Nobody16 Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 I was in a long distance reelationship with this guy from past 1 year..it was all good ...we recently met (4 months back) each other as well...but after the meeting we started talking less to each other as he was busy .....may be one time in 2 weeks...then after 4 months he broke up with me for no reason...i started sending him emails asking him to give me a reason...then he gave me a reason tht when he was not talking to me i was crying so he is breaking u with me...as he can't see me crying......n he didnt deserve me i should seek someone close to me......can' figure out what is going in his mind...now its been 2 weeks we are in no contact with each other...n i m going crazy thinking wat went wrong...can somebody suggest what should i do....or y he reacting this way:lmao:
Toddbt12y1 Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 Honestly, I believe that no one can tell you as to why his reasoning is what it is....or lack thereof. Only he knows why. Not enough information to tell. His reason sounds odd, sure, but more information is needed. What did he mean that you cry when he's not talking to you? Are you clingy? Is this true, that you cry as often as I guess he is implying? It just seems off... How old are you two? You need to keep no contact. Make yourself as busy as possible. What you do with your time(which heals), will help you to heal up. Go out with friends and family. Be active. But, realize that this is not the end of the world. He is gone, sure! But, you will meet someone else. There are always chances. Give up Hope of any reunion to this relationship. Two weeks of n/c is enough to show it's over... Ofc. Talk to us on here about anything, we will help you.
hoping2heal Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 I was in a long distance reelationship with this guy from past 1 year..it was all good ...we recently met (4 months back) each other as well...but after the meeting we started talking less to each other as he was busy .....may be one time in 2 weeks...then after 4 months he broke up with me for no reason...i started sending him emails asking him to give me a reason...then he gave me a reason tht when he was not talking to me i was crying so he is breaking u with me...as he can't see me crying......n he didnt deserve me i should seek someone close to me......can' figure out what is going in his mind...now its been 2 weeks we are in no contact with each other...n i m going crazy thinking wat went wrong...can somebody suggest what should i do....or y he reacting this way:lmao: You mention that after you met contact suddenly cut way down. It sounds like he lost interest in you but didn't know how to tell you that. He probably doesn't want to hurt your feelings, though it would certainly make things a little easier on you if he were just up front about it. I wouldn't bother continuing to contact him. 3
Chris516 Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 I was in a long distance reelationship with this guy from past 1 year..it was all good ...we recently met (4 months back) each other as well...but after the meeting we started talking less to each other as he was busy .....may be one time in 2 weeks...then after 4 months he broke up with me for no reason...i started sending him emails asking him to give me a reason...then he gave me a reason tht when he was not talking to me i was crying so he is breaking u with me...as he can't see me crying......n he didnt deserve me i should seek someone close to me......can' figure out what is going in his mind...now its been 2 weeks we are in no contact with each other...n i m going crazy thinking wat went wrong...can somebody suggest what should i do....or y he reacting this way:lmao: I think I am going through the same thing. My LDR has been 'on the skids since Fall 2011. I had gone out to visit her for the fourth time in four years(I wanted to go more often but could not afford it), July of that year. Several months later I noticed our communication becoming spotty. I told her I 'could see the handwriting on the wall'. She denied that was the case'. Things seemed to pick up in 2012. Except that, the birthday presents' I sent her, in 2011, she never opened. She even said earlier this year, that she couldn't 'give me what I wanted'. When I asked her to explain that comment, she never has. Then things seemingly picked up in March of this year. But it didn't last. The lack of communication, is still vast.
CA2TN4Love Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 That's one of the pitfalls of an LDR... The lack of being able to read body language. If you were in the same room as your SO while having these conversations, I'm sure their body language would spell this out for you and you wouldn't be left grasping for straws. Unfortunately, there are many people who lack the decency to be forthcoming with their honest feelings if they feel that it will hurt the person they're with. Unfortunately, it just ends up hurting you more. I know it's easier said than done, but when you find your relationship bringing you more sorrow than joy, you should evaluate whether or not it's something worth having in your life. You may never know why someone hurts you, but you'll always know the amount of pain you feel. It's up to you to decide when to start to heal. 1
HeavenOrHell Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 It sounds like he didn't have feelings for you in real life, he couldn't have known that until you met, how can anyone know if they will click unless they meet IRL. Maybe its also hard for him to see you upset as (I assume you were crying as you were missing him? Or you wanted more contact than he was able, or wanted, to give?) and he felt he couldn't give you what you need or deserve, ie someone closer to home. He's broken up with you, try and move on and put this behind you. I was in a long distance reelationship with this guy from past 1 year..it was all good ...we recently met (4 months back) each other as well...but after the meeting we started talking less to each other as he was busy .....may be one time in 2 weeks...then after 4 months he broke up with me for no reason...i started sending him emails asking him to give me a reason...then he gave me a reason tht when he was not talking to me i was crying so he is breaking u with me...as he can't see me crying......n he didnt deserve me i should seek someone close to me......can' figure out what is going in his mind...now its been 2 weeks we are in no contact with each other...n i m going crazy thinking wat went wrong...can somebody suggest what should i do....or y he reacting this way:lmao: 1
HeavenOrHell Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 I don't think a r/ship can last if you only meet once a year, it's just not enough to keep it going. I think I am going through the same thing. My LDR has been 'on the skids since Fall 2011. I had gone out to visit her for the fourth time in four years(I wanted to go more often but could not afford it), July of that year. Several months later I noticed our communication becoming spotty. I told her I 'could see the handwriting on the wall'. She denied that was the case'. Things seemed to pick up in 2012. Except that, the birthday presents' I sent her, in 2011, she never opened. She even said earlier this year, that she couldn't 'give me what I wanted'. When I asked her to explain that comment, she never has. Then things seemingly picked up in March of this year. But it didn't last. The lack of communication, is still vast. 1
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