may_girl Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 (edited) Hi all! It has been 5 months since my ex left me. We were together for 3.5 years. We haven't had a conversation for about 3 months, which ended with us saying it is best for us to go NC for the time being - it was a pretty harsh break up as he left me for someone else. Anyway I am asking you guys your opinion about this issue; a friend of mine told me recently my ex has deleted all the pictures of us he had as his profile pictures. Not only that, he has deleted the ones even associated with events we did together, or ones that I have taken. Don't get me wrong - I deleted photos of us two and untagged myself in them, but pretty soon after we broke up. Why has he left it so long and why delete ones that I am not even in? I don't see as he is hurting - is this his way of wiping me out of his life for good? Edited June 25, 2013 by may_girl
Own Worst Enemy Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 he misses you so badly that he can't bear to see them, to he has a new girlfriend, and she can't bear to see them, and anything in between. the point is - and you knew someone was going to say this! - you don't know, and you can't guess. you'll drive yourself crazy pondering it, and it's just not worth it. who cares what he puts on fb? not you. it's not your life. i'd tell your friend not to give you any more such "helpful" little updates if i were you. that ****'ll set you way back!
Author may_girl Posted June 25, 2013 Author Posted June 25, 2013 Yes, you are probably right. It is always one of those things you wonder about though, I wouldn't like to think he wants to wipe out every evidence of me though. I deleted them all because I was hurting and didn't want to be reminded. I suppose it is a normal thing, it's probably odd for someone to keep photos up when they were a couple with someone they are no longer with.
aloneinaz Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 You shouldn't care why, what or how he's thinking. You're in his past and vis versa. He's moved on w/his life and you need to do the same. As far as the pictures go, why keep them? It's a failed relationship. I've wondered about this whole concept of what pictures to keep and what to throw away or delete since my divorce. I have photo albums of me and my ex wife. I don't look at them at all. The same goes with the home movies. I don't throw them out because my kids may want them someday. When my ex of 1.5 years and I broke up, I blocked her on Facebook immediantly and deleted ALL PICTURES of her. The same went for my phone. GONE. I just couldn't see any value in wanted to look at these pictures a couple years down the road. What's the point? 1
JustAReformedGirl Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 Hi all! It has been 5 months since my ex left me. We were together for 3.5 years. We haven't had a conversation for about 3 months, which ended with us saying it is best for us to go NC for the time being - it was a pretty harsh break up as he left me for someone else. Anyway I am asking you guys your opinion about this issue; a friend of mine told me recently my ex has deleted all the pictures of us he had as his profile pictures. Not only that, he has deleted the ones even associated with events we did together, or ones that I have taken. Don't get me wrong - I deleted photos of us two and untagged myself in them, but pretty soon after we broke up. Why has he left it so long and why delete ones that I am not even in? I don't see as he is hurting - is this his way of wiping me out of his life for good? It may not have been obvious, particularly since he left you, but it is possible that he was hurting, and needed time in order to be ready to "erase" you from his life. It's also possible that he just neglected it, until now.
Million.to.1 Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 Maybe his new girlfriend was on his case about it and he did it to prevent dramas with her. I've never understood people that have to erase their past. I understand de-friending an ex, if that's what you need to move on, but deleting evidence that the "we" ever existed? strange.
BustedUpInside Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 I know I deleted all the photos and untagged myself from posts on Facebook because it was a painful reminder all the time about the relationship not working out. My ex deleted some photos and mutual friends, and I believe, that it was for similar reasons. Sometimes it is just hard to look at reminders. Not because you want the relationship back, but because the photos are evidence of a time when neither person in the relationship had any idea of the devastation to come.
BustedUpInside Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 Guys are usually nowhere near as petty as women when it comes to this kind of thing. Sure there are some of these meterosexuals that try to come off all intimate and caring but they dont really count in the grand scheme of things when it comes to real men. Ummm, give me a break. It is not petty to delete photos and quit making dudes seem like they don't have feelings. Both men and women suffer when a relationship ends and putting away reminders of that pain is not a petty act. P.S. if you are going to make disparaging remarks you should learn the lingo Metrosexual=correct Meterosexual=I make fun of you on the internet! 1
aloneinaz Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 I've never understood people that have to erase their past. I understand de-friending an ex, if that's what you need to move on, but deleting evidence that the "we" ever existed? strange. I'm just curious as to why you feel it's strange that pictures are deleted on Facebook, phones or computers. I have some pictures left on my computer but won't go to any lengths to view them. I've polled some family and friends recently and I've noticed a lot of people in their 40's and 50's don't really look at old photo albums anymore nor do they view old movies. It's almost an effort for them to take photos at events. Strange..
forgetmenot75 Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 why would you care? Is he still in love with you? Is he with another girl? Just forget about him. If he hasnt tried to get you back, you shouldn't be thinking why he does the thing he does.
Author may_girl Posted June 26, 2013 Author Posted June 26, 2013 As far as I know he is still with the girl he left me for. But she doesn't have facebook and apparently he doesn't have 'in a relationship', which makes the reasons for deleting the photos particularly odd. I feel we shared some great memories together, we were together a long time. I can understand him deleting photos of us but deleting every one that is associated with me seems quite excessive when we have had no contact for some time. Just strange I guess, that's all
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