Seph-66 Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 We've recently discovered we're pregnant. However that's not the issue. I should first detail our situation. She's moved out, lives in another town not too far away temporarily (before we found out she was pregnant ) so that we can better save money for a new apartment since we lived with a room mate along with my gfs 3 year old daughter. Now, however, after a visit she has been awefully cold, blaming lack of communication on bad cell service even though it was fine previously. I find myself waitinf for hours for messages or calls, and am expected to answer on cue myself to her. She claims nothing is wrong and that she's just tired and the bad cell service, though my gut is telling me otherwise. Friends say she might be going through the pregnancy motions, others that it's definetely odd. Im not entirely sure myself, I barely even get a simple goodnight, instead just silence. Her texts have been awefully brief and less to them in general. More or less like she doesn't want to talk at all, meanwhile i gonout of my way to take care of every need or want she has. I could also just be worrying myself. Any opinions? Perhaps a tip or two? Please? Lol
JustAReformedGirl Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 We've recently discovered we're pregnant. However that's not the issue. I should first detail our situation. She's moved out, lives in another town not too far away temporarily (before we found out she was pregnant ) so that we can better save money for a new apartment since we lived with a room mate along with my gfs 3 year old daughter. Now, however, after a visit she has been awefully cold, blaming lack of communication on bad cell service even though it was fine previously. I find myself waitinf for hours for messages or calls, and am expected to answer on cue myself to her. She claims nothing is wrong and that she's just tired and the bad cell service, though my gut is telling me otherwise. Friends say she might be going through the pregnancy motions, others that it's definetely odd. Im not entirely sure myself, I barely even get a simple goodnight, instead just silence. Her texts have been awefully brief and less to them in general. More or less like she doesn't want to talk at all, meanwhile i gonout of my way to take care of every need or want she has. I could also just be worrying myself. Any opinions? Perhaps a tip or two? Please? Lol My guess is the pregnancy hormones may very well be intensifying things a great deal, but it does kind of sound like she's holding something back. What that may be is hard to say. Why not give us a brief history of the relationship? Perhaps something in that can bring the issues to light.
Author Seph-66 Posted June 26, 2013 Author Posted June 26, 2013 1). Is there any possibility the child might not be yours? 2). Was this a planned pregancy or accidental? Her actions could very well be due to pregnancy hormones however you need to have an frank, honest discussion and voice your concerns in detail as soon as possible. If there is a possibility the child isn't yours, well...it would explain a lot. I could honestly believe the child is mine. However many men have made that mistake lol. But I honestly do not think that it's someone else's. Between conception date and recalling certain events I can be sure it is in fact mine. I haven't had an issue with infedelity before with jer, and like I said, this just spontaneously happened over the last weekend. Friday-Sunday was fine til Sunday afternoon things seemed odd and she basically took off without much of a goodbye.
Author Seph-66 Posted June 26, 2013 Author Posted June 26, 2013 My guess is the pregnancy hormones may very well be intensifying things a great deal, but it does kind of sound like she's holding something back. What that may be is hard to say. Why not give us a brief history of the relationship? Perhaps something in that can bring the issues to light. Well its a young relationship, she has a history of breaking things off quickly ( hot headed red head lol) We've had several occurances of break ups, back and forth, none at all recently. I can't say I'm innocent, but we do love each other. She's had a hard time meeting my parents which she never did until recently, over a year later. She wanted the baby, with me, and it was mutual. She went through the motions of worry and panic , doubt etc but we talked it through. It mainly stemmed from her mothers negativity of the situation being as the father from her first pregnancy screwed off and isn't around at all. Brief but the nutshell. Still seems to have spawned from nowhere though.
JustAReformedGirl Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 Her natural hot-headedness, coupled with the pregnancy hormones (which at this point, may be fluctuating a great deal more than they were earlier on) might be the reason for her sudden change from mildly irritable, to full-blown. That's not to say there's nothing specific upsetting her. It could be a whole plethora of things. -Due to some of the hot and cold moments in the relationship, she may be feeling insecure, worrying about the stability between you. -This is attached to the above point. The fact that she was abandoned during her pregnancy with her first child may be flaring up, now that she is once again pregnant. -You two are living apart, correct? Is there anything that might be stressing her out where she's currently living? Do you think that living apart might be the issue, or do you feel that after spending a fair bit of time with her, she might be desiring some space? Hopefully with time, she will open up to you about what's going on. After all, you clearly want to be there for her and your child-to-be as much as possible, and you're willing to do whatever you need to in order to accomplish that.
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