turkeyman Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 I just started dating a girl about 3 months ago. I just turned 30 and she just turned 23. Everything was perfect at first. We were both telling everyone that we were head over heels for eachother, and we constantly had to be around eachother. She took a job about an hour away from where we both live, so she had to move. We both decided it wasn't a big deal, and we knew we could still see eachother whenever we wanted. Well a few weeks ago, she went on a trip with some friends and I stayed home. I was with quite a few people, including some girls that she is very weary of, and she couldn't get ahold of me for a few hours because my phone had died. When I finally turned my phone back on, I text her and said I couldn't answer my phone because I was with a big group of people. She went through the roof and was pissed for about a week or so. I did everything I could to make it up to her. And besides that, I've been treated her very well. Sending flowers to her office, doing everything I could to make her feel special. Everything was getting back to normal until about a week ago, when I was drinking with some friends, she was drinking with some friends, and she wouldn't answer my phone calls. She would only text back and say she couldn't answer right now because she was using her phone to play music at a party full of guys and girls. It pissed me off and we got into a fight. Since she is always so concerned that I'm hanging out with other girls, I made a huge mistake and went for the heart, and said that if I wasn't important enough for her, I was gonna go find another girl. The next few days I apologized and told her to call me when she's ready to talk. I never received a call, waited for about 5 days, and I sent her a text and said what's the deal, are we done or what? She finally replied and said yes, we are done. I think she knows that I would never cheat on her, but I haven't heard from her since. Is this a case of an immature, insecure girl with major trust issues, and is it worth trying to fix it? I'm not really sure what to do here. All of my friends say that this is her issue, and I've done nothing to warrant this type of treatment, but have any of you ever dealt with anything like this? Thanks for the help
OrangeSnack Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 WOW. This gal is filled with insecurity. OP, do you want to be with someone like that? Do you want to get constant texts of "Who are with etc?" Given your age, I doubt you do. My suggestion is to move on. You seem like a confident guy and have no problems talking to girls or getting dates. You seem to know what you want in life and from your partner.
CaliBabe Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 Well, yes she may be insecure but if it were me I would help her work through her insecurities not point them out and tell her you would get another girl. I feel she may have been pushed too far. For now, let some time go by and give her space. See if she comes to you once shes cooled off.
TaraMaiden Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 She's insecure... You're childish. Not a good combination.
Author turkeyman Posted June 25, 2013 Author Posted June 25, 2013 Thanks for the help guys. I forgot to mention that I sent her a very sweet, sincere email a few days ago apologizing and wishing her luck. She still hasn't responded, which I guess based on if she replies or not, I'll at least know what's going on in her head.
Author turkeyman Posted June 25, 2013 Author Posted June 25, 2013 Hahaha. That's pretty funny. It sounds like y'all have dealt with girls like this before. This is my first encounter. I was hoping I could make her less insecure, but it sounds like that isn't really a possibility.
Random Acts Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 In my opinion the age gap is the problem here-(nothing wrong with it of course but I am just speaking from experience.. My bf and I have an 8 year age gap and when we first started going out it was difficult because we both had lots of friends mine being younger his older, which meant we both went out with different people and sometimes went to parties separately just because neither of us knew each other's friends. I think after a while we both got somewhat insecure about this, so as time passed we started to got to thing's together instead and we went from strength to strength.. Trust is important here, especially at the start of a relationship you shouldn't of made a comment about another woman so early on while dating someone new, as this will probably be in the back of her mind all the time now! However she does seem immature and so many fights so early on while dating is not a positive sign,but at least you apologised leave her be for now the ball is in her court!
Author turkeyman Posted June 25, 2013 Author Posted June 25, 2013 Thanks guys, I'm just gonna leave it be for now. If she decides to come around, good. If not, so be it. I did what I could. If anyone else has any ideas or experiences with this type of thing, please feel free to give me some advice. Thanks again!
Author turkeyman Posted June 26, 2013 Author Posted June 26, 2013 Still haven't heard a word from this chick. I guess the insecurities have taken over her mind.
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