I'm not the one at fault here....right?

[Ed the 3rd]

So met a girl I really like on OLD. It said she wanted to meet me (This was POF) and we had great conversations (I asked her if she was up for meeting but she said she hadn't had the account for even a day and needed more time) I thought nothing of it since that would indeed be rushing it. We talked more and it was great since I usually can't hold conversations with people on those sites.

 

I asked her if she was up for meeting me a few days later and she told me she wasn't on the site for anything just to make friends and if we were ever to meet it would not be a date (I seriously felt a part of me die at that last line).

 

It was a complete 180. Is me feeling like I've just been kicked in the nuts justified? I can only assume someone far better came along because people don't go on a dating site....say they are looking for a relationship and have there perfect first date plotted out on their profile if they want friends.

[Ed the 3rd]

POF gives you plenty of opportunity to state you just want friends. Hell if sh told me that at the beginning I wouldn't of had my hopes crushed like a grape.

 

While I'd like to think that's what it is I have a hard time believing she's a catfish.

[MidwestUSA]

There's nothing wrong with you. POF is for random hookups and flakes just testing the waters. You just "met" one.

[KatZee]

However, you may have just doddged a bullet as this is classic Catfish behavior.

 

What she's doing isn't Catfish behavior at all. If she pretended to be someone she wasn't, she'd be a Catfish. If she led him on, started an online relationship with him and then turned out to be some 45 year old homeless person, that would be a Catfish.

 

This girl just doesn't want to be on POF to date. She wants to meet friends. Perhaps she's just unaware of what the POF site is really about.

 

OP maybe direct her to Meetup.com if she's looking for friends.

[Ed the 3rd]

No no I can respect people can seek friends out on that site. I'm sure she's not a catfish.

 

Its just it was going really well then there was a total 180. She wouldn't have her "first DATE" planned out if she was there with the intention of only making friends.

 

I just can't fathom it. I kinda just want to get the account deleted. Its been one gong show after another and it doesn't get any less painful. I didn't even meet this one and the sheer disappointment is soul destroying.

[nerd]

Sadly, so much of OLD is based on fantasy and deciet that one must always initially be leery of any perceived connection. No matter how deep.

 

Heh. I would say the same is true for regular dating.

[ChessPieceFace]

I can only assume someone far better came along because people don't go on a dating site....say they are looking for a relationship and have there perfect first date plotted out on their profile if they want friends.

 

"someone far better" - so she thinks. Yeah you were brushed off. You can only speculate as to the reason. Best advice, play it cool and move on. You care way too much about the white lies and choices of a woman you've never met. Maybe her "someone far better" will turn out to be crap and she'll message you sometime. Regardless, stop dwelling on it.