Yourenogood Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 I just want to know that is it true that " if a guy likes her, he'll chase her" I don't know I've been living by that code for the past three years, if I have a crush on a guy and he doesn't approach me or make a move I try to forget about it because if he did like me he would make a move
Keenly Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 I just want to know that is it true that " if a guy likes her, he'll chase her" I don't know I've been living by that code for the past three years, if I have a crush on a guy and he doesn't approach me or make a move I try to forget about it because if he did like me he would make a move Stop thinking in absolutes. It will not always be this way . There are always reasons why a guy that likes you wouldn't pursue you. 1
tbf Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 I just want to know that is it true that " if a guy likes her, he'll chase her" I don't know I've been living by that code for the past three years, if I have a crush on a guy and he doesn't approach me or make a move I try to forget about it because if he did like me he would make a moveYes it's true if you want a confident and assertive man. If you're not fussy or prefer more passive men, then no, it's not true. 3
SJC2008 Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 Yes it's true if you want a confident and assertive man. If you're not fussy or prefer more passive men, then no, it's not true. I agree 100%. OTOH, a confident woman would know how to show interest, be it with flirting or body language etc. She won't send the guy out there blind folded, feeling like it's a crap shoot. 3
sillyanswer Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 I just want to know that is it true that " if a guy likes her, he'll chase her" Some guys will but not all. Some need a little extra encouragement such as some flirting to get the hint that she's interested before getting into chase mode. Do I chase all women I like? No. There just aren't enough hours in the day.
tbf Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 I agree 100%. OTOH, a confident woman would know how to show interest, be it with flirting or body language etc. She won't send the guy out there blind folded, feeling like it's a crap shoot.Completely agree. 1
crude Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 Maybe if a woman wants a man, she'll go after him. If not, then she's just not that into him, he's nothing special and she'd rather take the advice of sexist relationship books than go after what she wants. Women are funny when they say the woman must never go after a man; she tried it once and it didn't work. I know 40 year old women who have had dates with at least 10 men a year for 24 years, and of the 240 men, they pursued once, the men the other 239 times, yet all they remember is it didn't work when they asked a man out. They conveniently forget 40 pump and dumps, 10 married men, 20 liars, 100 no chemistry etc, all when the men were the aggressor.
joystickd Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 Chase is too strong a word. If he likes you he will show interest. 3
The_Reginald Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 You have to give an approach invitation like smiling at him.
KungFuJoe Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 Yes it's true if you want a confident and assertive man. If you're not fussy or prefer more passive men, then no, it's not true. Nothing wrong with a woman making the first move. My wife didn't wait around to see what I would do. She wanted me...she got me.
tbf Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 I just want to know that is it true that " if a guy likes her, he'll chase her" Nothing wrong with a woman making the first move. My wife didn't wait around to see what I would do. She wanted me...she got me.The above is the subject matter of this thread, as defined by the opening poster within the opening post. 1
Phantom888 Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 If a guy likes you, he will make his move. He will make sure you KNOW he likes you. He will do whatever it takes to win your affection. So it's TRUE. For those guys that are not assertive enough to "chase" you even though they like you, you have to wonder if you'll be wearing the pants if you two ever end up together. Some girls like weak guys. Some girls prefer to be the chaser. To each her own.
crude Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 If a guy likes you, he will make his move. He will make sure you KNOW he likes you. He will do whatever it takes to win your affection. So it's TRUE. For those guys that are not assertive enough to "chase" you even though they like you, you have to wonder if you'll be wearing the pants if you two ever end up together. Some girls like weak guys. Some girls prefer to be the chaser. To each her own. Many men have opted out of the dating game and prefer the friendship of other drinking and fishing buddies, so no, they won't make a move even if they like you. And just maybe the men who are so desperate for a woman that they allow themselves to be manipulated are the weak ones.
Eternal Sunshine Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 I think it's mostly true. However, if I really like someone and he is not doing anything, I all ask him out. Haven't done it much but I hate wondering "what if".
Tinie Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 To each their own. I've chased men and I've been the chaser. I prefer being chased. I found that in all the times I've chased guys (yes, it was more than once ) they weren't interested. So I wait until I get chased now. That's just my personal taste. So I agree with your statement. 1
kaylan Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 (edited) I just want to know that is it true that " if a guy likes her, he'll chase her" I don't know I've been living by that code for the past three years, if I have a crush on a guy and he doesn't approach me or make a move I try to forget about it because if he did like me he would make a move Same could be said for women. In my experience, if a chick has liked me enough, she makes it VERY obvious or she jumps on me. My lifes been 50/50. Half the time the girl makes a move. Most of the time they just beat me to the punch and I intended to make a move soon anyways. Guys have to be cautious about making moves on girls so as to not get into bad situations though.Yes it's true if you want a confident and assertive man. If you're not fussy or prefer more passive men, then no, it's not true. A lot of confident and assertive men are cautious about making first moves. Hell, some girls are just terrible at giving out signals that men should make a move. And then other times a guy is just not trying to rush things. Ive had girls jump me before, and usually its when I wanted to wait for a better moment where things felt "right". The girls just wanted to get it hot and heavy and werent much for the "right" moment. Thats chemistry I guess. Edited June 27, 2013 by kaylan 2
Maleficent Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 I just want to know that is it true that " if a guy likes her, he'll chase her" I don't know I've been living by that code for the past three years, if I have a crush on a guy and he doesn't approach me or make a move I try to forget about it because if he did like me he would make a move In theory, it's true. in practice, he may be telling himself 'If she likes me, she'll make the move'
Untouchable_Fire Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 If a guy likes you, he will make his move. He will make sure you KNOW he likes you. He will do whatever it takes to win your affection. So it's TRUE. For those guys that are not assertive enough to "chase" you even though they like you, you have to wonder if you'll be wearing the pants if you two ever end up together. Some girls like weak guys. Some girls prefer to be the chaser. To each her own. It's a lot easier to brush off rejection if you have zero emotional investment. 90% of the guys who will put the moves on you just want to get their dicks wet. If you want someone who sees more in you than a willing hole... I would suggest learning how to reciprocate flirting and interest. 1
Keenly Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 Plus, interest and liking some one in my opinion are different things. If I'm interested I'll ask the out. If I like them, I probably won't. Example : I like a girl I work with. One of the prettiest girls I've ever seen. She also has an energy, aura, and a certain grace about her. Almost like she is dancing instead of walking. I would never ask her out or pursue her, because she's an airhead. So I like her, but I'm not interested. Does that make sense ? 1
Phantom888 Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 There is one possibility that we all neglected to consider: You chase someone who was previously only mildly or not interested at all. Yes it's easy to chase someone whom you know already likes you. That's how it is done mostly. My lady "winked" at me on Match so I knew she was interested in my looks and my profile. All I had to do was chase her a little to make her mine. But sometimes you chase a person who never noticed you before, but because you are so sweet and charming (and sexy), that person's interest increases dramatically. Actually, for me, that happened quite frequently. The women don't have feelings for me until I kiss them. There must be magic in my saliva!
ltjg45 Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 If I like a woman enough to approach her, I will. The problem is "do I like her enough?". There is TONS of women that I like. I wouldn't mind talking to her, being friends with her, doing activities with her, etc etc.....however, when it comes to romantic partners, I don't want her enough to go that far. Not to mention, the attraction feeling has to be mutual. If I'm not getting a vibe from the woman telling me that she has some form of interest in me, then I'm really wasting my time in the end approaching her. People these days can get trapped with ease assuming certain things and finding out in the end it never was the case. It doesn't take much for one person to get burned in the dating game these days. However, I'm a bit shy so I rather take it slow anyway.
tbf Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 It's a lot easier to brush off rejection if you have zero emotional investment.Agreed. 90% of the guys who will put the moves on you just want to get their dicks wet. If you want someone who sees more in you than a willing hole... I would suggest learning how to reciprocate flirting and interest.This makes no sense whatsoever. As if reciprocation of flirting and interest with the same previous guys who bust out moves on you, won't make you any less a hole. If anything, it's going to make you a bigger target for more aholes.
pureinheart Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 I just want to know that is it true that " if a guy likes her, he'll chase her" I don't know I've been living by that code for the past three years, if I have a crush on a guy and he doesn't approach me or make a move I try to forget about it because if he did like me he would make a move This is the "code" I've found to be true all of my life. I think that some guys can be much more sensitive than women, and this has nothing to do with confidence. With guys that are for real and not like UF so eloquently illustrated tend to be more sensitive and cautious, not wanting to jump in too quick. Women may take this as rejection, but it's not, it's a guy with his head on straight. These types tend to not be as forward and may come off more subtle. I just want to say to the more cautious type- guys most of us women did not pass mind reading 101...if you're interested, say it.
pureinheart Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 Same could be said for women. In my experience, if a chick has liked me enough, she makes it VERY obvious or she jumps on me. My lifes been 50/50. Half the time the girl makes a move. Most of the time they just beat me to the punch and I intended to make a move soon anyways. Guys have to be cautious about making moves on girls so as to not get into bad situations though. A lot of confident and assertive men are cautious about making first moves. Hell, some girls are just terrible at giving out signals that men should make a move. And then other times a guy is just not trying to rush things. Ive had girls jump me before, and usually its when I wanted to wait for a better moment where things felt "right". The girls just wanted to get it hot and heavy and werent much for the "right" moment. Thats chemistry I guess. You're a good guy Kaylan, just wanted to say that. Ok, the girls that approached you first, did this take away from the relationship at all?
kaylan Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 You're a good guy Kaylan, just wanted to say that. Ok, the girls that approached you first, did this take away from the relationship at all? I dont see why it would. After the ball gets rolling, I never think about who made whatever move first. Im too focused on seeing where things will lead.
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