fishtaco Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 This is why I have doubts when it comes to dating. Why would women go through the trouble of telling these lies because, in the end, that is EXACTLY what they are. Chil bro, it's just part of the dog and pony show. It is what it is. The goal is never to change women, but rather, to react to the situation, and to roll with the punches. If you know the true meaning of "I don't date" and other variations ("I don't date in this scene", etc), then what's the difference between that and a "no thank you?". The first objective of approaching a woman is always to figure out yes or no. So if you get a no, regardless of what form it comes in, is actually mission accomplished, pat yourself on the back. Now you know this is a dead end, so don't waste any more of your time/effort/money, whatever. And if this chick that told you no is still trying to hook you back in, then you know she's up to no good. What words she chooses to tell you "no" with, is actually irrelevant.
tbf Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 Wow Ok this has happened honestly I can say in the last year every time i have met a girl. The last 10 dates have all been friends zone literally?? Do i need to be a as****le? Starting to tick me off now..If you met them on a dating site where they didn't select looking for friends, then it's likely a way to avoid drama with someone they're not attracted to. If you met them in real life, asking them out, is it possible the manner in which you've asked them out might be ambiguous where they're going for coffee with a friend?
Eternal Sunshine Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 I always say that I don't date.......unless the right guy comes along
Author ssd360 Posted June 28, 2013 Author Posted June 28, 2013 Yeah about me being an a-hole that's not me as a person it was just my frustration coming to me. I know I am attractive so that is not an issue (not sounding cocky) I'm always that typical nice guy holding the door open, girls telling me im so hot and just saying thanks and being a little shy, holding car doors open for dates etc. I think the frustration of just meeting women for me then them putting me in the friends zone is just something i'd have to deal with until i meet the right match like some of you have said. It's difficult because I wonder when that will come along. I am 20 years old by the way
Southern Cal Dude Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 No one is that busy. Doctors work 80-90 hours a week and they find time. I tell people I'm not interested in that I don't have time.
Jbum5 Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 Wow Ok this has happened honestly I can say in the last year every time i have met a girl. The last 10 dates have all been friends zone literally?? Do i need to be a as****le? Starting to tick me off now.. This has got to be a joke right? You do realize that friendships can and many times do progress into a proper relationship, right? 1
pcplod Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 Yeah about me being an a-hole that's not me as a person it was just my frustration coming to me. I know I am attractive so that is not an issue (not sounding cocky) I'm always that typical nice guy holding the door open, girls telling me im so hot and just saying thanks and being a little shy, holding car doors open for dates etc. I think the frustration of just meeting women for me then them putting me in the friends zone is just something i'd have to deal with until i meet the right match like some of you have said. It's difficult because I wonder when that will come along. I am 20 years old by the way For some guys (and some girls) it can come too soon; before they are ready. So, my advice is don't sweat it. You have a looong life ahead of you unless you snuff it prematurely, at which juncture you won't give two hoots about your success or not with women. Looked at from my perspective, you are not long out of short trousers. Remember the old maxim, "Act in haste, repent at leisure". It's always been good and always will be.
phineas Posted June 29, 2013 Posted June 29, 2013 This has got to be a joke right? You do realize that friendships can and many times do progress into a proper relationship, right? I can only be friends with a woman if it starts out as just friends. After that we are just friends or we are sleeping together. PERIOD. I've had too many women friends say they want to date then say "I need to take it slow" errr.... we've been hanging out as friends for over a yr, how much slower do you want to take it? The reality is they just didn't want to lose my attention & I wound up getting led on & jerked around. They ruined perfectly good friendships. My new way establishes boundaries & i've yet to have any woman I've made friends with stop talking to me or hanging out with me after I made that clear to them. They also don't try to lead me on either which can get annoying.
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