LK30 Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 (edited) Hi all, I've been seeing a girl from my office for about 2 months. She's pretty and had the most amazing personality. She's separated and has a 2 year old girl, but I really feel I've fallen on my feet. It was such a buzz, flirting and chemistry. She always compliments me and I'm very lucky. She's met my sister in law and bro, and they really like her. Trouble is, I feel like I've lost the buzz a little bit. I don't know why either. If this goes wrong then I'll know i've made a massive mistake. I can't work out what's going on. Perhaps just nerves as I'm such a worrier, but the last week or so Ive not felt as interested. Has anyone else experienced something like this whereby the honeymoon period slows down and it feels like a standard relationship? Help! Edited June 26, 2013 by LK30
CannibalQu33n Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 Maybe your getting cold feet because your nervous about meeting her daughter? Before you make an decisions, you need to think about what made you like her in the first place!
Author LK30 Posted June 26, 2013 Author Posted June 26, 2013 I've met her daughter and she's sweet. Perhaps it's the commitment thing!
Ami1uwant Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 I've met her daughter and she's sweet. Perhaps it's the commitment thing! what does "seeing her" consitute? How often outside of work? When you start to get comfortable in a relationship then the buzz/butterflies natural wears off. You are getting more comfortable/at east being around her, you are starting to feel like you can be yourself. You arent worried about what she is thinking or whats in her head. Are you a committment phobe??? I dont know. how old are you two? Do you want to be a dad all of a suddden? are you sure she is separated? Are you sure she is getting a divorce? Are you concerned about interactions with her husband? another issue here---how long had they been separated prior to you two dating? How long have they been married? This is a concern in that is she the type who needs a man to be whole? Is she just using you know for support until the divorce then ditch you?
Author LK30 Posted June 27, 2013 Author Posted June 27, 2013 Hi Ami1uwant, thanks for your reply. I'm dating her! I see her every few days outside of work. She's very enthusiastic and thinks more of me than I ever expected! Yes, she enjoys the intimacy a lot and the fact I'm nice to her which is something her last man wasn't. I thought I might be being used a little as we rarely meet without her initiating intimacy, but she's met my family and said she wants a relationship. She's treated me for my birthday too, so I can only assume she's genuinely interested in me. I'm 34, she's 33. She's been separated about 8 months. She's planning a divorce and told me she has no feelings for him. They were married 10 years. Perhaps I just feel inadequate. He earnt double what I do and very practical, so I'm starting to feel that now a lot of the buzz has died down (and we're now public knowledge as we kept it quiet) that it's a relationship. She's even told me last week she has really strong feelings for me!
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