Author youcanever Posted June 27, 2013 Author Posted June 27, 2013 Were you this full-on when you were together? I'm not being insensitive, felt like throwing up after break ups and all that but you are just non-stop Weird but when she called me and we were talking on phone, i felt nothing towards her, not even a lil bit. Even wanted to close phone. Even told her not to contact me again. But day passes my feelings groe again. Wtf? What changed?
TaraMaiden Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 Oh yes. There are stories. Pretty much around 1 in a 1000.... And normally it's not until a good long while later, when both parties have moved on, healed and are different people, because they've evolved, developed and worked on themselves. People who re-unite within months are normally more 'on a break' and have done little or nothing to alter their MO. Fast reconnections work a lot less, and a lot less successfully than reconnections down the line....
Author youcanever Posted June 27, 2013 Author Posted June 27, 2013 Oh yes. There are stories. Pretty much around 1 in a 1000.... And normally it's not until a good long while later, when both parties have moved on, healed and are different people, because they've evolved, developed and worked on themselves. People who re-unite within months are normally more 'on a break' and have done little or nothing to alter their MO. Fast reconnections work a lot less, and a lot less successfully than reconnections down the line.... I always think she will meet a manly man, better than me. Love him so much.enjoy sex a lot and live happily after. Sucks
Sarabi Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 I agree. Block her on facebook...that way you don't lose your other friends And please trust Tara and follow the NC guide. I am starting to follow it too; she told me months ago to follow it and I didn't do it properly...now I am practically doing it to the letter. The hobby part and filling your time is essential (for me anyway). Not allowing yourself to brood on the other person ...this is also something I find hard but they are right, NC is for us. Trying to shift focus back to us and our healing...not the other person. Luckily I have started cycling in a very hilly area so I feel happy when I get home after managing a greater portion of a hill than I could the previous day. I'm sure you'll get there and feel better one day
Sarabi Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 I always think she will meet a manly man, better than me. Love him so much.enjoy sex a lot and live happily after. Sucks Yeah... you have to try and stop thinking like this. I know, its hard, I am also doing it too but at the end of the day its not worth it because its hurting you and its self destructive. Focus on you. Why not think about how much a wonderful woman will appreciate you. Exactly as you are..? and how you will have a great relationship with someone who wants you for you? And who will love you so much? And you will also love her? You say you're an engineer..? Who wouldn't be happy to say that their man does that? I would! You are working, you are independent, you support yourself(I assume). I'm sure you have many other good qualities you are not telling us about here...think about those instead when your mind wanders to what might be happening with her.
Author youcanever Posted June 27, 2013 Author Posted June 27, 2013 Oi! You know what, why doesn't everyone here just stop giving advice and ignore this thread. OP is so wrapped up in his own misery he can't even BEGIN to comprehend what's being said. OP, until you realize she's not coming back, that NC means NC FOR GOOD and that your last concern should be what she might think when you unblock her since you shouldn't. Ever (and because the only way she would know that is if she checked your profile which she probably isn't and won't ever) you are beyond help. You are right about all of it in your post but only one thing is not right which is you think i dont take these advices. Im not going to contact her, i will not creep on the social medias, i will fill every free second of mine and improve myself, and i will take the idea of her out of my mind. I am aware of the BS questions i am asking, even though i know your answers it feels me good to let these idiotic thoughts out of my mînd. Feels like therapy. So bare with me. And i take every letter of these advices and î will implement them to my life. No worries about that. Period. 1
Author youcanever Posted June 27, 2013 Author Posted June 27, 2013 Yeah... you have to try and stop thinking like this. I know, its hard, I am also doing it too but at the end of the day its not worth it because its hurting you and its self destructive. Focus on you. Why not think about how much a wonderful woman will appreciate you. Exactly as you are..? and how you will have a great relationship with someone who wants you for you? And who will love you so much? And you will also love her? You say you're an engineer..? Who wouldn't be happy to say that their man does that? I would! You are working, you are independent, you support yourself(I assume). I'm sure you have many other good qualities you are not telling us about here...think about those instead when your mind wanders to what might be happening with her. Well, you made me feel good abou myself. Yes i am an engineer and working at my dream job which i got 1 month ago. There is a lot of traits that i want to improve about myself. I need to take a long break from relationships. I need some me time.
Sarabi Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 Well, you made me feel good abou myself. Yes i am an engineer and working at my dream job which i got 1 month ago. There is a lot of traits that i want to improve about myself. I need to take a long break from relationships. I need some me time. Well I am glad I was able to do at least one nice thing for someone today Yeah. Take some "me" time. It will be worth it
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