gypsy25 Posted October 16, 2004 Posted October 16, 2004 Hey, I was hoping I could get some feedback on this one.....I have been dating someone for 3 months now and we just recently broke up about 3 days ago. I am 21 and he's 25. Anyway, I really care about this guy and was completely enjoying his company but I confronted him on the topic of commitment and he told me that he's not looking for that right now. His excuse was that he didn't want to get attached to anyone at this point in his life and his lifestyle is not conducive to having a committed relationship and it wouldn't be fair to me because he couldn't give me all I needed. Well, I basically told him that I needed more than that and I was starting to have very strong feelings for him, which he said he knew, and I didn't want to delve in any deeper because I didn't want to get hurt (I've been hurt badly in the past by guys). So anyway, I told him it would be better if I didn't see him anymore and I told him not to call me and I took all of the stuff I had in his apartment out and I left and haven't talked to him since. Al right so here are my dilemmas at this point. The first is that he and I work in the same industry and we have mutual connections, friends and contacts and we will probably be working together alot in the future, in fact we are going to be working together for 2 weeks straight in about a week and half, so I have no idea how I'm going to deal with that, and secondly, I think I jumped the gun on breaking up with him because in all honesty, I don't really want a commitment from him but I have had so many bad experienced with men in the past that I think I sabotaged it and ended so I wouldn't let him hurt me first. Does this make any sense? I am wondering if I should call him and tell him that I made a big mistake and am happy with the way things are and I want to keep seeing him because I enjoy his company. What do you think his reaction will be? I could use any advice on how to get him back at this point. Thanks so much =)
SoleMate Posted October 16, 2004 Posted October 16, 2004 If you truly can have a casual, fun relationship with him, then I think it's OK to call. But don't be surprised if he questions you on your about-face.
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