buzzie2 Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 In the early stages of dating a new guy, how do you know if he cares about you beyond just being physically attracted to you? This one guy has been acting extremely attracted to me, and I am worried that he is only interested in getting into my pants, and not taking me seriously to be more than a fling. I am not the type of girl who would tolerate a casual FWB's situation and have a pretty high standard of what I want in a relationship.
Ripnet Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 Easy don't have sex with them so soon. Sadly there's people have sex within a month. 3
Tinie Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 If he comments on your appearance and that's it. And if he doesn't ask you questions about your life, your dreams, goals, interests, school, whatever. If he's interested in getting into your pants, he won't care who you are, he'll only care about how turned on he feels when he's around you. 4
TouchedByViolet Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 Just hold out having sex until you are in a committed relationship. During the dating stage observe his behavior toward you. If I am interested in a girl I will show active interest, and pursue learning about her. The physical is just 1 part.
sweetheart5381 Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 You know, when a man gets a great big hard on for you when you are hugging hello, but still shrugs it off, asks about your day and talks, then you have hit the jackpot. When they never, ever mention sex until you give them the "nudge". Then they virtually rip your clothes off. When they go out of their way to make your day happier and easier... that's when they are worth falling in love for.
TheGuard13 Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 Eh, I don't withholding sex proves anything about the guy's interest in you. Maybe that he can wait for sex. If he really likes you, he will take interest in your life, your problems, and shared interests you two have. He will, in short, communicate to you about things other than sex. 1
Els Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 By his actions. What he does for you, rather than himself. The interest he takes in aspects of you and your life other than your appearance and sex. IMO him being willing to wait can also be part of the equation, but certainly not the only determinant.
Ed the 3rd Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 Either his restraint or what he personally says he likes about you. But PLEASE do not without sex for extended periods just to verify this. You'd be torturing the poor guy.
therhythm Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 (edited) Easy don't have sex with them so soon. Sadly there's people have sex within a month. As someone has already says... this only proofs that the guy can wait for sex... actually for the contrary if you sleep early on with him and he fades away then you know what he wanted :D:D:lmao: Edit : just kidding people In my honest opinion in most of the cases the first attraction between two persons if physical... when you move forward in a relationship you can see if there is an emotional connection too... but that is only acquired with the time and knowledge you get from each other in that time. Edited June 25, 2013 by therhythm
pcplod Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 In the early stages of dating a new guy, how do you know if he cares about you beyond just being physically attracted to you? This one guy has been acting extremely attracted to me, and I am worried that he is only interested in getting into my pants, and not taking me seriously to be more than a fling. I am not the type of girl who would tolerate a casual FWB's situation and have a pretty high standard of what I want in a relationship. See. I think you have it right there. Imagine we are face-to-face, sharing smouldering looks and little glances filled with innuendo and suddenly you sit bolt upright and exclaim, "Just in case you are thinking it, I am not the type of girl who would tolerate a casual FWB's situation and have a pretty high standard of what I want in a relationship". I think you could guarantee, with me at least, that I would immediately understand what is what. And my dick would wilt permanently, so that you could be assured to be forever safe. Does that sound re-assuring? If it does, I think you should just try it. No point in faffing around and never getting your principles and morals aired properly, after all. Just a point of curiosity, if in this scenario he replied with a smile "Oh, that's okay, I wasn't looking to getting into your pants anyway, now, or later. I was just hoping for the perfect platonic relationship and it sounds like that's what you are looking for too"? What would you think? On the other hand, you could just play it by ear, and depending on how it unfolds, just deal with it as-and-when. I quite fancy women who do that sort of thing. Confident, assertive and know what to do, when. Damn sexy!
Eternal Sunshine Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 If he is pushy about creating scenarios so that he could either go to your place or you to his. A guy that is interested in you will have no problem with putting in time and effort into "courting you". Dinners, movies, daytime outings.... It will be focused on spending time together rather than pushing things physically.
crude Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 Right, he could also get sex somewhere else if he really wanted it and just make an impression he's waiting for you. There's a good chance a man who waits and waits is getting it elsewhere and can afford to wait to add you to the rotation. If that's the case, you'll be fooled by his waiting. 1
Emilia Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 In the early stages of dating a new guy, how do you know if he cares about you beyond just being physically attracted to you? He will care about how you view him and what you think of him.
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