sweets21 Posted October 16, 2004 Posted October 16, 2004 I'm 21 yrs old with a 3 yr old son and i just recently miscarried. My husband cheated on me last yr and gv me chlamedia. I gave him another chance because I love him and because of our son & financial resposibilities. When I found out I was pregnant I was also advised that I have herpes. My husband swears he did not cheat again, and the dr sd it was possible that he was exposed to this a while back & i just now had a break out. I am so sick of this, I just don't know what to do anymore. I have no family to rely on and I had to push so hard to overcome all of those difficult obsticles of being a young pregnant teen. Everything we have is because we both worked hard to get it. We are buying a home, car and lots of other things are financed. If I leave him I know that 1. I will be sooo lonley & 2. I just cannot afford to leave. It's not just the fact that I don't trust him anymore, it is also the fact that he drinks too much. When he drinks he leaves the house & comes home late. Also it has been during these times that he has told me he only married me because of me getting pregnant. When he is not drunk he tells me that he does care about me but he honestly regrets me getting pregnant. Don't get me wrong he loves my son to death. But i guess in his heart he wishes we never met. I think he had his mind set on being somewhere else at this point in his life. But I know I can't make it on my own- everything is in my name and i don't want to ruin my credit. Without his financial support i cannot afford to make it on my own and i hate to have to start over again. He also has been violent with me in the past. I would love to speak to a counselor but I just can't afford it. Does anyone out there have any advice??
SoleMate Posted October 16, 2004 Posted October 16, 2004 Sweets21, your story is so sad. You definitely need lots of support. Please look for free or low-cost resources in your community - churches, public mental health, social work, women's shelters, etc. You are both under a lot of stress because of the early marriage. Your husband is stressed too. He chooses destructive coping mechanisms like drinking, cheating and domestic violence. It is possible that if he had counseling and treatment, you could have a happy marriage. But you need professional support - you must get it. Go without electricity for a month if you have to - it's that important. Good luck!
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