miss_jaclynrae Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 We aren't LDR yet but are going to be for those of you who don't know. Someone brought up meeting halfway, and I hadn't thought of it, so I brought it up. We looked into tickets and for me it would be around $500 round-trip to go to NY, NY for a week around New Years. For him it would be about 800 round trip from Paris. I was pretty excited about the idea of doing this, since I have never been to NY and spending new years eve there would be an amazing experience. Financially though, I could tell he wasn't on board to spend so much for a week, especially since that doesn't include boarding or food. Granted, we would just stay in a hostel... Anyone have ANY advice on how financially I could make him feel more inclined to go? I was thinking of possibly contributing a bit towards his ticket so we would be paying the same amount. He still doesn't seem to be considering it, but now that I brought it up its like this HUGE possibility, even though it really isn't. UGH. I don't even know for sure if I can afford it. lol I guess we didn't really see the option before, so if it doesn't happen then nothing lost... but any insight would be GREAT. [ps, please don't go off about him being a terrible BF for NOT wanting to spend that money, it is a LOT of money, and I don't think by him not buying the ticket makes him a bad guy. Who knows, that could be money saved to go towards a ring. ]
cerridwen Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 That's an expensive time to travel AND an expensive time for staying in New York. Is there another time of year you can meet? It may lower the cost significantly and make him more keen on going. 3
Author miss_jaclynrae Posted June 24, 2013 Author Posted June 24, 2013 That's an expensive time to travel AND an expensive time for staying in New York. Is there another time of year you can meet? It may lower the cost significantly and make him more keen on going. That was the ONLY time. Sucksssss. He gets a week off during Christmas and New years, then he goes back to school, and then he gets his winter break end of Jan beginning of Feb. My winter break is end of Dec to end of Jan. It really is a super expensive time to go. It probably won't happen, would be awesome if we could MAKE it happen, but otherwise I will just be flying to stay with him over summer.
justwhoiam Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 Financially though, I could tell he wasn't on board to spend so much for a week, especially since that doesn't include boarding or food. Granted, we would just stay in a hostel... You're a couple and I wouldn't recommend a hostel, especially for new year's eve. Instead, you'd better see if you can find a place with couchsurf, looking for some local with a spare room. Like that, you won't be spending any money for your lodging, and you could save about food too. Because you can cook your meals there, but ask about that in advance. If you can cook, you can cook for the people hosting you as well. Just make sure they are reliable people, so that the room is not available anymore once you get there. Anyone have ANY advice on how financially I could make him feel more inclined to go? He must feel it. You only live once, and some opportunities won't knock on your door twice. If he's the overly wise guy, it gets a bit boring... I need a man to be flexible and this would be one of those times where he can prove how flexible he is. Unless he's really broken. In that case, you can't really expect anything. Otherwise, he should let himself go a bit, for a memorable experience. I think it's worth it. I was thinking of possibly contributing a bit towards his ticket so we would be paying the same amount. I would say: don't do it. Gut feeling you shouldn't do that. Rather than that, just tell him he'd only have to pay for his ticket and you'd take care of all the rest (you can make the reservation with the people hosting you, check where to eat in the neighborhood, etc). If I were to think about the money I can save just by staying at home, I wouldn't go anywhere anymore. Think about it. Seriously.
Star Gazer Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 I would think that your single airline ticket to Paris would be cheaper than two tickets to NYC plus hotel...? Just fly out of SFO, not the local airport. 4
Author miss_jaclynrae Posted June 24, 2013 Author Posted June 24, 2013 You're a couple and I wouldn't recommend a hostel, especially for new year's eve. Instead, you'd better see if you can find a place with couchsurf, looking for some local with a spare room. Like that, you won't be spending any money for your lodging, and you could save about food too. Because you can cook your meals there, but ask about that in advance. If you can cook, you can cook for the people hosting you as well. Just make sure they are reliable people, so that the room is not available anymore once you get there. He must feel it. You only live once, and some opportunities won't knock on your door twice. If he's the overly wise guy, it gets a bit boring... I need a man to be flexible and this would be one of those times where he can prove how flexible he is. Unless he's really broken. In that case, you can't really expect anything. Otherwise, he should let himself go a bit, for a memorable experience. I think it's worth it. I would say: don't do it. Gut feeling you shouldn't do that. Rather than that, just tell him he'd only have to pay for his ticket and you'd take care of all the rest (you can make the reservation with the people hosting you, check where to eat in the neighborhood, etc). If I were to think about the money I can save just by staying at home, I wouldn't go anywhere anymore. Think about it. Seriously. That is a GREAT idea. I didn't even consider couch surf. [the BTW brought it up, but he was talking about France, didn't think about using it here in the US] I'll bring that up to him. I wish that we could be super care free about money, but at the same time, we have plans for when he gets home that we want to be able to afford. Thanks though, I never even THOUGHT of that. 1
Author miss_jaclynrae Posted June 24, 2013 Author Posted June 24, 2013 I would think that your single airline ticket to Paris would be cheaper than two tickets to NYC plus hotel...? Just fly out of SFO, not the local airport. Oh yeah definitely. It is, I am going to France no matter what. We were discussing breaking up the time apart by spending a week together after him being gone for 6 months.
Star Gazer Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 Oh yeah definitely. It is, I am going to France no matter what. We were discussing breaking up the time apart by spending a week together after him being gone for 6 months. I'd just go twice. Nothin' wrong with seeing Paris twice... 3
Author miss_jaclynrae Posted June 24, 2013 Author Posted June 24, 2013 I'd just go twice. Nothin' wrong with seeing Paris twice... OHHHH. I see what you are saying. For the price of his and mine, I could get a ticket to see him. Hmmm... I wonder what that would amount to... He would already have his place. I didn't think of that either. Feeling super lame now. Off to check out tickets during the holidays.
Star Gazer Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 OHHHH. I see what you are saying. For the price of his and mine, I could get a ticket to see him. Hmmm... I wonder what that would amount to... He would already have his place. I didn't think of that either. Feeling super lame now. Off to check out tickets during the holidays. I just looked. Best tickets to Europe are about 60-90 days from the flight, and I saw some for around $1,400.
Author miss_jaclynrae Posted June 24, 2013 Author Posted June 24, 2013 I just looked. Best tickets to Europe are about 60-90 days from the flight, and I saw some for around $1,400. I just looked too! Saw one for 1200! Going to discuss it when he gets home. I don't even have a passport. UGH. Should get on that...
justwhoiam Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 $500 vs $1,200? No comment... And you'd be going to Paris later on anyway... Also, does he have a place on his own?
Star Gazer Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 $500 vs $1,200? No comment... And you'd be going to Paris later on anyway... Also, does he have a place on his own? No. $1,300 (both their tickets) PLUS lodging expenses, versus $1,200 and no lodging expenses.
justwhoiam Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 No. $1,300 (both their tickets) PLUS lodging expenses, versus $1,200 and no lodging expenses. She'd be paying her part, so to me that means $500 for a round ticket to NYC. No lodging expenses. Versus $1,200 no lodging expenses (but I don't know if he has his own place).
xxoo Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 You flying over twice might be cheaper overall (no lodging expenses), but it would be all on you to pay the fares. If he'd be willing to pay for one of your plane tickets, that might be ok. Can you meet anywhere less pricey than NYC over NYE? 1
Star Gazer Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 You flying over twice might be cheaper overall (no lodging expenses), but it would be all on you to pay the fares. Why would it be all on her for the two of them to get her there? That doesn't sound very relationship-y to me. I would think they'd split it. 1
xxoo Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 I agree they should split it, but I wasn't assuming either way. It only makes financial sense IF they split it. 2
Author miss_jaclynrae Posted June 24, 2013 Author Posted June 24, 2013 He has his own place. The ticket would be split if I flew to Paris. That would be cheaper for both of us. Money is what it comes down to. Even 1200 for us both could be a problem, we still have worry about other expenses. Makes more sense though for me to fly there.
veggirl Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 Yes financially your first best bet is a 2nd trip to Paris. Or him flying home to see you for a week. Next best bet would be a cheaper middle ground. NYC? You could cut all boarding/food costs if you chose another place. 1
Emilia Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 I agree with the idea of flying to Paris but to take it a step further, instead of going during the new year celebrations, how about a trip when you have a school break OP? Even if your boyfriend is still at school you would see him a lot since you would be staying at his place. It must be cheaper than $1,200 to fly in January or whenever you are free.
clia Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 I think this is a great idea, and I hope you can make it work. You might even check out prices at some of the other cities on the East Coast, where it might be cheaper to go at New Year's than NYC -- Philly, Boston, D.C. etc.
Author miss_jaclynrae Posted June 25, 2013 Author Posted June 25, 2013 I agree with the idea of flying to Paris but to take it a step further, instead of going during the new year celebrations, how about a trip when you have a school break OP? Even if your boyfriend is still at school you would see him a lot since you would be staying at his place. It must be cheaper than $1,200 to fly in January or whenever you are free. January IS my time off lol. I wish it was some other time but spring break will be before my midterms. I really wish I had other time off but I also wouldn't fly out unless I could stay longer than a week.
FitChick Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 If you meet in January in the US, might be better to try Florida or Atlanta since the weather would be warmer. NYC or Boston in January? Been there, done that. No thanks! Traveling in January AFTER the holidays would probably be pretty cheap since most people travel during the holidays. You could find some bargains.
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