singlelife Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 We dated for awhile and we are still good friends. She knows I'm a private person and nobody comes over without calling and getting permission. So she has girlfriends who live on the block and she used to come visit me then go see them. Even after we chilled it out she never came over without asking permission. She used to text and ask if she could park in my yard while she visited them. I gave her permission and didn't think anything of it because it was respectful. The last couple of weeks she would just text while I'm at work and say she was parking in my yard for a min while she visit. The first time I didn't even think of it but then she has just been parking in my yard without even texting or asking. I would just wake up and there is her car. I told her to cut that out. Then this morning I wake up at 6a and was going back to sleep and saw she was parked outside again. i was tired from being out all night then I was like really. I went back to bed and heard her take off around 6:30. I am like I going to have to just go off on her because this is overboard. She don't even have to park at my house she could park down the street. She even got a new man. We was cool but she being disrespectful at this point. I just take it she think she all of a sudden running my spot for no reason. Women just have to test you for no reason.
Balzac Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 Actually you can notify her in writing that your offer to park is no longer valid. The logical cobsequence of her violating that is called tow truck. Why make it about telling her off? 3
Author singlelife Posted June 24, 2013 Author Posted June 24, 2013 Actually you can notify her in writing that your offer to park is no longer valid. The logical cobsequence of her violating that is called tow truck. Why make it about telling her off? Forget a tow truck. I just tell her and that should be that. I'm still wondering why she even does it. There's no reason except to be an *******.
sweetheart5381 Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 Ya, just let the **** go, tell her clearly that she needs express permission, text, email etc since your "girlfriend" needs a parking spot too It's your spot, own it!!
Eggplant Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 I agree -- that's obnoxious behavior on her part. Especially since she found another guy.
Eddie Edirol Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 Do you guys even hang out now that she has a new guy? Are you truly friends? Texting every once in a while doesnt count. If youre not hanging out, then she is using you because you let her. You should be able to tell her to stop without a major deal. But you have to be stern about it, and make sure to tell her straight up that she cannot ever park in your driveway again. You know what to tell her if she asks why. Then if she continues to do it, call the tow truck. 2
Ripnet Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 She is being disrespectful. What if you invited your friends to come over and her car is taking up space. Why can't she park in her at her friend's place?
Author singlelife Posted June 24, 2013 Author Posted June 24, 2013 Do you guys even hang out now that she has a new guy? Are you truly friends? Texting every once in a while doesnt count. If youre not hanging out, then she is using you because you let her. You should be able to tell her to stop without a major deal. But you have to be stern about it, and make sure to tell her straight up that she cannot ever park in your driveway again. You know what to tell her if she asks why. Then if she continues to do it, call the tow truck. I going to have to do that. Be stern not the tow truck thing. I'm over it.
shexy Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 It kind of sounds like you're nitpicking actually. If it's that big of a deal to you, you shouldn't have started letting her park there in the first place. I think you're just mad about it now cause she has a new man. 1
Author singlelife Posted June 25, 2013 Author Posted June 25, 2013 It kind of sounds like you're nitpicking actually. If it's that big of a deal to you, you shouldn't have started letting her park there in the first place. I think you're just mad about it now cause she has a new man. I thought it would be a one time thing because everyone knows I'm private. Her having a man has to do with if I was her I wouldn't be parking at my house.
Author singlelife Posted June 25, 2013 Author Posted June 25, 2013 She is being disrespectful. What if you invited your friends to come over and her car is taking up space. Why can't she park in her at her friend's place? Which is why I have that rule. She knows this she as does everyone.
2sure Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 I wouldn't take it so personally. It's just a convenient place to park. But it's your yard, tell her to stop.
Ripnet Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 Which is why I have that rule. She knows this she as does everyone. Let her know in the future it will be towed and that it's her only warning. People should respect other person's property. It wouldn't kill her to ask if she can park there. I'm sure you would let her if your friends won't be coming over.
sydneysider1978 Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 Op, you sound pretty uptight. If you have a parking spot, and it doesn't get used, I don't see what the big problem is. I don't think she's purposefully disrespecting you, she just doesn't think it's a big deal. Neither would I. If you don't like what she's doing, you are well within your rights to ask her to stop. Do it pleasantly and firmly, if you go all bat$&(t about rules and disrespecting, you've probably lost a friend.
rocketman122 Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 just tell her that once in a while when she comes that you need 30 minutes of her time. and suggest she wear high heels and sexy stockings. she can leave her hat on. morning wood is a shame to waste 1
MercuryMorrison1 Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 Maybe she just doesn't like the rules? Yeah but the issue here is that it is his parking spot, therefore he can absolutely 100% dictate who parks there (other than emergency personal). I personally don't think the issue is so much him being jealous of her having another dude, he seems totally indifferent to that. The issue is that she is taking advantage of his generosity. To the OP, I would inform her that she's not allowed to park there anymore unless she pays you a fee for doing so. Who knows, maybe you can profit a little bit off of this.
Ripnet Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 Op, you sound pretty uptight. If you have a parking spot, and it doesn't get used, I don't see what the big problem is. I don't think she's purposefully disrespecting you, she just doesn't think it's a big deal. Neither would I. If you don't like what she's doing, you are well within your rights to ask her to stop. Do it pleasantly and firmly, if you go all bat$&(t about rules and disrespecting, you've probably lost a friend. He does have guest over sometimes. If she asked him first it would be a different story.
Emilia Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 This 'telling off' is childish nonsense. Adults don't tell each other off. If they feel their boundaries are not respected, they have a grown up conversation about it. What a lot of drama OP over some girl just because you are gutted she has a new guy. Maybe she worked out that you are too uptight to have as a boyfriend?
BeyondtheClouds Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 It kind of sounds like you're nitpicking actually. If it's that big of a deal to you, you shouldn't have started letting her park there in the first place. I think you're just mad about it now cause she has a new man. I think he is doing his ex girlfriend a favor since her new boyfriend should be concerned about her safety and that includes where she leaves he car. If she doesn't learn that that's a concern of his, how will she ever know that he really cares for her or just likes the fact that she's an easy lay and able to keep her where evah in the neighborhood.
Author singlelife Posted June 26, 2013 Author Posted June 26, 2013 She parked again this morning. I calmly told her about it and she apologized and said I was right. Problem solved. 2
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