WantanS4 Posted October 15, 2004 Posted October 15, 2004 I've come to realize, that by reading posts on LoveShack, I actually do more harm to myself than good. There are posts that give you hope, and then there are others that just make you sigh and whisper 'crap!'. It's a means of going on an emotional rollercoaster that gets you nowhere but back into 'what-if' mode, which is what we're all trying to move away from. Your thoughts!
Fayebelle Posted October 15, 2004 Posted October 15, 2004 Reading other people's opinions does not make their thoughts your own. They just give you something to consider when making up your own mind. Don't take everything here too seriously. Make a few friends you trust and consider them your go-to crew when you really need help. Everything else is just static in cyberspace-some interesting things pop out occasionally- but otherwise it's just mindless entertainment.
simplybrill Posted October 15, 2004 Posted October 15, 2004 I've found loveshack quite helpful. if I come across a post that might drag me back down that rabbit hole of despair...I simply click that little "x" in the corner, and move on...its no biggie just find something to bring your mood back up, like candy.
findinmyway Posted October 15, 2004 Posted October 15, 2004 It depends on your perspective...you gotta keep it all in check. If you're coming here to find answers...you won't!!! No one else can give you an answer to deep questions, but sometimes it helps to vent and even to get other perspectives. And, many people come here to just pass the time and chat with friends we've made I do have one gripe. What's up with the people who try to come across as more intelligent or more experienced or just more...than everyone else!! I come here sporadically and only have time to type a thousand thoughts in two seconds. So, I am sure that I don't always come across as the most insightful person There are a few people here who get their kicks from verbally outsmarting others. That gripes my butt.
Barby Posted October 15, 2004 Posted October 15, 2004 Maybe for some LS is not something beneficial to them, in this case maybe they shouldn't come here, but I would think most of the visitors, posters, responders, ect must get some sort of help, guidance, support, or something in order to continue coming back time and time again. I like LS is a healthy place to come, vent, ask for help, ect. You're not going to necessarily hear what you want to hear maybe more like what you don't want to hear maybe something you've been avoiding. Not everyone gives the "leave em leave em" advice...I think most people read each individual post, think about it, and respond with advice for that individual posters situation. At least I try to anyway. LS can be helpful sort of like a "virtual support group" in a way.
UCFKevin Posted October 15, 2004 Posted October 15, 2004 I don't think this place does any harm at all. If you start to think your life is s*** or will get s***ty because of the bad stuff people tell on here, that's your problem, not LS's. I've seen good and bad on here, but as much bad as I see, I don't let it get me down. Try not to, anyway.
Weird Posted October 15, 2004 Posted October 15, 2004 I like reading stuff here. First, it makes me see how many others have had or currently have situations like mine and it is just nice to see what they think f things. Also, some stories are way out there and this may sound sorta mean but it makes me thank God that I am not dealing with those situations because I'd go crazy. Many here post good thoughts/advice and it is stuff I like to think about. Also, if by chance I somehow can post advice (based on past experience) that helps out others then that makes me feel nice knowing I helped someone hopefully avoid a lot of emotional pain or wasted time.
supermom Posted October 15, 2004 Posted October 15, 2004 I've had many learning experiences and problems here on loveshack. At first I would not agree with posters sometimes, but in the time that I have been on I have learned to be more open minded weather I'm giving advise or taking it. Sometimes people tell you what you don't want to hear, but usually people have the best intentions in mind. Advise is advise weather or not it's what you want to hear or not. Just my experience
Sukotto Posted October 15, 2004 Posted October 15, 2004 As other people have said its purely advice its not a written law that you follow whats posted here at the LS. I personally avoid responses that dont have reasoning behind it which you can follow.
Naive Posted October 15, 2004 Posted October 15, 2004 I've seen some people that have tried to say bye to LS, but always come back. I for example am one. It's just too addictive o say bye to.
Maria46 Posted October 15, 2004 Posted October 15, 2004 I feel like I learn something more about myself everytime I am here. It is also nice to know I am not the only one with problems.
Naive Posted October 15, 2004 Posted October 15, 2004 Plus there is always the off topics in the water cooler that are very interesting. You can always learn somethin new on here.
Mr Spock Posted October 18, 2004 Posted October 18, 2004 Originally posted by WantanS4 I've come to realize, that by reading posts on LoveShack, I actually do more harm to myself than good. There are posts that give you hope, and then there are others that just make you sigh and whisper 'crap!'. It's a means of going on an emotional rollercoaster that gets you nowhere but back into 'what-if' mode, which is what we're all trying to move away from. Your thoughts! Really? Most of the time one is able to read posts and think to themselves "Man, and I thought MY life sucked" That aspect alone should keep your mood afloat somewhat.
findinmyway Posted October 18, 2004 Posted October 18, 2004 Really? Most of the time one is able to read posts and think to themselves "Man, and I thought MY life sucked" That aspect alone should keep your mood afloat somewhat. Perfect examply of why we keep coming back. Who could get enough of Spock's perspective on things. Keeps me hooked
immoralist Posted October 18, 2004 Posted October 18, 2004 Perfect examply of why we keep coming back. Who could get enough of Spock's perspective on things. Keeps me hooked Spock is one of the reasons I keep coming back.Spock's CHARACTER is LoveShack's Id, a counter-moralist. Sweet. I do have questions about LoveShack's therapeutic value. But online opinions are not therapy. I look at LS as a form of participatory entertainment--where posters/characters can both entertain and be entertained. LoveShack is theater of the absurd for the bored, broken down and bemused. The cast of characters --ie, LS regulars--have their distinctive marks, individual traits, stories and feuds. LoveShack is interactive, participatory soap opera: "Desperate Posters." LoveShack can be problematic when, rather than grappling with real problems with real people in real time, people use LoveShack as a way to avoid dealing with very knotty offline issues. Then, LoveShack becomes an end in itself as opposed to a means to a therapeutically beneficial end. I know I'm guilty of that. I suspect many are. Many of us are running from something. And LoveShack, at least temporarily, provides us with some shelter from the storm.
findinmyway Posted October 18, 2004 Posted October 18, 2004 Many of us are running from something. And LoveShack, at least temporarily, provides us with some shelter from the storm. Hey Sinner..why the change in name....other than a play on words.
immoralist Posted October 18, 2004 Posted October 18, 2004 I tried to leave LS to focus on my marriage.I canceled my account. Hence "sinner" is no more. I miss the name, sinner, it was a nice fit. Alas, I was being hasty, again. You can call me anything you want.
findinmyway Posted October 18, 2004 Posted October 18, 2004 I changed my name also. When I first joined it was Tracy. After a few weeks I decided that didn't have enough "personality". I thought Findinmyway had meaning at the time. I already second guess it. Maybe it should change it to Indecisive. I will call you "immoralist", but there will always be a little "sinner" in you....
Stone Posted October 18, 2004 Posted October 18, 2004 I come here to socialize! Everybody in my office is boring and I love hearing about other poples lives, problems, jokes ect... I should cut down though so I can be more productive.... But I just love you guys so darn much
immoralist Posted October 18, 2004 Posted October 18, 2004 "Tracy" ! I remember that name. I change names fairly frequently but I always let people know it's me. findinmyway, I like your name. But I love your location even more. And stoneheather, I know what you mean about lost productivity. LS is hugely diverting especially when you're involved in a hot, happening Thread or nasty feud.
Fayebelle Posted October 18, 2004 Posted October 18, 2004 FMW- I remember Tracy too! Hah- guess my # of pals just dropped by 1 since technically you're the same cat I missed Tracy though- glad to know she's been w/us all along
Naive Posted October 18, 2004 Posted October 18, 2004 I wanted to change my name as well because it reminds me of the reason why I came on here and the bad memories that come along with it, but I say hey this will also remind me of how I found LS!
Fayebelle Posted October 18, 2004 Posted October 18, 2004 Someone joined w/the handle Faye and YL was like why'd you change your name LOL Oddly enough- I did try to join as Faye but they said the name was already taken- that's when I switched to Fayebelle- I love my name now and I'm glad I had to think of it but I thought it was funny that someone joined after me w/the name I 1st tried. Must have been fate..
findinmyway Posted October 18, 2004 Posted October 18, 2004 I wanted to change my name as well because it reminds me of the reason why I came on here and the bad memories that come along with it, but I say hey this will also remind me of how I found LS! I considered that, but decided I wanted to separate from it. Faye and Naive---your names are SO you!!! It's even fitting that Sinner is immoralist now.....kinda like me, I like to change names too...descriptive of my personality.
Fayebelle Posted October 18, 2004 Posted October 18, 2004 Now we must wonder- are our names so Us or do we become our names.....
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