A man is giving out all the right signals...but still checks his online profile daily

[Star Gazer]

Very much guilty of just wanting to meet someone, and having to keep reminding myself not to overlook incompatabilities just because I want a relationship.

 

No matter how powerful the attraction, no matter how unique the chemistry, and no matter how promising the potential, getting to know another human being (let alone a human being you'd commit to) is a process that can't be rushed. Finding and maintaining the real deal takes time and patience.

 

The alternative? "That which takes off like a rocket usually comes down like one."

[Eddie Edirol]

Remember, he is looking out of necessity, from bad experiences. Im sure he wants to meet someone quick. Dating is frustrating, but I'm sure he could just shack up with the first women he dates, and it could turn out disastrous just because he was hasty. You have a chance to be picky before you run into any disasters. Keep your heart on hold for a month or two.

[desperategirl]

You want to meet someone quickly and you want to stop looking quickly. So heres a question, do you want to not bother looking because its exhausting, or just impatient and you want to be in love with someone in a hurry? Either way, it takes time and patience, and this statement of yours should be a mantra until you can make it a habit. You dont NEED to be with someone that badly, you are fine alone until you meet the right one.

 

 

Thanks for your answer. It's a combo - I want to be in love, I want to stop dating, I want to be in a relationship again. First dates are hard!

 

Having said that, I am feeling quite happy being single - a lot happier than I was when I was in my last relationship. I am getting better at being single, and I can see myself being happy enough alone for a while if I have to...but I definitely prefer being in a relationship.

[desperategirl]

Another question for you guys - I guess then you think that him asking for dates is more indicative than his online action?

[BluEyeL]

Another question for you guys - I guess then you think that him asking for dates is more indicative than his online action?

Yes, definitely! ! After about 1 or 2 months of dating wonder about the profile.Now, act relaxed on dates and be sure you are enough.

[Star Gazer]

Another question for you guys - I guess then you think that him asking for dates is more indicative than his online action?

 

I certainly do.

 

Not kidding: A friend of mine got married to his GF of a year over the weekend. He's over the moon in love. His profile is still on Match.