Dundas Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 She was my first, we met on my first day at a new school, in studyhall when I was 16. We were inseparable from that moment on. We were practically tied at the hip, went to both Homecomings, Proms, even on a senior trip to Paris together. She seemed to be just as in love with me as I was with her, but as time went on I was definitely becoming way more attached with her than she was with me. Now, a year after we graduated things began going dull, we were not as close yet I still felt the same amount of love. She started making little complaints about me not acting the same way I did at first, months went by and she left me for another guy. A couple hours after she broke up with me saying things like "The only reason I even liked you at first was because I thought you were an a*hole" (apparently I was too nice). She said I was more like a friend than anything, that she didn't want to hurt me and she didn't want to lose me (now it seems to be the opposite). She came over a couple hours later and held me close and was really emotional, then after awhile... we kept very little contact because we work together. She started saying "well, I wish I'd never been with anyone" meaning she regrets having been with e and the guy before, but not her current boyfriend. This was after she told me she would "always have love for me." After about a month, I was still texting her occasionally and she said " I'm happy now, you need to move on and I'm 'erasing the past' ". I'm moving on but I'm still plagued with so many questions that I know I may never get the answer to. I'd like to think she really did love me at one point, but I don't understand how all this could come about after 2.5 years, right after we were talking about moving in together... I wish she had told me exactly how she felt about me, but I think she may have waited until she found someone (her new boyfriend) and only he knows how she really feels about me. I still need closure, but I don't think I'll ever get that. I hope she doesn't really regret being with me because we had a good relationship. I don't understand how she could delete all our pictures and erase the past (erase ME) so easily. I wonder if one day she'll regret deleting all our memories. She may feel much happier with him right now but they will break up eventually... when that happens, I can only hope she'll regret treating me so badly and getting rid of all the good memories.
Toddbt12y1 Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 Her new bf wouldn't like her having pictures of you. In order for her to moveon and be with this Guy, she would need to delete your pics. She is immature. Lost interest in you, moved on. Yes, it does suck. I wouldn't have let her embrace me after all of that. Seems gamish and immature. Either case. Stop contact. Minimize contact at work. No more looking at social medal sites. Move on for yourself. There are better girls out there. Unfortunately, at your age...these seem to happen a lot more.
HopelessRomantick Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 Anything is possible. She might "one day" regret deleting those memories, regret treating you so badly and she might even come looking for you. But the question is: Are you willing to wait for any of those things? Are you willing to torture yourself endlessly waiting? Because that is what it will be like, torture. A slow painful death. Heartbreak and hope is painfully weakening physically. Take care of yourself now. Find a wonderful person to love you back the way you deserve. Good luck to you.
OrangeSnack Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 Getting closure from someone has to do with their maturity. Mature women tend to give you a reason why they left but the younger ones tend to leave you hanging which leads to confusion and over analyzing the situation. Went through it several times in my life, heck i'm going through it now. On the side note, I really do appreciate women who would tell you why the relationship didn't work out. It truly is a blessing if they do that because you will learn SO MUCH more about yourself and how you can improve your dating life. Just my 2cent.
Eddie Edirol Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 Heres the deal, you got your closure. She told you to move on, which means she has no attraction to you to ever want to try again. Youre young, you'll go through tons of girlfriends. I think what you are more looking for is answers to questions rather than closure. Ill tell you exactly where you went wrong. if she said you were too nice, said she liked you because she thought you were an azzhole, then that means you werent a challenge for her anymore. You know you fell for her faster than she did you, and that isnt what she wanted, she wanted to work for your heart and you killed it for her. With many women, this will continue to be the case when you fall before they do. When you are too nice, you let her have whatever she wanted whenever she wanted it, and many women will get bored of that. Especially girls of her age. But dont worry, it happens to practically all guys at your age, its called learning. And the hurt will prevent you from doing it this way ever again. How could she erase the past so easily? When she doesnt want the past anymore, its that easy. She doesnt want to see you anymore, she was thinking of moving on for months, but went through the motions with you. Its an awful thing to do, but she didnt want to deal with you being hurt and gloaming onto her at the time, maybe. Once she found someone new that she REALLY wanted to try out, then she broke it off. So start talking to girls now, to help you move on. You dont have to date them yet, but just converse with them to get youe confidence back. You might be surprised that you could find a girl that is a better fit for you that she was.
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