9 years down the drain or is it?

[rsolom6]

My situation. 54 been divorced once 12 years. began dating a girl 13 years younger who was very in love with me thru the years. She wanted to marry me and kept asking over the years. I put it off do to my last divorce and the pain i was dealing with for first 4-5 years of divorce and raising teens. Girlfriend has no kids. I was trying the last few years to move forward and talk about marriage agreements etc... finally in early 2013 I told her we would move forward and get engaged. we began to look at rings. On April 30th 2013 I found texting from an old friend she played in band with 15 years ago. It semed there was one meeting and it was building for another meeting with possible sex the second time. I confronted her an argument ensued and she blew out. I pursued for approx. (1) month off and on and even talked to the guy. She then said it was done. One day she called me asking for a $5.00 vase (what BS). So I met her and we had lunch after a 2 week full break! from lunch to the mall buying her clothes etc... then to dinner. NO SEX just making out which seemed hot & heavy followed by her crying saying this is all she wanted was to be treated good. She then said I just don't want this to be the thrill of the chase. The next day we went to the pool and dinner again. We talked about marriage etc... told me she had a great time over the weekend! THE FOLLOWING DAY she dropped completly off and there was no contact until the following day. She said I need to write you a letter and I dont know when it will be finished to mail. She said she has resentment from over the years and needs to heal. SHe said this in text on June 11th. She also said she needs space to get her bearings etc.. said she was taking her dad to MD to her brothers for fathers day the 16th. Instead of MD i found her car at the same guys house in OHIO for the weekend. Since then I had NO CONTACT AND neither has she. It's been 16 days. Driving me crazy because she left me with reactivatd feelings that she needs to work on herself and release resentment. Meanwhile she feels I am in Limbo and I am waiting for her to come back. She doesnt know I know anything.

I have been wanting to call or text and say I havent heard from you to see if she responds. If she doesnt I was going to say that I know she is seeing him and I am going to see other people also and that it's over now! What do you all THINK? thanks in advance!

[purplereigncb]

Move on my friend... resentment for what? Seems like you take care of her, she just wants something on the side. Your good move on, divorce would be painful for you, be glad you can still keep your stuff.