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Hey guys,

 

So I casually met this guy at the bar last night and we hit it off pretty nicely. We were laughing and talking, found a lot of similarities between us, flirted a little, etc. He's 29 and a teacher.

 

He asks for my number and I give it and he texts me last night for about an hour or so. I find him on facebook and see that he has a bunch of pictures with the same girl, including his profile picture. I then asked him "Oh, I thought you said you were single" and his response was "I am, I've just been talking to this one girl for a little over a month. I'd like to take you out sometime though."

 

Though I see it from the guy's perspective that he's not in a relationship with her... he's pretty much in a relationship with her. The fact that he's tagged her in a bunch of statuses and has a bunch of pics up, including his profile picture (advertisement), tells me that obviously he's somewhat invested in her. I've been that girl before and I just think it's kinda wrong... if I came into the picture she would probably be hurt. He also hasn't actually accepted my friend request. I know social media can be meaningless but still.

 

I don't find an issue with seeing/casually dating a few people at the same time, but I feel like I wouldn't advertise any of it unless I was becoming serious with them. Just seems a little shady to me, no? Actually reminds me a whole lot of my ex who was actually talking to/seeing other girls while we were in a relationship and of which I had no idea until it was too late. Not that I care, don't know this guy much from Joe Shmoe on the street, but wondering if this is normal for guys or if I'm right to see it as a red flag?

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From what I've seen guys either have pictures with a bunch of different girls on facebook just to show that they are popular (this is mainly college behavior though) or only have pics of themselves or themselves and their buddies. If a guy has a picture with the same girl over and over (ESPECIALLY PROFILE PIC) then that has to be his g/f (or so she thinks). And he hasn't accepted ur friend request yet? Fishy.

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From what I've seen guys either have pictures with a bunch of different girls on facebook just to show that they are popular (this is mainly college behavior though) or only have pics of themselves or themselves and their buddies. If a guy has a picture with the same girl over and over (ESPECIALLY PROFILE PIC) then that has to be his g/f (or so she thinks). And he hasn't accepted ur friend request yet? Fishy.

 

My thoughts exactly. Thank you!

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HUGE red flag. Guys ESPECIALLY do not put up pictures & statuses with the same girl over and over again unless they happen to be best friends, OR are somewhat invested in one another, even if not a "girlfriend" officially. He's not going to be so quick to share so many photos/tags of a girl that he's just casually dating.

 

She's obviously not a best friend. I'm sure the poor girl has the impression that they're headed towards something more exclusive, or that maybe there IS exclusivity at the moment, given his facebook posts.

 

If he did it to her, he'd probably do the same to you. He sounds like a shady character in my opinion, I'd leave it alone.

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HUGE red flag. Guys ESPECIALLY do not put up pictures & statuses with the same girl over and over again unless they happen to be best friends, OR are somewhat invested in one another, even if not a "girlfriend" officially. He's not going to be so quick to share so many photos/tags of a girl that he's just casually dating.

 

She's obviously not a best friend. I'm sure the poor girl has the impression that they're headed towards something more exclusive, or that maybe there IS exclusivity at the moment, given his facebook posts.

 

If he did it to her, he'd probably do the same to you. He sounds like a shady character in my opinion, I'd leave it alone.

 

Yup, not really interested at this point. Plus, I've been that girl so would never want another girl to have to go through it. Thanks again guys.

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