LilGirlandOW Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 So in an effort to get over said MM, I decided to give in and give my phone number to an old friend, we lost touch over time, but i saw him add me on facebook, lol, with a sweet message so i thought lets see So we spoke back n forth for a handful of days, and went as far to make a date.... then i see a post pop up on his FB, a girl with a sweet message, click on her profile and shes listed as in a relationship with my friend, Its been a long while since i've been in the dating game, but i dont know about all this,, i immediatly went NC with said old friend,, not opening up that can EVER again, EVER!! Is this what datings like these days? wow.
Author LilGirlandOW Posted June 26, 2013 Author Posted June 26, 2013 p.s. new friend claimed to be single and has no relationship status on facebook, good thing i'm nosey, lol 1
skywriter Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 Wow, LilGirl, That's depressing. Sorry that happened, but don't lose faith. Hey, I've heard that you find someone when you aren't looking! 1
JustAReformedGirl Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 In this case, it really did pay off to be nosey. It's unfortunate that he proved to be untrustworthy. I'm sure you'll find someone single soon, though. Just keep your head held high, smile, and roll with the punches. Being confident tends to attract people rather quickly. 1
yessy21 Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 WOW. Some people have no respect for their SO or Others in that retrospect. If they want to see other people why be in a relationship. ITS NOT THAT HARD>
Pierre Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 So in an effort to get over said MM, I decided to give in and give my phone number to an old friend, we lost touch over time, but i saw him add me on facebook, lol, with a sweet message so i thought lets see So we spoke back n forth for a handful of days, and went as far to make a date.... then i see a post pop up on his FB, a girl with a sweet message, click on her profile and shes listed as in a relationship with my friend, Its been a long while since i've been in the dating game, but i dont know about all this,, i immediatly went NC with said old friend,, not opening up that can EVER again, EVER!! Is this what datings like these days? wow. Why the change in strategy? Are you trying to different? I applaud you for being smart this time around.
Author LilGirlandOW Posted June 26, 2013 Author Posted June 26, 2013 First off, I'm not a serial OW, lol. Also my friend asked me for my number which i usually dont give out, cause of being married for 10yrs, then into the A i was monogamous. This time around, so to speak I'm going full out P.I. mode I never wanna be the OW again. That being said I just came home from a nice walk with my MM, the cycle's never done, although I felt the perfect oout is coming along, she (the BS) is watching him like a hawk lately I guess, he says she doesnt "trust him" (wow) and they're fighting alot about his pending transfer, so I feel like this distraction is a great time to take today and tonight and muster up some way to tell him, as much as I love him, and I do alot, that maybe we need to cool things off. Side note: About people dating in their league comment, like looks wise, that bothered me beyond belief, lol, so I asked my cousin who knows him in passing but not of our A, if she thought he was good looking, and she gave me the weirdest face and said f*%k no, are you kidding me!! I guess love is blind cause i still think he's the best. So yeah
Author LilGirlandOW Posted June 26, 2013 Author Posted June 26, 2013 ohhh, how would this play out, lol. My MM has an amazingly SINGLE and younger, very good-looking friend, wonder how it would go if I asked him to set us up? his friend doesnt know about our R, and i know the "dont date his friend rule" but does that apply to your "secret OW"?
Sarabi Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 ohhh, how would this play out, lol. My MM has an amazingly SINGLE and younger, very good-looking friend, wonder how it would go if I asked him to set us up? his friend doesnt know about our R, and i know the "dont date his friend rule" but does that apply to your "secret OW"? Erm technically can he get mad or upset? You are single...the friend is single... Unless he wants to date you why would he be angry? Although I dunno...maybe drop some heavy hints and ask questions about the friend...but then he might try to put you off him Hmmmmmm....
Author LilGirlandOW Posted June 26, 2013 Author Posted June 26, 2013 (edited) he gets jealous and is rather "posessive" and considers me, his. he calls himself my boyfriend and me his girlfriend. like i said before its like a real R.... mostly obviously lol Edited June 26, 2013 by LilGirlandOW
Praying4Peace Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 he gets jealous and is rather "posessive" and considers me, his. he calls himself my boyfriend and me his girlfriend. like i said before its like a real R.... mostly obviously lol Totally go for the friend. MM being 'mad or jealous' is just an extra bonus. As for the 'don't date your ex's friend' RULE, he kinda got rid of all the rules when he broke the 'don't date while married' rule. This would be perfect Karma. Don't ask him to set you up, just ask for his contact info (he won't give it to you) or establish contact yourself. Your MM sounds like the type to bad mouth you to prevent you from being with anyone else. LOL @ **** No!! to the 'good looking' comment.
Author LilGirlandOW Posted June 26, 2013 Author Posted June 26, 2013 lol yes my cousin doesnt hold back lol. i havnt even dealt with that in my head. hahah yeah the MMfriend is a great guy and single!!!
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