wafflesaregood Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 So long story short a girl ive known for a year- long distance, she's been my girlfriend for a month. we liked eachother alot. We would talk for 7hrs a day the first few weeks. We sexted, and she genuinely liked me. I could tell we were like obsessed with each other and really cared. I actually love this girl to death, but i don't want to get hurt. I ended up being retarded and telling her friend's boyfriend that his girlfriend was cheating on her. (not mine but the other guys) because she was trying to get my girlfriend to hate me and stuff. Everything was fine for a week or so, but now she ignores me. Barely talks to me. no longer says she loves me. Ill write her a long ass paragraph of meaningful stuff and she will be like AW, whereas she used to be like I love you and so and so. It sucks for me because I applied to a college where she lives, and now im regretting it somewhat. I feel like she has no feelings anymore. She also hung out with her 'bestfriend' and facetimed him instead of me, when she knew i was available to facetime. she also hung out with him one day and when i asked what happened she said nothing. After bugging her about it for a while she finally admitted that he kissed her on the cheek but she said no. DO i believe this? Hardly. And on top of it all about a week ago her mom sat her down and talked about how like she shouldn't focus on one guy, because she has other things to do. So in conclusion, im assuming she just doesn't like me anymore? Our relationship feels like it did a 180. Anyone have advice or something? What do you think the deal is.
hoping2heal Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 Was the girl who's boyfriend you told, actually cheating on her boyfriend or was that a lie?
Carenth Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 You told her friends boyfriend that she was cheating on him... why the hell would you do that? I'm assuming you made this up and had no actual basis for saying this? I'm going to assume you are very young, you seem to have some jealously issues. She admitted he kissed her on the check then said no? Which one is it. Either way, have you actually met this girl? From what you have posted it seem like you haven't please correct me if I'm wrong. If you have never met her before how do you know if you will even get along in person in real life? What you have in your head if this is a the case is a girl you have created in your own imagination. You only know parts about her and fill in the blanks with whatever your mind comes up with. That is why I find it very hard to believe people are in relationships if they have never met in person. More like a fantasy relationship until they meet. Either way I think you have blown it. For future record don't do the following. A) Don't be possessive and jealous. A big no no. B) Don't scorn her friends even if you don't like them. It's a very good way to get on your partners bad side is to bad mouth her friends or family.
TaraMaiden Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 So long story short a girl ive known for a year- long distance, she's been my girlfriend for a month. we liked eachother alot. We would talk for 7hrs a day the first few weeks. We sexted, and she genuinely liked me. I could tell we were like obsessed with each other and really cared. I actually love this girl to death, but i don't want to get hurt. I ended up being retarded and telling her friend's boyfriend that his girlfriend was cheating on her. (not mine but the other guys) because she was trying to get my girlfriend to hate me and stuff. Everything was fine for a week or so, but now she ignores me. Barely talks to me. no longer says she loves me. Ill write her a long ass paragraph of meaningful stuff and she will be like AW, whereas she used to be like I love you and so and so. It sucks for me because I applied to a college where she lives, and now im regretting it somewhat. I feel like she has no feelings anymore. She also hung out with her 'bestfriend' and facetimed him instead of me, when she knew i was available to facetime. she also hung out with him one day and when i asked what happened she said nothing. After bugging her about it for a while she finally admitted that he kissed her on the cheek but she said no. DO i believe this? Hardly. And on top of it all about a week ago her mom sat her down and talked about how like she shouldn't focus on one guy, because she has other things to do. So in conclusion, im assuming she just doesn't like me anymore? Our relationship feels like it did a 180. Anyone have advice or something? What do you think the deal is. How old are you guys? 16? 19?
CherryT Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 (edited) I don't think it's ever healthy, LDR or not, to be "obsessive" over someone. Sure, you may love them a lot, but obsessive seems very unhealthy. You played a game and it came back to bite you. You went for "revenge" and you created a uncomfortable situation with her inner circle. You are not around her all the time and you tried to sabotage the relationships she has locally... whether it was true or not, it wasn't your place to say. Unless you are extremely close with her friends boyfriend, I wouldn't have said anything. If she told you that these people were trying to turn her off of your relationship, but her actions shows that you were more important and not listening to them, why would you try and get revenge on these people? A lot of times people talk and give advise on things they know nothing about. This may be a lesson for you and unfortunately your relationship may have been the cost. Edited June 26, 2013 by CherryT
TaraMaiden Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 OP, perhaps it would help if you came back with a little more than monosyllabic answers.... "Yeah, she did"..... what? 1
amayana Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 I think he's referring to hoping2heal's question. That would make the most sense, at least.
Author wafflesaregood Posted June 29, 2013 Author Posted June 29, 2013 (edited) I think he's referring to hoping2heal's question. That would make the most sense, at least. Yeah I was. And an update- she did cheat on me with the guy. She told me he just kissed her on the cheek and she backed off and said no, but I saw a picture of her letting the guy kiss her. Yeah I know it isn't cheating like having intercourse, but I mean it is still the same thing. Cheating is cheating. Not to mention for all I know she very well could have done more. Like I will honestly ever know. Anyways, honestly do not know what to do really at this point. I hardly have any trust for her, or any person that can go from saying I love you forever to someone everyday, and then act like how she has and move onto another guy, but still say she loves me. She says she loves me and means it this time and we can go back to the way we used to, but I can barely trust her, and the only way to trust her anymore is be controlling and have her FB/other ****. And also tell her to not talk to any guys whatsoever, because I mean, I can't trust her for **** right now obviously. I just wanted an answer so I was blunt about it. Asked her whether to choose me or the other guy, and she said she had to think about it.. so I mean obviously she does not care enough. Any person that cared wouldn't have to ponder on something like that. Oh well, just another person I can't trust. Also friends influence people like crazy. Sometimes the friends make the decisions for the person rather than them self. That's partially what happened here. Edited June 29, 2013 by wafflesaregood
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