Regreting breaking up...now what?

[lowehopes]

Last weekend I ended my long distance relation with this guy, we have deep feelings for each other, but we can't meet any time soon, and I started to feel he got distant and avoiding my messages and calls. So I sent him an email telling him that even though I loved him, I felt ignored and felt we didn't have a future togueter,so what was the point of keep wasting each others time in a relationship with no prospect. i felt hurted and thought this way I would protect myself of he breaking my heart again ( he had broken with me a year ago, then contacted me and we keep our "relationship") A day later he replied telling me he felt "it was very sad" my decision, and that he wanted to make happy but he didn't had enough time for me, he also said that he hoped we could still talk sometimes as friends, and wished me "good luck on my endeavours" as is he was letting go an employee . Now I feel the urge of contact him and clear things more, I don't know what to do, I still love him, I didn't broke up hoping he chased me back,I just didn't want to feel hurt and hopeless, but now I started missing him and regret I sent that email...should I contact him,should I wait and see if this feelings recede? Advice please

[aloneinaz]

Last weekend I ended my long distance relation with this guy, we have deep feelings for each other, but we can't meet any time soon, and I started to feel he got distant and avoiding my messages and calls. So I sent him an email telling him that even though I loved him, I felt ignored and felt we didn't have a future togueter,so what was the point of keep wasting each others time in a relationship with no prospect. i felt hurted and thought this way I would protect myself of he breaking my heart again ( he had broken with me a year ago, then contacted me and we keep our "relationship") A day later he replied telling me he felt "it was very sad" my decision, and that he wanted to make happy but he didn't had enough time for me, he also said that he hoped we could still talk sometimes as friends, and wished me "good luck on my endeavours" as is he was letting go an employee . Now I feel the urge of contact him and clear things more, I don't know what to do, I still love him, I didn't broke up hoping he chased me back,I just didn't want to feel hurt and hopeless, but now I started missing him and regret I sent that email...should I contact him,should I wait and see if this feelings recede? Advice please

 

I think your instincts were correct here. He was fading away from the relationship and you noticed it.. You then get the excuses as to why he has faded (busy at work, etc). When you were fresh and new, Im sure he always MADE time to talk to you and make you a PRIORITY. This is classic, they've lost interest behavior. My ex did the same to me. Always too tired or stressed or overwhelmed to cuddle on the couch at night, etc, etc....

 

You two should simply take a break for maybe 30 days and see how you're both feeling. It sounds like he's no longer interested anyway. In the mean time, I'd leave him alone and not contact him to get you on the road to recovery.