c.jude Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 (edited) I have seen a few discussions on here about body type preferences, which made me wonder.... My current boyfriend always had a tall (as in 5'11-6'0) light and short haired girl (shoulder length blonde or strawberry blonde hair) with very light skin...he also always claimed to be a leg man. So the girls he dated previously obviously had killer long legs, but not much if any in the breast department. He is 21. I have also observed that his previous partners were all older than he by a few years. 23-25. I'm a 17 year old Asian who is just 5'2. Legs and height are definitely not my best features. My best features would be my breasts and butt (so he's suddenly a breast and butt man?). My hair is also very dark brown, almost black and it's down to my hips. My skin is also pretty dark (darker tan, I guess?) Anybody have a clue why he would just start dating the opposite of his "type"? So have you guys/girls ever suddenly switched physical preferences? If so, why? For a change? Please feel free to share your thoughts, opinions, and past experiences on this topic. Thanks! Edited June 26, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Edited title
Arabella Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 I used to go for super tall, toned, white, dark-haired men with light eyes. That was my type. As it turns out, I'm marrying a Chinese guy who is 5' 10", has a receding hairline, and brown eyes (though I do like his body!) ... so yeah. Types can and do change for many reasons Or maybe he simply found something in you that is so important to him that overrides everything else. 2
Ninjainpajamas Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 This is a question that comes up often with women because they size of a guys past gf's or relationship partners. First off, there's one type that is always applicable to men....that's women with vaginas. As long as it has a vagina, nothing is out of the question. Secondly, stop comparing yourself to his ex's...it's like food, guys get tired of eating the same thing after a while, so they go for off thing on the menu if it feels right...plus as a young guy, he might have just simply been drawn to those women for superficial reasons...it's not like he has some great depth of experience or knowledge that would draw him anywhere else, it's just superficial when you're young....as you get older you start branching out and trying different things and may or may not like the same things. This is about your own insecurity, but really, you're only 21...this is a time for testing and gaining some experience with the opposite sex, nothing should be taken that seriously...chances are you won't be together in the future, and likely that's because it's the way it's meant to be...when it comes to long-term relationships and marriage down the road then that other layer of stuck can matter...like religion, culture, background/values and all of that stuff that unless you're on that road shouldn't even be thought about for the most part. At the end of the day guys don't really care all that much about specifics until the main main relationship where they want to settle down, everything before that is just whatever...so don't be surprised if guys try different things or go against the grain in their preferences, they're often not even thinking about it or taking it serious...their minds are on a completely different planet from what you're thinking about.
Author c.jude Posted June 25, 2013 Author Posted June 25, 2013 This is a question that comes up often with women because they size of a guys past gf's or relationship partners. First off, there's one type that is always applicable to men....that's women with vaginas. As long as it has a vagina, nothing is out of the question. Secondly, stop comparing yourself to his ex's...it's like food, guys get tired of eating the same thing after a while, so they go for off thing on the menu if it feels right...plus as a young guy, he might have just simply been drawn to those women for superficial reasons...it's not like he has some great depth of experience or knowledge that would draw him anywhere else, it's just superficial when you're young....as you get older you start branching out and trying different things and may or may not like the same things. This is about your own insecurity, but really, you're only 21...this is a time for testing and gaining some experience with the opposite sex, nothing should be taken that seriously...chances are you won't be together in the future, and likely that's because it's the way it's meant to be...when it comes to long-term relationships and marriage down the road then that other layer of stuck can matter...like religion, culture, background/values and all of that stuff that unless you're on that road shouldn't even be thought about for the most part. At the end of the day guys don't really care all that much about specifics until the main main relationship where they want to settle down, everything before that is just whatever...so don't be surprised if guys try different things or go against the grain in their preferences, they're often not even thinking about it or taking it serious...their minds are on a completely different planet from what you're thinking about. I'm 17. I saw a couple discussions on here about people talking about body types and whatnot which made me curious why would people end up with partners out of their norm. That is all. Yes, I'm in my relationship for the long hall. I only thought of this because I was simply curious due to the threads that were on here. Thanks for your input though.
sillyanswer Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 he also always claimed to be a leg man. So the girls he dated previously obviously had killer long legs, but not much if any in the breast department. He is 21. I'm a 17 year old Asian who is just 5'2. Legs and height are definitely not my best features. My best features would be my breasts and butt (so he's suddenly a breast and butt man?). He's only 21... he's still learning what he likes. Right now it seems that he likes you. Enjoy that!
EasyHeart Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 Tastes change. Most (psychologically healthy) men look at women as individuals and judge attraction based on who she is, not whether she matches a preconceived type.
Phantom888 Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 Anybody have a clue why he would just start dating the opposite of his "type"? So have you guys/girls ever suddenly switched physical preferences? If so, why? For a change? Please feel free to share your thoughts, opinions, and past experiences on this topic. Thanks! EDIT: Sorry, I meant Experiences, CHANGING body type preference? I'm a regular guy who "changed his preference", and I can tell you exactly how that came about. Even though it appears that my taste has changed, it really didn't. All along I have wanted genuinely nice girls with a pretty face, and it just so happens these qualities appear on women of different shapes and sizes. Earlier in life I always dated skinny girls. Now I am dating a "full figured" girl. I always admire girls with nice big natural breasts, and coincidentally all of my exs have big natural breasts....only difference is that now I am not dating any skinny women. Did my preferences actually change? Nope. I am dating the nicest girl with the prettiest face in the world. So basically people's taste remain constant. We just don't always see what they value the most. 1
StrongLass Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 People change in all kinds of different ways ALL the time, especially when it comes to dating. It's just another fact of life that keeps things interesting. I remember I went through a phase in my early college years when I found blond men completely unattractive. The men I dated during this time were all either jet black or various shades of brunette. It wasn't a conscious choice on my part at all, I had just gravitated to them due to their other qualities as human beings. (Maybe if there had been a blond guy like my exes around that time I would have changed my mind?) Then one day on a bus during my senior year I saw a man with a head of slicked back (not greasy!) golden blond hair and I though DAMN Something similar could have happened with your man, sometimes there's just no explaining it! (And even if he made a conscious decision then in the end that's still all good for you, right? )
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