Lambchoper Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 (edited) I'm going to do the short version. I'm a girl. I meet a guy a year ago. We are really attracted to each other, we exchange numbers. At this moment he works out of town every 3 weeks for 3 weeks and comes back. He is very conservative. Doesn't have sex with girls unless he's in a relationship with them. We become friends and hang out but he's always been very different to me than other people, he's shy and we don't have deep conversations like he does with other people and there is massive tension every single time. One night we make out then he backs off the next time and says we are just friends and can't start anything and doesn't know if he likes me in "that way", meaning to have sex since he only does that with stuff that is serious. I get mad we fight, but maintain friendship and hang out in groups but he still acts strange around me and I feel like he says things to get a rise out of me a lot.. Sometimes he talks about girls saying one is hot or not, friend stuff. He found out I liked someone else and started to try and make out with me again but I refused. We hang out for a few months and I act like I'm not into him anymore. He comes back in town and forgets about the other guy and we hang out again as friends in our group settings (Always planned by me and him) For some reason he won't hang out with me alone. I'm sooo into him and he told me friend it's hard because he's REALLY attracted to me. So far it's been about a year since we met. The other night we hung out and he made his friends leave and he took me to the bedroom and ripped my clothes off and had sex with me. It was crazy. I'm still in shock because I didn't think it would EVER happen. I don't think he had sex in probably a year. Next day he shows up and my bestfriends BBQ, knowing I would be there but doesn't tell me when I dropped him off that morning. He's friendlier than usual and now he's gone again for a few weeks. I don't know where to go from here or what that means about what just happened. I don't know if he saw the sex as a drunken thing and it didn't mean anything or he secretly has feeling for me?! He drank mostly beer though so I don't think he was really drunk. ANyway.. what do you think are his feelings and what should I do next to start it up again with him? Edited June 25, 2013 by Lambchoper
SoulJazzBlues Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 Start what up again? He has told you a) just wanted to be friends. b) he only has sex with girls who he is in relationships, though he isnt in one with you and somehow managed to break his own rule? c) he talks about other women to you Also the way you describe yourself in all of this is just so passive. Do you just sit and wait for him to make a move for an entire year? I think he sees you as a bit of fun when he is town and you're agreeable to his needs. I'm not convinced anything serious will develop out of this. If that is what you want?
Author Lambchoper Posted June 25, 2013 Author Posted June 25, 2013 he said this before we had sex, and that's why he wasn't having sex with me.
Author Lambchoper Posted June 25, 2013 Author Posted June 25, 2013 (edited) He just maintained a friendship with me before and wouldn't have sex with me because he said does't do it unless things are serious. I'm wondering within the year his feelings have changed and that's why he took it to that level. I'm too scared to ask him. We just hooked up a day ago, he hasn't spoken about other girls in a few months. Edited June 25, 2013 by Lambchoper
happywithlife Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 You'll never know "what happened" unless you stop the games and talk with him in private.
Author Lambchoper Posted June 25, 2013 Author Posted June 25, 2013 I want to, I'm scared and don;t know what to say. I'm scared of rejection
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