wmrjw82 Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 One week of NC down. Basically she dumped me about a month ago. She's not completely over her ex of 3 years, I feel as though I was a rebound even though she constantly said I wasn't. She loves attention from guys and we fought quite a bit during the relationship. She's such an attention whore but she did have my heart. She tried to friendzone me about a week ago and I reversed it on her. Cut her off. My last message to her was 1) i'm not interested in being friends with you 2) you're not getting the plates I paid for 3) I've moved on. You dumped me 3 weeks ago. The day before I told her this she had txt'd me nonstop and called me over and over (because I defriended her on fb for my own healing)... once I laid that message out, she told me that was all I had to say and asked me why I all of a sudden changed (i had been trying to get her back the previous 3 weeks)... I simply replied, "just got tired of being hurt".... Nothing since then. It's been a LONG week. Thought keep entering my mind...should I have said this or done that. Should I not have told her I moved on (because I really haven't), etc. I keep seeing on here NC is the way to go and to stay strong, etc. In my gut I feel like it's really over for good. I mean the odds are already against us. We only lasted 4 months and it was a long distance relationship (she lives about an hour and a half away)...still... it was a very passionate relationship and I fell for her badly. She was also the first one to say I love you and I know for a period she fell for me, even though I felt her pulling away towards the end. Part of the problem I feel was because I had her on a pedestal. Anyway... I feel sorta good because I went out with some dignity...I never really begged or pleaded for her back. I felt as though I dismissed her at the end even though i'm the one that got dumped. I just couldn't stomach being friendzoned while she went out w/ other guys. Is there any chance she'll come back because of the way things ended? Like I said, she loves attention and when I cut off the attention she freaked out...although nothing from her in a week. I'm sure she's probably talking to someone else....but still I wonder if she thinks about me or per chance misses me. Anyway... any thoughts would help.
StrongLass Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 One week of NC down. Basically she dumped me about a month ago. She's not completely over her ex of 3 years, I feel as though I was a rebound even though she constantly said I wasn't. She loves attention from guys and we fought quite a bit during the relationship. She's such an attention whore but she did have my heart. She tried to friendzone me about a week ago and I reversed it on her. Cut her off. My last message to her was 1) i'm not interested in being friends with you 2) you're not getting the plates I paid for 3) I've moved on. You dumped me 3 weeks ago. The day before I told her this she had txt'd me nonstop and called me over and over (because I defriended her on fb for my own healing)... once I laid that message out, she told me that was all I had to say and asked me why I all of a sudden changed (i had been trying to get her back the previous 3 weeks)... I simply replied, "just got tired of being hurt".... Nothing since then. It's been a LONG week. Thought keep entering my mind...should I have said this or done that. Should I not have told her I moved on (because I really haven't), etc. I keep seeing on here NC is the way to go and to stay strong, etc. In my gut I feel like it's really over for good. I mean the odds are already against us. We only lasted 4 months and it was a long distance relationship (she lives about an hour and a half away)...still... it was a very passionate relationship and I fell for her badly. She was also the first one to say I love you and I know for a period she fell for me, even though I felt her pulling away towards the end. Part of the problem I feel was because I had her on a pedestal. Anyway... I feel sorta good because I went out with some dignity...I never really begged or pleaded for her back. I felt as though I dismissed her at the end even though i'm the one that got dumped. I just couldn't stomach being friendzoned while she went out w/ other guys. Is there any chance she'll come back because of the way things ended? Like I said, she loves attention and when I cut off the attention she freaked out...although nothing from her in a week. I'm sure she's probably talking to someone else....but still I wonder if she thinks about me or per chance misses me. Anyway... any thoughts would help. Everything that's in bold = why letting this one go is a really GOOD thing for you Girls like that RARELY change. She probably does think about you occasionally but mostly in the context of "Gee I wish he was still paying attention to me". If she feel more strongly than she'd be WITH you and not your ex. And honestly? There are some people on here who WISH they would have gone out like you did...like a boss! Chin up, it gets better from here. Really! 1
SimonSerenade Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 You did the right thing man, don't give it another thought, real men know what they want and you certainly made that crystal clear, good for you, be proud of yourself for that.
McGriff Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 What you did was short-term painful, long term the right thing to do. It sucks, I know. But you kept your dignity, and that's the best thing you can do. You did what you had to to have any shot at getting her back. No doubt she's thinking about you, and the longer you go NC, the more pressure is being put on her that you are slipping away with everyday that goes by. Will she cave? No one knows. That's the thing about relationships---they are unpredictable. She'll probably send you a breadcrumb once the pressure gets too high, but you have to stick to your guns. Be more strong-willed than her in pulling away. "He who cares less controls the relationship." I believe that. Just know that it's gonna suck, and either you will heal and move on, or she will come back. You win either way AND you do it with dignity. What more can you ask for?
forgetmenot75 Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 You did the right thing!! she's looking for you attention now, once she gets it, she'll disappear again. Keep NC, move on!!
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