What if No Contact is impossible?? Anyone know a Plan B??

[KateyForFate]

Hey, I am a true believer in No Contact and have used it succesfully for 5 months now (so proud of myself!) to get over my toxic ex. Well, it turns out he is now coming to work at my company. I am still not over him. Despite ignoring all of his attempts at communication and trying to move on, I think about him and what could have been ALL THE TIME.

 

My question is - what am I suppose to do if I have to see this guy every single day, and communicate with him about work things? We have this unbelievable chemistry and he is a major flirt. I don't know if I will be able to ignore him, or act professionally without breaking down. Please help me guys, I need all the support I can get right now!

[Miss Perfection]

Tell him how you feel for crying out loud...you never know, he might feel the same about you. Stop wasting your time trying to play these dumb games...life is too short. peace

[KateyForFate]

I had a million conversations with this guy before we broke up - he knows he broke my heart and destroyed all trust. He is with another woman now (the one he cheated on me with) so there is no chance we are getting back together. Why should I pour my heart out and let him see how weak I am? I need to handle this with as much dignity as possible. Any other advice??

[Miss Perfection]

ok well in that case, you can try NC.

[joanne]

yeah girl no contact is the way to go!! i am trying so hard to stop talking to my ex...who has made me so miserable..he's with another girl and he'll only try talking to me when he feels like it...i don't want to talk to him anymore...some people say if you don't talk to him anymore then he will really miss you and come back...but i don't think this is gonna happen for me so if you guys don't talk anymore and he doesn't care to talk to you if you're not, then MOVE ON. i'm trying to move on bc if he's gonna be a jerk then why are we crying over someone who we don't even like anymore!! why would you like somebody who has hurt you and made you lose all kinds of trust? i hate him for what he did to me but i still cry like everyday bc i miss him so much...it will take time but you can do it!!!

[KateyForFate]

My problem is that NO CONTACT IS IMPOSSIBLE FOR ME. I am going to be working with this guy, in the office next to him, every single day of the week. Would someone without dyslexia please read my post and give me a genuine response?!

[Naive]

Just treat him exactly how you would treat any other co-worker. Keep in mind that he did you wrong.

[Karina]

KATE: if he wants you as bad as you already want him back than he'll let you know. FOR NOW what i would do is just ignore his every move. ACT, pretend, hum if you have too. BUT ACT LIKE HE'S NOT THERE. Your already letting your feelings get the best of you when you say and admitted to jerperdizing your proffesional life over him. SO COOL OFF, hop off his nuts, and be a woman.

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[scarecrow2]

Kate

 

I sympathise with your situation as I'm in the same predicament. Except I don't quite work directly with my ex.

 

I can only suggest that you tell him how you feel. You risk rejection but he may want you back. Either way you'll get your answer and peace of mind. You could leave your job but that is a huge gamble. That would also play in to his hands. Can you write/text/phone him ( writing would be best ) If he has any sort of decency then he'll respect your feelings.

 

I have a g/f but have twice met my ex ( from last year ) and the atmosphere is charged/awkward/lustful/anger. The look she gave us. She also shows up in my coffee house from time to time. I wonder if it's coincidence.

 

My ex texted and phoned me a few months ago. She passed on her new house number as she wanted to chat things over. I declined and regret it. Her own personal life is a mess and my gut instinct says that she views me as unfinished business. Hmmm. I can't work out her intentions!

 

Anyway good luck and keep me posted. I think you should contact him somehow. At least you'll get your answer!