Grimm Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 Hi, I really like people's opinion on a relationship I have with a female in work. This will probably be quite long but I need to paint the picture. About two years ago a new girl started in my work. I never really spoke to her. Then last June at a night out we kissed, We were both in relationships. Next time in work we decide that it was just drink and that was that. But we became quite friendly over following months. She tried to get me out on the next night out but i couldn't make it as i was heading off on holiday the next day. The friendship was slow at the start just talking occasionally and the occasional text message session. Upon my return from holiday she randomly text she had broken up with her boyfriend and that if I heard any rumours about her going with another fella in work at the night out it was just gossip. I thought this was a bit random. Anyway our friendship steadily grew, she even arranged a birthday night for me when my partner was away, she was always coming to see me at work and texting. We became good friends. She was always smiling and calling into my office etc. Then on a night out in January we ended up kissing again. However, I pulled away saying I couldn't do this I was in a relationship and we were also friends. She then picked some bloke at the party who she never met and went upstairs with him, you can guess the rest. The next day she texted apologised etc and we promised each other that we would never kiss again. Our friendship intensified and we became thick as thieves. In fact people thought we were having an affair in work we were that close. On her birthday night out I kept my distance so that nothing would happen. Her best friend told me that it was me she liked and not another fellas she had been with recently. Then my friend came over and tried to kiss me again, I told her no that I had promised it wouldn't happen again. Since that her texting increased and there was a day went by when we didn't text/ talk etc. I will admit at this point I probably did start to realise I had started developing feeling of her and did like her alot. Everything was fine until about 12 weeks when on another night out, from the minute she arrived at he venue she was distance, rude towards me., Totally ignored me. It was as if she resented me being there. When all day we had been laughing and joking. She started flirting around other guys etc. but I just ignored it. However, she ended up having a row with the fella from the previous summer, who she denied being with. I went over to check she was ok. When she turned on me and said some quite hurtful things towards me. My temper started to rise. I walked off. The other fella then had a go at her again saying some pretty nasty things. Again I told him to leave and checked she was ok and again she was hurtful towards me. Anyway, stupidly me and this fella shared a taxi home and he poured his heart out to me, it appears she was leading him on. However, he my drunken stated i said a couple of things that she had told me about him he was furious. My temper was also high and I headed up sending a text message to my friend saying that we should just be work colleagues from now it. The message was quite nasty, I was angry, drunk and ill admit jealous. This male then told her the following day some of the stuff I said. I felt and still do beyond rotten, how could I betray her trust or be nasty. That's just not me. I also being told I'm the nice guy. She did not speak to me for ten weeks, refused to look at me or accept an apology.. kept running away. Eventually she started again albeit very strained. She went on holiday and told another friend it was a clean slate when she returned. Since she has returned she as flicked from being uber friendly, smiles, very flirty to then being arrogant and distant. There has been no texting since. Eventually last week I apologised, something I needed to do personally, I told her I was sorry I hurt her, missed her etc. she said, the matter was forgiven but not forgotten and that she doesn't want the relationship to go back to the way it was. However, I dont feel this matches her body language and behaviour from the days before. Why be flirty, I also noticed when I'm talking to other females in work she is straight over asking what's going on etc. i think she is trying to make me work for forgiveness my problem is I new finding it hard to be natural around her and have become quite shy. I'm trying to distance myself. But e dry time I pull away she seems to try run into me. Or get e to peak to her. I really do miss her so much and now realise I do love her and would like to be with her. Does she like me? How should I handle this, I don't know now to proceed with the relationship.
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