wanting more Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 I heard something on the radio about a significant event 4 years ago. Then it hit me, 4 years ago was our 1st "trip" away together Then I realized May would've made our 4 year anniversary. This month is when I would've had our baby had I not had a miscarriage 2 years ago. I smiled to myself because I realized during the A, certain dates were so special. We'd plan trips to celebrate 1st night together, 1 month marks, 6 month mark, year mark. But all these special or significant dates just went by. It didn't even occur to me in May that it would've been 4 years. To me it's a huge thing because he rarely enters my mind now. It's been 10 months (wow, 10 months) since the 2nd d-day and for many months right after I couldn't imagine a day going by without thinking of him, of the A. And now, realizing that not only do I not think about him, dates I thought were so special go by unnoticed. (except the baby) Obviously not a question in here, just feeling a little better about myself 5
Goodbye Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 That is great to hear! I'm at six weeks of no contact and am still plagued with thoughts of him...and am obsessive about dates. I really hope, like you, in a few months I can look back and realize he is no longer on my mind. That would be a huge relief.
Author wanting more Posted June 27, 2013 Author Posted June 27, 2013 It'll happen. And it is a good feeling to realize they had passed without them being constantly on my mind. Good luck and give it time.
skywriter Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 I'm so happy for you Wanting More. May was a year since the end of my A too. I've moved on, I'm seeing a wonderful single guy and life feels back to normal. Goodbye, hang in there and you'll be able to say the same in time. 1
MMY Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 Going on 3 months of NC from my AP for me. Sucks but it is getting better. It has allowed me to step back and evaluate my life and allow me and my w to focus on us. I still miss the text, conversations, laughs, music and great times but I am planning on getting those things back with my W. Good luck!
Author wanting more Posted June 27, 2013 Author Posted June 27, 2013 Going on 3 months of NC from my AP for me. Sucks but it is getting better. It has allowed me to step back and evaluate my life and allow me and my w to focus on us. I still miss the text, conversations, laughs, music and great times but I am planning on getting those things back with my W. Good luck! I did miss him a lot in the beginning. Or missed who I thought he was. It does get better. Good luck to you!!
ScarlettKaren Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 Just passed 3 months of no contact here. I still miss him everyday, but it is getting a little easier. The ability to focus clearly on what I want out of my life now has helped. Now, my dreams, that is a whole separate issue. Sigh.
MissBee Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 I heard something on the radio about a significant event 4 years ago. Then it hit me, 4 years ago was our 1st "trip" away together Then I realized May would've made our 4 year anniversary. This month is when I would've had our baby had I not had a miscarriage 2 years ago. I smiled to myself because I realized during the A, certain dates were so special. We'd plan trips to celebrate 1st night together, 1 month marks, 6 month mark, year mark. But all these special or significant dates just went by. It didn't even occur to me in May that it would've been 4 years. To me it's a huge thing because he rarely enters my mind now. It's been 10 months (wow, 10 months) since the 2nd d-day and for many months right after I couldn't imagine a day going by without thinking of him, of the A. And now, realizing that not only do I not think about him, dates I thought were so special go by unnoticed. (except the baby) Obviously not a question in here, just feeling a little better about myself Yaaay! I remember that wonderful moment when I had to remember to remember . It was in a regular breakup, where of course, NC is just as difficult and you count the days and remember every little significant or insignificant thing. I remember posting on LS or reading other people's post about "Your Ex's Birthday"...it was such a BIG deal then, like omg, should I say anything? Should I do something? Restaurants we went to, things we did, first date, first trip etc. all of those things were everywhere and upsetting and seemed like huge deals...until they weren't. I remember also with the A, it was the same. Until the anniversary of his first visit came and went and I didn't remember about it until weeks later, I was like "Oh yea"...I was giddy! It just felt good to not be a slave to it anymore. Yaay for you! 3
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