figuringitoutx Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 Alright, I need some advice about this situation so here goes: My ex and I were together for a little over 2 years, he broke up with me a year ago for reasons I don't really remember, I think at the time, looking back, we were both too young & immature to be in such a serious relationship fresh out of high school, and looking back on me, I was a total pain, I wanted too much, there was a death in his family, etc, and so he ended. Fast forward a year later, and we've been NC for about 11 months or so (the first month I was grieving and kept emailing him and such, but I ended that.) I've blocked him from facebook and deleted his number out of my phone, etc and things have been fine, I've seen a few other guys and while I've not had a relationship again, my life is finally coming into place and I'm becoming the person I want to be. However, about a month ago, my appendix ruptured and I had to go in for surgery, I was there for a week after my first surgery but wasn't responding to the meds so I had a second surgery after that, I was in the hospital for about a month in total. My family and friends were super good about being there, but one night nobody was there and I was alone and scared and made a bit of a mistake, I called my ex. He didn't come and visit or anything, but we talked and he asked if I'd like to grab a cup of coffee once I was feeling up to it and when he got back from his trip to Spain. I agreed and then we hung up. (I don't remember much of this conversation, I was a bit doped up on pain medications at the time.) I have since been released and I haven't spoken to him, however I've been thinking a lot about him and there you go. My question is, do I go out to coffee with him or do I just ignore the situation and keep moving on? My ex is somebody that I would really like in my life as he was a big part of it for such a long period (Upwards of 4 years.) but at the same time, we've been NC for so long and I'm moving on. I have no idea what to do. Any advice?
inaya42 Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 why not wait until he comes back and see if he contacts you to follow up, and then decide what you'd like to do. actions are the best indicator of intentions... do NOT under any circumstances follow up with him. it has been a year, so it may not feel like the most natural thing in the world to catch up. at the same time, you were in the hospital. so wait and see...
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