foxman837 Posted October 15, 2004 Posted October 15, 2004 Hi all, I am new here and I need to ask a question about a girl. Ok I really like this girl...alot. I went to high school with her (never had a class with her)and now we are in college, in one class together. When class is over we usually talk on the way to our cars. The problem is that I am not to good at talking to girls and am kinda shy around her, you know, I wont say anything unless she does. I want to overcome that and talk to her but I just dont know how. I dont know if she is seeing anyone right now, but I do know she spilt up with her old high school boyfriend. I really like her and I want to talk to her but just cant....please help me.
pedens001 Posted October 15, 2004 Posted October 15, 2004 Hi there Foxman... I think the best advice I can give you is to bite your tongue and talk to her...Talk to her about the class or what all she's taking, if she's not doing well in the class then find out if she wants to study with you..great opportunity there...But your gonna have to talk to her more..she's probably wanting to say something but is to shy herself so you gotta do it.. Keep us updated
kiwi29f Posted October 15, 2004 Posted October 15, 2004 How long have you known this girl? I know how you feel, I'm alot like that until I really get to know you. I barely talked to my husband for 2 months when we first started dating. We broke up for about 2 months became friends then got back together & we've been together every since. My advice to you is to become friends with her first, its always alittle more uncomfortable when you start dating someone you barely know. Start by hanging out with a few mutual friends(if any) & take it from there. Its a little easier talking to someone when your laughing & joking around with other people along with your "interest". You'll soon feel more comfortable to start having actual conversations with just her. That always helped in my case anyway & believe me when I say I'm very shy. I'm still very quiet around some of my husbands family but when I get around my family & our friends I have a big mouth. Good Luck & have fun
Author foxman837 Posted October 15, 2004 Author Posted October 15, 2004 I have known her about 2 months now and the semester only has about 6 weeks left...I am on fall break until weds day, I'll make myself talk to her then. Thanks.
Miss Perfection Posted October 16, 2004 Posted October 16, 2004 If you dont talk to her....someone else WILL! Then you are going to kick yourself because shes with someone else...GO!
Papillon Posted October 16, 2004 Posted October 16, 2004 Take her out for a flick and a milkshake (I love 50's imagery, bobby socks and studebakers , anyway). Your projection is very important. Instead of asking, "Would you like to go out on Friday night for a movie?", say "I would like to take you out for a movie, on Friday night". The latter projects a lot more confidence. In addition, the first requires a considered response of approval from the girl, the latter simply requires acceptance. As an aside, I normally dislike movies for a first date, but in your case it might be a good ice-breaker. Or find something you'd both enjoy, like the theatre, or a picnic. Good luck!
Author foxman837 Posted November 19, 2004 Author Posted November 19, 2004 Well I think I have completely screwed myself on this girl. I talked to her and every time I wanted to ask her for number or ask her if she wanted to do something my mouth just wouldn't open. I really hate this its killing me not being able to just ask her out. How would I get over this, just go up to her anywhere and start talking to her slowly work my way up to asking her for her number? I don't want to lose her, we have alot in common but im still just to shy. I'm really starting to get depressed on this.
Pocky Posted November 19, 2004 Posted November 19, 2004 Just talk to her. You have nothing to lose. At least if she says no you'd have your answer on whether or not she's interested.
missopinionated Posted November 21, 2004 Posted November 21, 2004 So, does it occur to you that, short of someone coming along, holding your adult hand and making your mouth and brain move for you -- which would pretty much make you a puppet and which would render you completely unattractive -- you might have to grow up and just plain old talk to another human being? What on earth is your problem?? She's just another human. Consider this: You're totally freaked out by having a simple conversation with someone you've known for what? 5 years? So what about that would make you attractive to her? It is disrespectful to treat another person as if they're so untouchable that you can't speak to them Figure this: no matter who a person is, how rich, poor, ugly, gorgeous, smart, moronic they are, they still eat, sleep, breath, **** (and stink when they do) and look funny naked. OK. Grow up. Go talk to her.
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