Z33 Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 This forum helped me a lot and I took many advice. I am sure I would get the same respond but Id like to share my story. my lady dumped me couple weeks ago. We dated for 2 years. I met her at a college and when I first met her, I thought I found my angel. But my family and I were going through financial struggles. I thought she was too good for me and didnt bother to talk to her or ask her name. Few months later, I met her at school and had an opportunity to ask her name and #. After couple months later, we started dating and became bf/gf. Things went awesome. She was the dictator in the relationship but I didnt mind much. After all, shes my dream girl and I listened to her very well. One time, I got so fed up and told her i couldnt deal with it. At that time, I worked at a bakery which required for me to wake up 2:30 AM to be at work by 3:30. She came to my work and waited until I got off around 10 AM. She cried all day and I took her back. I train Brazilian jiu jitsu. Been doing it for 4 years and whenever Im getting ready for competition time, I get stressed. The weight cut, more frequent training on top of school and work really made me stressful. I didnt say nice things to her and she got fed up and tried to break up with me. I begged and told her I would change and she took me back. All these happened in the first year of the relationship. She lives with her older sister who is 10 years older. I went over to their APT all the time and 4 of us would have dinner together and talk together. We had ups and downs but loved each other. We made plans together and I just finished my Associate's degree and going to 4 year university this fall. 2 weeks ago, out of the blue, she says she would give me her laptop back. I asked her are you kicking me out of your life? and she said "I cant do this anymore." I went over to her apartment right away and acted like a jerk. I gave back the key to the apartment back to her. After some ugly words exchanged, I left. I got really sick for the whole week and went to see a doctor for stomach acid and got a shot for swollen throat. I also received sleeping pills. I have temper problem. I know. I tried to fix it but never worked. I would get angry on her and cuss in front of her. She told me not to do it many times but I did it anyway. I regret it. Last wednesday, I texted her because I couldnt get a hold of her. I asked her if everything is ok since my calls would just drop. She acted innocent and asked me why my phone calls wouldnt go through. Ever since we broke up, I told myself I would fix my temper problem and get her back no matter what happens. Ive been keeping a journal and read books on how to control temper. The conversation went well. I told her I realized I was so controlling and couldnt control my temper well. Also, when she told me she needed the time and space, I snapped out and yelled at her. She listened to me in the end and told me "I am glad you realized those. Good luck on your relationship." This is when i snapped and we had ugly arguments. The next day, out of fury, I went over to her apt and dropped a textbook she had over at my house and left $ I owe her ($120) I also had a secret savings account that I have been saving up for our future which only had another $120 but I put that in the envelope as well. Couple hours later, she calls. I didnt answer. She texted me asking me that this would be the last message ever and she want to ask me if I want the money and my laptop back. Her laptop got stolen so I let her use mine for a long time since I have a desktop for work and school. I still acted like a jerk and told her its all yours. (Not in a nice way but no cussing) Couple hours later, I texted her back in much nicer way that she could have those since she cant afford to get a laptop at the moment and she has to save up for tuition. This was last Thursday and ever since then, I havent heard back from her. I met her sister and sister's bf last night out of coincidence. I talked to them for a while but felt that I am not so welcomed anymore. I kept up the No Contact until an hour ago. Her car got into a BAD accident and shes using a rental car at the moment. The car is in the body shop that I frequent and I saw it was still sitting there not getting anything done. I texted her "I saw your car at the shop today. I hope things go well for you." I dont expect a reply but I hope this would open up her mind a bit. She blocked me on facebook and my phone number. She has many e-mail accounts so I dont think I would send her an email. She told me my text messages would still go through. I tried to keep myself busy but seems like I cant get her out of my mind. Please help
Author Z33 Posted June 24, 2013 Author Posted June 24, 2013 I want her back because she was with me during the hardest time of my life. My parents really love her and she was kind enough to send gifts to my parents and my sister on their birthdays. She even got christmas presents for all of us. She works at a nail salon and she even came over to my house to cut my mom's in-grown toe nails for her. She did this many times so I know for sure I do not want to lose her.
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