SJC2008 Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 I've been thinking a lot lately how my guy friends act and how the women I date act and have had an awakening for lack of a better term. The last woman I dated had a problem with my seat choice when we went to the movies and called out loud "Why did you sit us betweeen two people". The same woman once tried to get me to go eat sushi even though I told her I don't eat seafood and she didn't mention any type of vegetarian or non seafood sushi either. TBS I'm thinking of a new dating rule in "My guy friends would never do this". When I go to the movies with a guy friend or friends they don't bytch about seats! We just sit down and watch the movie, regardless of who picked the seats. When I go to eat with one of my guy friends we just pick a place and go, be it there idea or mine. They don't try to change the plans to a type of food that I made it perfectly clear that I don't eat. Just something I've been kicking around... Feel free to add in any rules of your own!
TaraMaiden Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 My guy doesn't flip the finger at idiots driving using their 'phones - and then uses one himself - while driving.... That one really bugged me with my ex-.... 1
KillerFish Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 When dating I usually treat women as I would treat new guy friends, don't treat them better or worse. You are a very brave man if you are still dating that woman, if she behaves like this at first, just imagine how she will act when she's more intimate with you.
TaraMaiden Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 When dating I usually treat women as I would treat new guy friends, don't treat them better or worse. That - to me - would be one of the worst ways you could treat me, until we became more familiar and comfortable with one another. I'd like to be treated specially, and singled out for different treatment. I'd expect you to assume I'm a lady, and act, accordingly, like a gentleman. Treat me like 'one of the guys' from the get-go - and you'd find yourself in the 'forever alone' zone, pretty quickly..... 3
KillerFish Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 Maybe we didn't understand each other.. I will take care in going to a nice fun place she will like, take her home and be helpful, but I won't be a doormat. maybe you won't understand again, but anyway I think being a gentleman can be a good thing but there's also too much..
TheZebra Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 Here's a better rule.. Don't date a girl who's a jerk 4
TaraMaiden Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 Maybe we didn't understand each other.. I will take care in going to a nice fun place she will like, take her home and be helpful, but I won't be a doormat. maybe you won't understand again, but anyway I think being a gentleman can be a good thing but there's also too much.. If a guy can't tell the difference between 'too much' and 'being a doormat' - then he's being a doormat. A gentleman doesn't even have to try. Being a gentleman comes naturally to a gentleman. And a Lady can tell one a mile off. But there's also 'too little'. And that's being a jerk. 1
xxoo Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 For consistency, if she should have piped down and accepted the seats you picked, shouldn't you pipe down and accept the restaurant she picks? By the way, your guy friends won't care what seats you pick because they aren't hoping to make out with you during the movie! Also, eat before the date and try something new once in a while....almost everywhere has a vegetarian option. 2
TaraMaiden Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 The Japanese always have vegetarian options. I eat 'sushi' frequently. Love it... Stomach rumbling......
Els Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 "My guy friends wouldn't do this"? Wouldn't that rule automatically rule out kissing, making out, sex, blowjobs, cooking for you, and wearing dresses? I know you think women all have the world at their fingertips , but I assure you that if any of us used your rule, with gender inverted, for potential boyfriends, we would either be lesbian or single! 2
ChatroomHero Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 That - to me - would be one of the worst ways you could treat me, until we became more familiar and comfortable with one another. I'd like to be treated specially, and singled out for different treatment. I'd expect you to assume I'm a lady, and act, accordingly, like a gentleman. Treat me like 'one of the guys' from the get-go - and you'd find yourself in the 'forever alone' zone, pretty quickly..... Just curious, do you treat the guy like your knight in shining armor and the only man on the planet that matters, or do you treat him like any other guy on a job interview?
Kamille Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 I understand the rule and agree with it. Don't date jerks and certainly, if someone shows you they're high maintenance or are likely to disregard your own needs, walk away. That said, I believe friends get along easily with each other because they have a few things going for them: They are used to each other's habits (maybe you always sit at about the same place at the movies and therefore don't need to discuss it) or are open to each other's needs (so that if one of your friends was trying to convince you to eat sushi, you'd likely turn it into a joke, rather then get offended by it). Basically, your rule is good. But make sure that you don't use the rule to get offended easily. Instead, treat your dates as you would your friends - with openness, kindness and humour.
TaraMaiden Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 Just curious, do you treat the guy like your knight in shining armor and the only man on the planet that matters, or do you treat him like any other guy on a job interview? The former. Would you like him to post in confirmation? 1
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