aliveagain Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 Zoro, this is why I am having a hard time with her story. During my life I dated two women that worked in the bar scene. One for two months while she was in between jobs and the other for two years, she owned a temporary air brush tattoo business which evolved hiring very attractive women to spray tattoo's on people in the clubs. Never, not once did they ever take a change of cloths to work with them, they always came home wearing the same clothing regardless of how much alcohol they had spilled on them. Please don't take this the wrong way because I know you really want to believe her but this is my take on things. I think that your wife became friendly with one of the regulars at the club. I think in conversations with him she told him that it was her birthday on New Years Eve and they arranged something for after work. She had to agree to meet him, that explains the change of cloths. Even your show of love(bringing her a cake on her birthday which would melt most women's hearts on this site) wasn't enough to change her plans. Bar people always know of the most amazing after hours parties(specially on New Years Eve) and I think she and OM went to one of these parties. Why else would a young, newly married mother(married 3 years or less) would choose to stay out on New Years Eve, and her birthday with a stranger and in a cold car doing lines of coke instead of being with the people she loves. I am always with people I love on birthdays and holidays, that was your child's first New Years Eve was it not? You don't have all the truth my friend, book the polygraph, see what she does.
Goodbye Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 Yes her story from all those years ago was odd. Doesn't sound like EITHER of you was hanging with the good crowd, you know? Years have passed, kids have been raised and you are still obsessed with this. Go ahead and demand she take a polygraph IF it will make you feel better. IF. Somehow I suspect that no matter what the results suggest, you'll not be able to put this to rest. I'd suggest IC for your own obsessive tendencies. Then a divorce, since it sounds like trust is a huge issue. Good luck.
Untouchable_Fire Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 The way I see it this guy does everything you would expect a guy to do in 'picking up' a Cocktail Waitress - and then, after successfuly getting alone with her -- makes no attempt to even try anything? This is not the type of action you would expect from a 22 year-old, single, male alone with a young Cocktail Waitress for 3 hours in the middle of the night! Crap... Look she clearly isn't being truthful even 32 years later. It's not going to happen... she isn't going to tell you the truth. Either book yourself into some professional counseling to get past it... or dump her and get past her. Personally, I would have done the latter about 30 years ago. 1
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