youcanever Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 (edited) I always think about this. My ex broke up with me 4 weeks ago but called me 5 days ago and told me she quit her job from ZARA as a sales consultant but starting a job at very well known spanish outfit company as a sales consultant again a parttime. She also studies. And she is 19. On the other hand I am 23 and i work for a very well known american automotive company as a Product Development Engineer full time. But i feel so jeolous of her. Why is this happening? I feel like she is having an amazing life without me and this thought makes me feel weird. What is wrong with me? Edited June 27, 2013 by youcanever
Author youcanever Posted June 27, 2013 Author Posted June 27, 2013 I think i will break nc an contact her tomorow evening when i am drunk
OrangeSnack Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 :/ i seriously hope that was a joke because drunk calls are lame and immature. Go on with your own life and don't worry about hers. She broke up with you so why should you even care? Stay NC.
Author youcanever Posted June 27, 2013 Author Posted June 27, 2013 :/ i seriously hope that was a joke because drunk calls are lame and immature. Go on with your own life and don't worry about hers. She broke up with you so why should you even care? Stay NC. How about that weird jealousy and comparing her and my life? Ah i hatr relationships.
TaraMaiden Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 youcanevergrowaspine... Sorry - that should read - youcannever, grow a spine! You're not jealous. You miss what was, and what might have been. You have to quit letting her contact you. This is just dumb logic, not rocket science.... Block, delete, and never respond. Drunk texts be damned, try a little sober common sense!! Jeesh... read the sig, bro! No Contact - every time!
Author youcanever Posted June 27, 2013 Author Posted June 27, 2013 Goddamn, why would you plan to do this? I mean, people actually sit there and premeditate a drunk dial?? No. Cut off all contact with her and take up a hobby to fill your time, like...finding your balls. Found that balls before she contacted again, but right now have no idea where i dropped it again. Btw i dont pln calling, there is a misunderstanding. I will go out for drink friday evening and want to get drunk. I hope i dont call or text. I havent been drinking for 3 months. Damn i miss her like crazy.
Author youcanever Posted June 27, 2013 Author Posted June 27, 2013 youcanevergrowaspine... Sorry - that should read - youcannever, grow a spine! You're not jealous. You miss what was, and what might have been. You have to quit letting her contact you. This is just dumb logic, not rocket science.... Block, delete, and never respond. Drunk texts be damned, try a little sober common sense!! Jeesh... read the sig, bro! No Contact - every time! I always wonder one thing. In future i will look at this moment and scared that i will tell myself that "why didnt you write? What would you lose? What if you called and things worked out great? Wha if what if what if?" I don want any regrets in future. If i knew i die tomorrow, i would want her to know tha i still think about her every single second and i loved her so much. Jeez i am a moron
TaraMaiden Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 You're fine... Dumpees are constantly asking themselves the "what if" questions... The big problem is this. "What if" questions ALWAYS focus on what 'they' might be thinking/going through, and NEVER focus on the correct person. The Dumpee. That's 'you'. Get this: This is no longer 'about her'. The No Contact Guide (first post) is written entirely from the dumpee's perspective. FOR the Dumpee. Because that's what matters most. You. Not her. (You are reading it, aren't you?) The remainder of the thread points out, pretty much, the idiocy of continued contact, why it's foolish, why it's self-defeating, debilitating and stunts your progress. Forget about what you want her to know. What she wants you to know, is that it's over. And by maintaining contact, you have fully entered into the agreement of being totally 'friend-zoned' by her. Epic FAIL, my friend. Read the Guide, do what it says. No questions asked. It's all there, it all works and it's a fail-safe method for YOU to heal and move on from this.
Author youcanever Posted June 27, 2013 Author Posted June 27, 2013 You're fine... Dumpees are constantly asking themselves the "what if" questions... The big problem is this. "What if" questions ALWAYS focus on what 'they' might be thinking/going through, and NEVER focus on the correct person. The Dumpee. That's 'you'. Get this: This is no longer 'about her'. The No Contact Guide (first post) is written entirely from the dumpee's perspective. FOR the Dumpee. Because that's what matters most. You. Not her. (You are reading it, aren't you?) The remainder of the thread points out, pretty much, the idiocy of continued contact, why it's foolish, why it's self-defeating, debilitating and stunts your progress. Forget about what you want her to know. What she wants you to know, is that it's over. And by maintaining contact, you have fully entered into the agreement of being totally 'friend-zoned' by her. Epic FAIL, my friend. Read the Guide, do what it says. No questions asked. It's all there, it all works and it's a fail-safe method for YOU to heal and move on from this. Yes i know. I did NC for 3 weeks and 5 days full nc. No creeping on her social media. It was sooo hard but i was starting to forget her. Then she called me. An back to square 1. She got a new job and at the end of our convo i told her she shouldnt contact me anymore. So i am pretty sure it is over and she won contac anymore. Full nc is damn hard but im starting it right now.
TaraMaiden Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 Well, why did you break No Contact then? Because you do realise - it's YOU who broke it, not her. Right?
Author youcanever Posted June 27, 2013 Author Posted June 27, 2013 Well, why did you break No Contact then? Because you do realise - it's YOU who broke it, not her. Right? After she broke up i did 3 weeks NC. But then she called and i answered. That time i broke it. After that call it has been 6 days, i have been creeping on her social media but havent write or call. So i did kind of 6 days NC. And going on. I havent initiated contact for 5 weeks.
TaraMaiden Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 delete your FB account. It's the best way to really clear away those final fuggy cobwebs. Trust me, loads of people have one it. They don't miss it, and they don't regret it..... And Twitter?? Resident Evil. It's schyte. And I deleted my account ages ago. Do I miss it? Dafuq I do....
Author youcanever Posted June 27, 2013 Author Posted June 27, 2013 delete your FB account. It's the best way to really clear away those final fuggy cobwebs. Trust me, loads of people have one it. They don't miss it, and they don't regret it..... And Twitter?? Resident Evil. It's schyte. And I deleted my account ages ago. Do I miss it? Dafuq I do.... If i delete facebook i will lose frinds in my list. The real problem is i am checking her whatsapp status and picture all the time. Even i am checking her last seen time. It is crazy. I delete her number but as i menorized i add it again and check more. Stupid nonsense.
TaraMaiden Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 If i delete facebook i will lose frinds in my list. You don't 'lose' friends that way. If you do, they're not 'friends'. You have other ways of contacting them, don't you? The real problem is i am checking her whatsapp status and picture all the time. Even i am checking her last seen time. It is crazy. I delete her number but as i menorized i add it again and check more. Stupid nonsense. You're absolutely right. Masochism at its worst. Why do you enjoy inflicting pain on yourself? Why do you do it? How would you stop? What dafuq are you doing, completely abdicating any responsibility for yourself, and being so weak? Sorry to be harsh, but - are you really THIS dumb? I mean, really?? 1
Author youcanever Posted June 27, 2013 Author Posted June 27, 2013 You don't 'lose' friends that way. If you do, they're not 'friends'. You have other ways of contacting them, don't you? You're absolutely right. Masochism at its worst. Why do you enjoy inflicting pain on yourself? Why do you do it? How would you stop? What dafuq are you doing, completely abdicating any responsibility for yourself, and being so weak? Sorry to be harsh, but - are you really THIS dumb? I mean, really?? Not dumb but i am that weak. I want to make my will steelstrong but dont knoe how to do ît. Yes i think i should delete facebook for a while till i get over her.
Emilia Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 If i delete facebook i will lose frinds in my list. I agree that you shouldn't delete your facebook account. However delete and block her, that's sufficient
Author youcanever Posted June 27, 2013 Author Posted June 27, 2013 I agree that you shouldn't delete your facebook account. However delete and block her, that's sufficient She deleted and blocked me already but unblocked 2 weeks ago, i dont know why. I dont want to block her. Because then she will know i have been creeping on her. Its not good.
Emilia Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 She deleted and blocked me already but unblocked 2 weeks ago, i dont know why. I dont want to block her. Because then she will know i have been creeping on her. Its not good. That's kinda retarded reasoning if you don't mind my saying. Just block her 1
Author youcanever Posted June 27, 2013 Author Posted June 27, 2013 That's kinda retarded reasoning if you don't mind my saying. Just block her Right now she assumes i move on. I really dont think blocking her is a good îdea. Also if i block i will unblock again. No difference between blocking or unblocking rght now.
Emilia Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 Right now she assumes i move on. I really dont think blocking her is a good îdea. Also if i block i will unblock again. No difference between blocking or unblocking rght now. Just block and don't unblock. Why not just stay blocked? I don't get your reasoning sorry. Who cares what she thinks? 1
nerd Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 If you block, the next time you want to view her page you will need to unblock to do it. That might give you a second to reconsider and you won't do it. I have these little checks all the time. Not an absolute block but things that give me a second to reconsider what I'm doing. 1
Author youcanever Posted June 27, 2013 Author Posted June 27, 2013 If you block, the next time you want to view her page you will need to unblock to do it. That might give you a second to reconsider and you won't do it. I have these little checks all the time. Not an absolute block but things that give me a second to reconsider what I'm doing. It takes 15 secs to add her to my phone to check her whatsapp again. If that doesnt stop, what does? I stop creeping now.
TaraMaiden Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 You're still thinking from the wrong perspective. About how it will look if you do this that or the other. What others think is not any concern. You're not doing it for them. You're doing it for you. Do whatever it is you need to do to get past this. if your willpower is weak - help it. Do whatever you have to do. Just do it, and do it because you need to, not because she will/won't see, think or assume. Jeesh! Take your life back, dude!
Author youcanever Posted June 27, 2013 Author Posted June 27, 2013 You're still thinking from the wrong perspective. About how it will look if you do this that or the other. What others think is not any concern. You're not doing it for them. You're doing it for you. Do whatever it is you need to do to get past this. if your willpower is weak - help it. Do whatever you have to do. Just do it, and do it because you need to, not because she will/won't see, think or assume. Jeesh! Take your life back, dude! I am at work now and cant even concentrate. Even when i read your post you know what was passing through my mind? "How can i get her back?" Im a wreck right now. Is thereany stories like 2 exs get back together adter years and live happily ever after? Or is it a total BS?
Emilia Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 I am at work now and cant even concentrate. Even when i read your post you know what was passing through my mind? "How can i get her back?" Im a wreck right now. Is thereany stories like 2 exs get back together adter years and live happily ever after? Or is it a total BS? Were you this full-on when you were together? I'm not being insensitive, felt like throwing up after break ups and all that but you are just non-stop
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