kitty2013 Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 I've been seeing this guy for 3 months. I really like him, we text everyday, talk on the phone every other day and see each other once maybe twice a week. He's told me he doesn't want a relationship, but wants to still see me. He has promised that I'm the only girl he's seeing and sleeping with. I believe him. I want more in this "relationship" I want the commitment from him. If I continue to see him, will it blend into a relationship naturally?
ses Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 (edited) Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but a relationship will never materialize. Take off the rose-tinted glasses. He may be a swell guy and an amazing lover, but he's not boyfriend material. He's already made his position clear, and you need to respect it. He already gets what he wants from you, and your passiveness only encourages and perpetuates this unequal dynamic. How can you trust someone who won't even make you his GF after 3 months? Drop the guy now. Have some self-respect, and find a guy who will offer you commitment and exclusivity. Hold out on the sex the next time to weed out the ones just looking for some sexytime, and get to know the guys. I would get the heck out of this FWB arrangement ASAP since you're already so emotionally invested. You need to limit the bleeding. Seriously, I lived it. I hooked up with a guy a few months ago expecting it would turn into a relationship since we both liked each other. We had fun, and then he broke contact. Never heard from him again. You can't change him. Just let him go. Edited June 26, 2013 by ses
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