VictorPanteleev Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 Hi guys/girls, my name is Victor (probably already figured that out from my username ). To be absolutely honest I was feeling very depressed and found that site (I'm sure I'll become very active here, as I consider myself a romantic person). Read some of the posts in here and probably I don't deserve the attention, but still will feel better if I lay my soul. So long story short - there was this girl. Well she didn't wanted anything serious with me, just sexual desires. But the problem is I'm not guy. So we were together for a short period of time before she told me the truth (well not the whole truth, had to find that out from my friends ). She hooked up with most of my friends. I got over that and thought I hate her. Now I have this very close friend that I think she's fouling into her webs. Well probably my fault, because I'm too ashamed to tell him the full story. I'm sure that if he knew exactly how I feel would't become close with her. So my ache is that I still feel something towards her but not sure what exactly, and that if my friend becomes too close with her, I'll lose a very good friend, and still I don't want to put myself over her. So any ideas what to do? Thank you!
StrongLass Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 But the problem is I'm not guy. I'm assuming that you meant "I'm not that kind of guy" & that that's just a typo So we were together for a short period of time before she told me the truth (well not the whole truth, had to find that out from my friends ). She hooked up with most of my friends. During or before you two were an item? Now I have this very close friend that I think she's fouling into her webs. Well probably my fault, because I'm too ashamed to tell him the full story. I'm sure that if he knew exactly how I feel would't become close with her. Then why not tell him & let him decide for himself once he has ALL the information about the situation? So my ache is that I still feel something towards her but not sure what exactly, Then you're probably not 100% over whatever you had with her. and that if my friend becomes too close with her, I'll lose a very good friend, and still I don't want to put myself over her. Who are you referring to here? Your friend or your ex? If you're referring to your friend then telling him WOULD be looking out for him. If you're referring to your ex....wtf?
Author VictorPanteleev Posted June 26, 2013 Author Posted June 26, 2013 I'm assuming that you meant "I'm not that kind of guy" & that that's just a typo Yes a typo. During or before you two were an item? Talked to my friends after we broke up. Then why not tell him & let him decide for himself once he has ALL the information about the situation? I don't want to put him in a situation where he must choose, between me and her Who are you referring to here? Your friend or your ex? If you're referring to your friend then telling him WOULD be looking out for him. If you're referring to your ex....wtf? Referring to my friend. I'm sure we will become distant, because I know I'll feel much hatred towards both of them. I mean his a really good friend and if I tell him I have the least of a doubt that I have feeling toward my ex he'll never speak with her again. But still maybe she is the right for him, I don't know, I don't want to be the reason for their screw up. I just don't know what to do. And sorry for my english it's not my primary language.
StrongLass Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 I don't want to put him in a situation where he must choose, between me and her If you'll feel "much hatred" toward both of them if they decide to get together then the only healthy thing you'll be able to do at that point is go MIA for a while, or at least until they break up (which will probably happen if she's been bouncing between all your other friends) I mean his a really good friend and if I tell him I have the least of a doubt that I have feeling toward my ex he'll never speak with her again. But still maybe she is the right for him I don't know about you, but I never encourage anyone I consider a "really good friend" to get with a person whom I KNOW has already slept with/ broken the heart of everyone else I know. And sorry for my english it's not my primary language. That's alright, I just wanted to be sure I had it all straight. 1
Author VictorPanteleev Posted June 26, 2013 Author Posted June 26, 2013 Thanks. Will consider talking to him.
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