NYCGuy22 Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 (edited) Someone please tell me that this eventually gets easier. In a 6 year relationship and we have been broken up for 3 weeks. For the first week, I was a mess - emailing, texting, etc. Then I would be fine for a few days. Then back to being a mess with the emailing. Starting last week, I was actually able to go NC for 5 days and then something happened. I saw a picture of her with another guy on FB that a mutual friend posted. I became a mess again. I texted her asking how she could be so insensitive, disrespectful, etc - and how much I loved her, etc. She basically told me that I needed to move on and that she checked out long ago. She claims that she is not trying to hurt me, but that I need to forget about her. It is so hard to do that because I am still so much in love. How can someone just turn off feelings like a light switch and act like you meant nothing to them? I told her that I would respect her wishes and disappear but I'm not sure that I can. I already want to reach out this morning to apologize. She has done a ton of cruel things to me in the last couple months, but I can't stop loving her. Can anyone give me some advice? How can I just get her out of my mind? 6 years is a long time to just let someone go. Edited June 26, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
theonlyjuan Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 Either lose Facebook or hide news feed from her and all mutual friends. You have to either try and do things to take your mind off her or think about the things that were bad about her. You will soon accept that it's defiantly over and she's moved on. You will do the same one day. I don't know when, everyone is different
lexxxxxy Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 i know exactly how u feel my ex ended up cheating on me after almost 6 years and we have been on no contact for 4 months now and i really don't think i will hear from her again.. you just need to stay positive and tell yourself that shes not the one and that there will be good times ahead and you even may meet someone that's better.. i know how hard it is after all that time im still a wreck from time to time
SimonSerenade Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 Unfortunately she's living her life, there's nothing you can do about that, it's hard to accept but some things are out of your hands, I know how you feel, it's hard seeing somebody you love and so familiar with move on like that when it looks so easy for them, it does get better and it will, bit by bit that pain you feel as soon as you wake and that heart ache you feel all the long day will subside, this isn't your fault and for most people it's nothing personal, try to understand that and move on, it doesn't matter who see with or who she's with now, the only thing that matters is you keep yourself well and stick to the healing path. I really am sorry your going through this, 6 years is a long time to treat somebody like that and leave, she probably didn't mean what she said or did, people who feel trapped in a relationships tend to lash out and push their partner away, maybe one day she will apologise for that, for your same I hope she does, try to forgive her and understand she did what was right for her at the time and only time will tell if it was the right choice.
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