It is just killing me that she will sleep with someone else one day

[youcanever]

It is killing me that my ex will love someone new and kisa and sleep. Just hurting me. Pictures and motions come to my mînd about it. It îs lîke self torture.

 

What should i do? I feel like begging her back.

 

Damn. Wish i didnt take that call of hers 4 days ago. I was in Nc for 3 weeks. And now it is 4th day of nc again but feelings rise.

[Star Gazer]

Pretend she already has done those things.

[youcanever]

Pretend she already has done those things.

 

She did before our relationship. Sonetimes i think of it but doesnt help. She is student i am working. I feel she will sleep with him when i work. Blah.

[will1988]

Stop thinking of her fornicating with another guy, think about your fornicating a new girl!

[Mack05]

think about your fornicating a new girl!

 

Or actually doing it

[will1988]

Or actually doing it

 

^^^^ This.

[youcanever]

Stop thinking of her fornicating with another guy, think about your fornicating a new girl!

 

It will make me worst. I will think of her when i do it.

 

I need to be strong. Need to move on.

[sweetkiwi]

Realize that the only thing keeping these thoughts in your head is your obsession. Yes they pop up, but you need to not focus on them and feed them your mental energy.

 

Practice makes perfect.

[youcanever]

Realize that the only thing keeping these thoughts in your head is your obsession. Yes they pop up, but you need to not focus on them and feed them your mental energy.

 

Practice makes perfect.

 

Im doing great with my life after she broke up with me. Im awesome at work, hitting gym hard, improving mentally and physically.

 

But this love part of my life sucks. Blows. Kills. Hurts.

 

Practise makes perfect okay. Practise how? Just not thinkinn about her?

[Emilia]

Practise makes perfect okay. Practise how? Just not thinkinn about her?

Talk to other girls, allow them to distract you.

 

Do you think about your ex when you masturbate? If yes, you must stop

[youcanever]

Talk to other girls, allow them to distract you.

 

Do you think about your ex when you masturbate? If yes, you must stop

 

I do think when im close to ending. And after that i fall in love again.

[sweetkiwi]

Im doing great with my life after she broke up with me. Im awesome at work, hitting gym hard, improving mentally and physically.

 

But this love part of my life sucks. Blows. Kills. Hurts.

 

Practise makes perfect okay. Practise how? Just not thinkinn about her?

Think of her like a drug. You are in detox mode. Busy yourself with activities like you are doing. When the "love" aka "drug" pops into your head force your thoughts elsewhere. I did it with lots of booze and other men in the past. Not something I suggest but hey whatever works.

[youcanever]

It is so weird. When i see a very hot girl she cone to my mind, when i see a guy she come to my mind, whn i hear song she, when i eat she, when... Whe.. Wh.. W..

 

You get it. Everything reminds me her. Even hot girls around me.

[youcanever]

Think of her like a drug. You are in detox mode. Busy yourself with activities like you are doing. When the "love" aka "drug" pops into your head force your thoughts elsewhere. I did it with lots of booze and other men in the past. Not something I suggest but hey whatever works.

 

Im 23 and wasting my youth thinking about her and depressing around.

 

Good lord!

 

I will force myself to fill every single second of mine till drug getd out of my mind.

[Emilia]

I do think when im close to ending. And after that i fall in love again.

You have to stop doing that. I know that's difficult but you have to STOP

[mahon451]

I know that feeling, friendo. I also know that the road you're on goes to one place, and it isn't a good place to be. As much as you can't help but picturing your ex getting down with another dude, you have to face facts- it's either happened, or it will happen, and there isn't anything you can do to stop it. Begging her to come back to you will only make you look pathetic. Don't beg. In fact, don't talk to her at all. Keep this in mind: she is, for all purposes, dead to you. The context in which you knew her (your girlfriend) no longer exists, therefore she, as you knew her, no longer exists. Mourn her, of course, but move on with your life as well. It's the only thing you can do to mitigate the pain, obsession, and anguish that comes from these situations.

 

Also- stop thinking about her hypothetical sex life and go out and have one of your own (when you're ready).

[youcanever]

You have to stop doing that. I know that's difficult but you have to STOP

 

Yeag aware of that. Stopping it from now on.

[youcanever]

Only thing that will cure this is time. I had the same problem, and still do a little after a year.

 

After the end of my relationship I hooked up with another girl immediately, and guess what? It made me feel 10 x's worse. Wouldn't recommend it. After I banged the new girl, and she tried "cuddling" up to me after sex, all I thought about was my ex. **** was totally wrong on many levels.

 

All you can do is try to distract yourself best as possible, and don't try to contact her (cause that will make things worse). Try to hit the gym, read a book, chill with some friends that wont talk about your break-up. And leave all the sluts alone. When you're healed, then worry about the sluts.

 

If was an ahole i would say, hey i banged her anyway, why think of her?

 

Sonetimes i wish i am an ahole with stoneheart. But if this will go on like this i will become stone hearted.

[youcanever]

I know that feeling, friendo. I also know that the road you're on goes to one place, and it isn't a good place to be. As much as you can't help but picturing your ex getting down with another dude, you have to face facts- it's either happened, or it will happen, and there isn't anything you can do to stop it. Begging her to come back to you will only make you look pathetic. Don't beg. In fact, don't talk to her at all. Keep this in mind: she is, for all purposes, dead to you. The context in which you knew her (your girlfriend) no longer exists, therefore she, as you knew her, no longer exists. Mourn her, of course, but move on with your life as well. It's the only thing you can do to mitigate the pain, obsession, and anguish that comes from these situations.

 

Also- stop thinking about her hypothetical sex life and go out and have one of your own (when you're ready).

 

Damn i wish there was bad parts in having sex with her. Everything was perfect.

 

But her character killed me. Very selfish. Sometimes i think should call ger up start a new relationship and become selfish too. Maybe that time it works great.

[Emilia]

If was an ahole i would say, hey i banged her anyway, why think of her?

 

Sonetimes i wish i am an ahole with stoneheart. But if this will go on like this i will become stone hearted.

We all learn how to process emotions if we choose to https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Neuroplasticity

[youcanever]

We all learn how to process emotions if we choose to https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Neuroplasticity

 

I did 3 weeks nc and she called me 4 days ago to ask how i am doing. And when we broke up she told me not to write her. Weird logic.

 

She is 19. Maybe she was waiting me to tell her to get back together and she couldnt say it because she was shy about it?

 

Ah stupid thoughts.

[Emilia]

She is 19. Maybe she was waiting me to tell her to get back together and she couldnt say it because she was shy about it?

 

Ah stupid thoughts.

I don't know why you broke up so I can't comment

[youcanever]

I don't know why you broke up so I can't comment

 

She broke up because she told she loves me so much but see me as a friend.

 

Nevermind. It is gonna be okay.

[Emilia]

Nevermind. It is gonna be okay.

Of course it is. I know it's screwing with your mind right now but it will be okay

[youcanever]

Ah it is eating me up. This missing pain never goes away. I want her.

 

Resisting so hard not to write her!!!