BanditK Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 I’m just really wondering what my ex is thinking. I broke up with her about 6 months ago because I just felt something was a miss and my best friend ditched on hanging out with us because she (the best friend) said I wasn’t myself when my gf was around. I tried to win her back but she turned me down 2-3 times. After awhile, we agreed to be friends and she began to warm back up a bit. We made plans to go out on dates and try to “rediscover” the magic. Then she moved to take a new job and basically told me she didn’t want to be tied to “us.” The last thing I texted her was that I always felt something was a miss with us. Since the episode, friends and family have come forward and all expressed that I wasn’t myself when the girl was around. I was subdued and reserved because she would get mad otherwise. Last night, she texts my mom with her new number and makes small chit chat. I haven’t heard from her in three weeks. What the heck gives? P.S. I was thinking about writing her a letter to basically tie up the loose ends and at least put a good spin on it. I tried way to hard at the end and even became a bit crazy, obsessive and the like with trying to get her back. I figured she fought hard at one time, so I would fight hard in return. BAD IDEA!!!!!! Is writing the letter to say sorry for my actions a bad idea as well?
SimonSerenade Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 That sounds like a crazy situation man, it could make anyone bonkers, everybody makes mistakes when a relationship ends, let me emphasise that, EVER-YBO-DY, I'm pretty sure even Brad Pit was on his knees for a woman at one time or another, it's human nature for most of us softies, I'm sure she'll one day forget your attempts so you might as well forget them too, if writing her that letter makes you feel better then do it but don't do it for her satisfaction, do it as a way of bringing closure to your soul, loose ends are over rated and in my experience, some times some things are just plain better left unsaid.
D-Lish Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 My advice? Write the letter, don't send it...yet. Getting it out on paper can be a therapeutic exercise. Give yourself a chance to read it over, revamp it, and reflect on it. I've written many of those in my past that I've never sent- but it helped to write it regardless. Puts things into perspective.
Oldcatskinner Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 I feel your pain, and struggled with that thought as well. If you did anything you were ashamed of and that could mentally or emotionally harm her, then an apology letter would be in order. Note a letter, and not an email or most certainly not a text. But be sure that your heart and mind are in sync when you do this; women have an uncanny knack of seeing past any fronts you may be putting on as well as sensing motives other than an apology. Best wishes.
Author BanditK Posted June 27, 2013 Author Posted June 27, 2013 Thanks for the replies everyone. She was an a amazing girl and treated me well but I always felt like I stayed with her because I didn't want to make the mistake of cutting her loose. Now, after trying all these things to win her back, I kinda feel like I did. I will write the letter and probably not send it. I gather from me not getting her new number that she doesn't wish to speak to me anymore. Correct?
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