything to me at all and she was there for me and, in my opinion, she was good looking.

But I just couldn’t keep this up. I had a surgery that held me to my home for most of the time for 1 month and now I am like a volcano ready to erupt. I just didn’t want to hurt her. She was very patient with me but deep inside me I knew I couldn’t make her happy anymore because I just wanted to be alone.

Right now I feel pretty bad, but mostly because I hurt her feelings. I am way too experienced compared to her and I know myself pretty damn well to know that when I want to be alone I just want this. If I pressure myself to stay with that person, the results would be devastating and I am 99% I was going to do something stupid and hurt her even more.

Well I am open to any suggestions. I just want her to be ok and I know she will be when she is off me. I don’t deserve this girl and I cant treat her the way she deserves. She deserves better.

What do you think I should do? Also any questions you want to ask me I am open.

 

Cheers and hope to talk to you laters.

 

 

yeah, did you try being honest with her? though i'll tell you, she won't likely believe you. i had the same sitch, kinda, just wasn't feeling it with a girl after a few months and split up with her, but she always believed it was some unspoken reason. i just didn't feel the spark and didn't feel it going anywhere and wanted to be alone. all you can do is be honest and hope she listens and believes you. just don't leave things open ended and don't lead her on.

[tinkabbs]

Well thanks for your advices i will try to be honest with her and hope she doesnt take it too hard.

 

Wish me luck and cya around