polish26 Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 I have this problem where my ex from a year and a half ago still won't just stay gone. Usually, this wouldn't be an issue, but I'm in a good relationship now and I don't want to have to constantly run into her with my new girlfriend and make things awkward when we are just trying to see out friends. The main problem of running into her, is that I have a friend who is trying to stay in good with his ex because they hook up every now and again, so he always invites my ex to events and such... Anyone have some good advice? I don't care about running into my ex too much, but it's more of an annoyance because my girlfriend can get insecure, and I honestly want no connection with this person at all. Obviously, the previous relationship ended on a bad note, and I'm glad that it just ended either way, I'm much happier now. I kinda needed to vent because of this annoyance and would greatly appreciate some advice, or a different perspective on the situation. Thanks in advance
athousandquestions Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 From your post it sounds like she is just bumping into you guys which isn't a big deal. Is she calling/texting/contacting you? If yes, YOU NEED TO STOP REPLYING. The fact is a (sane) person will leave you alone (eventually) if you stop replying all together. I always tell my friends, if you're upset because girls are talking to your boyfriend, you need to realize that he's the one answering them. In my opinion: I'm gonna assume you're in an honest relationship with your girlfriend now. You should secure her, though it seems you are supportive and understanding to why your exes presence bothers her. If you guys are out at some event and your ex is there, hold your girlfriends hand and remove yourself from the situation ASAP. You're not trying to make your ex jealous - you are securing and telling your girlfriend you don't want anything to do with your ex and are walking away. Other than small things like that there is nothing you can do. Your girlfriend should not be overly upset about bumping into this ex occasionally, as long as that's the only contact you're having with her.
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