Exposing Websites

[sweet_pea]

What is your opinion on exposure websites, websites specifically made to expost cheaters/APs?

 

Do you like them? Why or why not?

[Realist3]

Sophomoric.

[Artie Lang]

if there are sites promoting cheating(AM), then why not sites exposing them also.

 

sounds logical to me.

[bobwhite007]

Do you have an example of such a site????

What is your opinion on exposure websites, websites specifically made to expost cheaters/APs?

 

Do you like them? Why or why not?

[Robert]

Do you have an example of such a site????

 

Let's keep the topic closely confined to how you feel about those websites, this thread cannot become a thread naming .coms or it will have to be moved out of the infidelity area.

 

Thanks

[Zenstudent]

It's like telling everyone who will listen on the town square saturday afternoon. Websites just made it easier and with a larger audience.

 

I'm a bit ambivalent - I wouldn't post my wife's AP, his wife may do the same to mine as retaliation - wouldn't want that since I try to reconciliate with her.

[SmokeRat]

I posted my STBX and her MOM on a very prominent website that outs cheaters and whatnot.

 

You know what's funny?

 

After three years of lying to me, and sleeping with another man, when I posted him and her on the website, she ****ing lost it.

 

Screamed at me that I had ruined her life, his life and their careers. That I was untrustworthy *******, and now her reputation would be ruined.

 

Notice a trend with that statement? MEMEMEMEMEMEMEMEMEMEMEMEMEMEMEME.

 

There was nothing about, WHY I posted it, nothing about US. All about HER and her MOM.

 

Get the point?

[So happy together]

I didn't even know they existed. That's hilarious! Is it something that you can just post whomever you choose? To me that sounds like a retaliation website for anything at all, if you could just add names.

[SmokeRat]

It can be considered a retaliation website.

 

And yes you can post full names and all that jazz. When my STBX's MOM found out his name and whatnot was on the website, he called me nearly in tears to take it down before his children found out. Although they already had found out, but I also posted my STBX's and his text message conversations, emails, photos and all that.

[sweetkiwi]

I tried to post my abusive ex on a site for douchebags like him. Not that it would help warn other women anyway but maybe just maybe it would.

[will1988]

hmmm I think I found a new way to keep my self entertained while bored at work.

[Owl]

I think they're a great 'revenge' outlet.

 

Not a path for exposure if you truly intend to reconcile...but a definite way of shaming them if that's not your plan or intent.

[Janesays]

Too much potential for abuse.

[SmokeRat]

Agreed, there is a potential for abuse.

 

That's why I backed my post on the website with photos sent to each other, and photos they've taken with each other.

 

Plus videos, texts, email, Skype conversations.

[CarrieT]

I got involved with a guy and ten days into it, I found his profile had been plastered on one of these sites by SEVERAL women.

 

Sometimes they can be beneficial!

[eleanorrigby]

I got involved with a guy and ten days into it, I found his profile had been plastered on one of these sites by SEVERAL women.

 

Sometimes they can be beneficial!

 

lol yup, I think of it like a poor mans background check. hehe

[SmokeRat]

Except you know, factual proof.

 

Pictures, text messages, emails between the parties, posting proof of marriage between myself and my STBX, posting photos of the MOM's family and his wife.

 

Posting photos of my STBX and MOM in situations, videos they made together in my bed, photos they took on my couch.

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[JustAReformedGirl]

if there are sites promoting cheating(AM), then why not sites exposing them also.

 

sounds logical to me.

 

 

Frankly, I don't like the idea of either one.

[MissBee]

What is your opinion on exposure websites, websites specifically made to expost cheaters/APs?

 

Do you like them? Why or why not?

 

I don't have any experience with them. It seems messy. It seems like people can go on there and fabricate things if they don't like someone. I don't think I could see myself looking up someone on such a website or exposing them. However, for some kinds of cheaters out there who are ruthless, I can't say I'd feel bad for them if their business was all out there. But on a personal level, I don't think I'd use such a website.

[HopingAgain]

I think they can be very effective! Nothing like exposing a unrepentent cheater and watching them scurrying into the shadows like a roach exposed to light! I've never posted, but had a good chuckle or 2 at a few of the sites.

[Spark1111]

I find it interesting that the same technology that allowed affairs to flourish in secret are now being used against cheaters; web sites, FB, email accounts and as recently as today, Miley Cyrus.

 

She first tweeted a picture of herself with an unknown woman and said, Dad, if you don't tell the truth, I will.

 

then a few minutes later, Someone hacked my twitter account! And the pic was taken down.

 

Her mom filed for divorce 10 days ago.

[SmokeRat]

And I'll be honest, I'm a big fan of total, ruthless exposure of the WS and the AP. Whether that be through the interwebs, social media, word of mouth and so forth.

 

Call it a crusade, but I've promoted the website to a few mates who's spouses have been caught cheating. The results, for the most part, have been quite effective.

 

The one issue I do have with these websites, is that SOME of them do allow you to post a photo and whatnot, WITHOUT factual proof. That's just asking to be trolled and attract the 'interesting' side of people.

 

I'm not one to blow smoke about someone, so I stay away from those sites, the ones I did use required me to submit a report about the cheating, photos, texts, emails and so forth. Then it went to a person who read over everything just to make sure I wasn't just some troll looking to spite someone.

 

After approval it went live, until MOM was begging for me to take it down. It was taken down after a week or two, and around 22,000 views from the town/city I live in alone.

[lilmisscantbewrong]

I find it very sad that someone would do this. I am a FOW who was exposed publicly - in church. It did not help with my recovery or my healing - it has taken years to try to recover from that. I was trying so hard to figure out why I did what I did and how broken I was, to have to deal with it publicly was far worse.

 

So when my husband had his affair, I wanted to badly to handle it differently. With the exception of a few people I told for support, it has been very quiet.

 

Affairs are horrible and devastating, but adding that sort of public exposure, in my opinion, is not the way to go.

[Realist3]

Affairs are horrible and devastating, but adding that sort of public exposure, in my opinion, is not the way to go.

 

This pretty much states my opinion.

 

Someone else said in this thread something to the effect of, "Why are BS's always expected to take the high road?"

 

This type of whatever you want to call it is easily seen as taking the low road.

 

Smoke said it himself. He was ruthless in his desire for revenge and exposure.

 

What some people don't want to understand is that how you handle yourself in these difficult situations says just as much about YOU as it does the person that cheated on you.

 

All that has really occurred is the person that posts all of these damning accusations yells to the world, "I'm a big effing douche!!!"

[Spark1111]

This pretty much states my opinion.

 

Someone else said in this thread something to the effect of, "Why are BS's always expected to take the high road?"

 

This type of whatever you want to call it is easily seen as taking the low road.

 

Smoke said it himself. He was ruthless in his desire for revenge and exposure.

 

What some people don't want to understand is that how you handle yourself in these difficult situations says just as much about YOU as it does the person that cheated on you.

 

All that has really occurred is the person that posts all of these damning accusations yells to the world, "I'm a big effing douche!!!"

 

Well you know I disagree with you....

 

I think it says someone I trusted lied daily to me and betrayed me sexually while pretending to be a devoted spouse, BF, fiance.

 

And I believe all these sites and tv shows flourish for one reason only: popularity of public opinion supports it, and in turn, supports their coffers.

 

If they didn't make a buck, they'd be gone.