dasein Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 Didn't read whole thread. No I don't, and have learned from much experience to avoid women who navigate their lives in any way with astrology or other fortune telling. Bad, bad bets if one is seeking a quality partner.
carhill Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 Do you consider a potential date/mate's sign? Have you found any eery validity to astrological (in)compatibility? I recall going through a period of that in my 20's, combining some of the mysteries/explanations of astrology with those of romance, but generally moved away from it and haven't returned. I do recall a short period when my exW and I were dating, prior to becoming engaged, where she brought up personality styles and there were some astrological aspects we discussed, at her behest, which resulted from that. We moved beyond that and I don't recall it coming up again. Given astrology is apparently big business, I guess there are a lot of people who utilize it for aspects of their lives. I'm not one of them.
ThaWholigan Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 I do sometimes, but it doesn't deter me no matter the sign. If you pay enough attention, you can easily find a pattern. For example, I tend to be attracted to Aries and Scorpios - and I have an easy time getting on with Sags and other Virgos.
ThaWholigan Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 My sister and I are the same sign. We're like night and day. Different decanates, chart may have planets in other signs etc etc. Lot of reasons .
ScreamingTrees Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 i am interested in long distance thing too You actually scared me for a moment and made me feel sort of bad simultaneously, until I saw the smiley face in the corner. Forgive me for not having a serious answer, I pretty much suck at giving advice.
William Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 As a reminder, for discussion of astrology in general, there is an excellent thread running in the Water Cooler to do just that: https://www.loveshack.org/forums/off-topic/water-cooler/324071-astrology-thread Thanks. 3
ThaWholigan Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 My main question to a virgo male is WHY did he come back to me telling me that he is attracted to me , he does have feelings, I very well rememenber he told me that I am a very shy guy and i cant chase girls. I am afraid of rejection so most of the time its the girls who have to do it .. and he wants me to behave like his gf for three months. I had very very well stated to him that the only reason i am going to out of his life is because i have feelings for him. why did he tell me these things ??? i was happy to be his close friend. what was playing on his mind.? didnt he care for my feelings towards him. now when i out of anger abused him thoroughly he just told me not to contact him rather he began saying YOU dont love me. why do you have feelings for me ? i dont feel that you love me . its always push and pull... i was very happy to be his close friend. and now he blames me saying I am the one who always chased him. is there anyway i could get him back ... please help me !!! I don't think there is a way to get him back but even if there was - is it really worth it? This push and pull wouldn't stop once you got together. He has to acknowledge that this mode of behaviour hurts you and likely causes problems for other girls aswell. You being angry was perhaps his way out, a tipping point for him to get more leeway to do what he's doing. Aswell as his shyness, he will likely have problems communicating always. I'm very sorry but this one looks like a deadend. 2
ThaWholigan Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 Now I do, yes. My ex was a Virgo. I'm a Libra. Once we were at the end of our relationship I actually did a compatibility reading for a V&L. I can't even tell you how dead on accurate it was. It basically said "NO WAY!!!" From the get go. I actually would never date another Virgo. They all have same traits, too rigid for a flirty Libra. Shame that, we'd have been a good couple 1
pyramid Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 Yes, I have a strange thing with Virgos for some reason. Both men (dating) and women (friends). I tend to be drawn like a moth to a flame, and can't get enough of spending time with them even if it's an unhealthy relationship.
miss_jaclynrae Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 I don't let it be a deciding factor, but I do like to find out early on what their sign is. Every guy I have been with our astrological combination was pretty on point. I am a cancer, and I really AM a cancer, it fits me perfectly. My boyfriend is an Aries, and it is him through and through. As I said, it isn't a deciding factor, but its interesting to see how true they end up being. 1
Janesays Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 You can read 10 different books on astrology and have all 10 of them describe things in different, often contrary ways. I know because I actually have read multiple astrology books. People just like to pick the description that resonates personally with them and their personal life and call that the perfect description of the sign. Being that it is nearly impossible to get even professional astrologers to agree what makes a person a 'true' aries or virgo or whatever, I don't put much stock into it at all. It's just another thing people do for fun. No harm in it, I suppose.
Anela Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 Some of the charts are just too accurate (in my experience) to just completely write it off. There is something to it. Yes: going into the whole chart, not just the sun signs. I've had experiences where the synastry was supposed to be excellent, and something strong was definitely felt on both sides, but it didn't end in a love connection. In fact, I loathe not just one Taurus man, but two, an Taurus rules my house of significant relationships (and open enemies - ha! - the seventh house). And yet my dad is a Taurus and we get on almost all of the time. Different type of relationship, but the same sign. I have been attracted to a lot of Taurus Moons, and have friends with that same placement (female friends). I notice patterns, also depending on what I'm dealing with at the time: last year, I was felt drawn to men with a lot of Capricorn. 2
miss_jaclynrae Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 I want to add that reading about someones sign has helped me try to view things from a different perspective. For example, sometimes my man lacks so much tact it is annoying how he says things, even if he doesn't mean to be hurtful. Instead of emotionally reacting, I have learned to convey to him a better way to say things so it doesn't come of as cold, and let him know that there IS a better way to get his point across. Not just helping him, but also helping myself. I have flaws too, and by reading about how I can react to things, since it is harder for me to see it when I am doing it... It just is some good insight, even if it isn't a "factual" guide.
fortyninethousand322 Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 Some of the charts are just too accurate (in my experience) to just completely write it off. There is something to it. Could be. I could always be wrong about it. It's just not something I care to consult before going on a date.
KatZee Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 He's done. This guy will never be what you want him to be, you're not going to magically get some awesome boyfriend. I know you're judgment is severely clouded right now based on things he's "said" but watch his actions. His words are just that, words. His actions scream otherwise. Please let it go, you're bordering desperation and obsession at this point and he's giving you NOTHING to work with. And it doesn't matter that a Libra is good for any sign, OTHER signs need to be right for YOU. Virgo is NO GOOD for a Libra.
MrCastle Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 Could be. I could always be wrong about it. It's just not something I care to consult before going on a date. I mean I don't live my life by it, but it is scary accurate for me and I don't believe in coincidences, so. Like I said in my first post--if you've ever googled "scorpio men" and read up on them you would know my whole personality. Totally.
lop98 Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 I wish I did. I'm an Aquarius and could get on well with an Aries or any other air sign. Instead, I keep dating Virgos, Cancer, Scorpio... my last two formal relationships have been with Virgos and they go as described in those sites, it starts off well, I'm floored by their formality, they seem entertained by how I seem all over the place, high sexual chemistry... then they keep trying to make everything formal and I struggle to make things even more casual, I cannot hear finances talk for over 15 minutes, they can't deal with how poorly determined I am. What I like about Virgos is that they're really drama-free and cut to the chase and express when they want you or when they want out... unlike Cancers and their disappearing act, I find Cancers to be the absolute worst sign of all for me, clingy, manipulative, oversensitive, evasive...probably the only sign I'm really hoping not to find when dating.
therhythm Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 Oh Lord, don't tell me that besides the number of people I have slept with now I will also have to lie about my astrological sign /facepalm just kidding!
ThaWholigan Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 I wish I did. I'm an Aquarius and could get on well with an Aries or any other air sign. Instead, I keep dating Virgos, Cancer, Scorpio... my last two formal relationships have been with Virgos and they go as described in those sites, it starts off well, I'm floored by their formality, they seem entertained by how I seem all over the place, high sexual chemistry... then they keep trying to make everything formal and I struggle to make things even more casual, I cannot hear finances talk for over 15 minutes, they can't deal with how poorly determined I am. What I like about Virgos is that they're really drama-free and cut to the chase and express when they want you or when they want out... unlike Cancers and their disappearing act, I find Cancers to be the absolute worst sign of all for me, clingy, manipulative, oversensitive, evasive...probably the only sign I'm really hoping not to find when dating. As a Virgo man, I always laugh at the relentlessly negative descriptions about them online - they make us sound like such drippy, weird fake-nice-guys who are always boring . 1
MrCastle Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 As a Virgo man, I always laugh at the relentlessly negative descriptions about them online - they make us sound like such drippy, weird fake-nice-guys who are always boring . The stuff about Scorpios is even worse. Typically those who have had bad experiences with Scorpios are scarred so bad they usually end up never dating other ones again. Can't say I blame them. My sign is so intense that one of the signs deemed incompatible for Scorpios are Scorpios. 3
youngnlove89 Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 Do you consider a potential date/mate's sign? Have you found any eery validity to astrological (in)compatibility? I definitely do!! It's more for fun than seriousness though. I read my horoscope (leo) and my bf's (cancer) every day. hehe And the characteristics of our horoscopes are actually SPOT on with our personalities and how we handle things. And 95% of the time, my horoscope is very accurate with how my day went. It's freaky. I don't read his to him though, so I don't know if it's accurate for him or not. But as far as compatibility goes, in the astrology world Cancer and Leo's aren't considered a perfect match. We definitely have had our ups and downs, but we are still together! And we work well together too. (Caner-is a crab) - He is crabby, hides in his shell a lot, but is also very attentive and affectionate. (Leo-is a lion) - I am the king of the world, dramatic, likes to be the center of attention and more out-going. We are almost kind of opposite from each other. I bring out his wild side and he calms me down a bit. It works.
Janesays Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 I've done those things - and I've studied astrology. A friend of mine, who happens to be an astrologer, was writing about this the other day: putting too much emphasis into how the compatibility looks astrology-wise, rather than just seeing how things go with the other person. Studying it helped me to understand others, in ways, and I could see how aspects and transits played out - to an amusing degree at times - but I can also see how others would see it as bunk. I see patterns in synastry aspects, more than sun signs alone. Yeah, I've read stuff like that. I've also heard that moon signs can almost play a bigger part when it comes relationship compatibility than sun signs. Something along the lines of sun signs are how the rest of the world perceives you while moon signs delve more into how you feel INSIDE. Does your friend also subscribe to this notion?
Star Gazer Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 Perhaps I'd change my tune if that was my experience, but it's probably not something I'd know until months went by so it wouldn't help me early on anyway. Let me put it this way: If you knew NOW that of all the women you've dated, the crazy/mean/heartless/commitmentphobic of the bunch were all of a particular sign, whereas all the other women you enjoyed spending time with were of all other signs, do you think from here on out, if you found out a woman was of the "bad" sign that you might kinda pause and take a moment to rethink her?
fortyninethousand322 Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 Let me put it this way: If you knew NOW that of all the women you've dated, the crazy/mean/heartless/commitmentphobic of the bunch were all of a particular sign, whereas all the other women you enjoyed spending time with were of all other signs, do you think from here on out, if you found out a woman was of the "bad" sign that you might kinda pause and take a moment to rethink her? I don't know. I'd like to think I'd judge people on their own merits not because they share a certain characteristic with other people I found unsavory. But, maybe you're right. Perhaps I'd view things as you do. Impossible for me to know really.
Divasu Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 UT, every Aquarian I've known has just been a nightmare to date, for me, a Taurus. If I find out a guy is an Aquarius, he's immediately suspect. I was with an Aquarius for several years, are signs were NOT compatible. It worked at the time. :laugh:
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