Consolidated discussion - Astrological signs/astrology when dating

[shuba]

From moderation - If astrology is a big part of your dating life and decisions, and you wish to discuss those processes, this is the thread to do it in. Postings have been consolidated and appear in order of posting time. General postings about astrology do not belong in the dating forum. There is a consolidated astrology thread in the Water Cooler where those can be posted

 

 

What is going on in this Virgo guys mind , I am a Libran girl ?

 

I am a Libran girl !!!

 

i have had terrible times with my guy friend ( VIRGO Male). we have been really good friends ever since 2011.so finally in the NOV 2011 all of a sudden i asked him a question do u like me or do u see me more than a friend , he replied me saying I dont see anything more , i just see u as a friend , moreover we belong to different religion , so he didnt want to think anything furthur.so i agreed with him and still maintain the close friendship( physical) with him now just two weeks back , while i was sitting with him on the couch in a resturant. we were talking about marriage , coz his mom wants him to get married and he cant marry anyone except the same caste girl and blah blah...

so finally after sometime he looks at me and says I love u .i was shocked and cudnt look into his face. so i replied thank you

 

he then said so thats all i get to hear . when i was talking on a serious note

Well than i reminded him about how he told me that he doesnt see me more than a friend, so he replied me saying I am a smart girl,and cut the topic half the way.later when he was dropping me back home , he told me i have mixed feelings and confused about the situtation. I didnt reply him .

 

We have been very close and had intimate sex. But every-time he tells me he doesnt feel for me more than a friend. So finally in the month of November 2012. I finally took the desicion to let him know that we cant be friends anymore cause it hurts to see that you dont love me the way I do. But he kept insisting me saying what can I do ? How can i Help you if i dont feel for you that way. he is 32 years old. He had lost his gf after 2 and a half years relationship.

Anyways he kept pleading me saying that I dont want to loose you as a friend. I feel very close and compatible and flexible when around you. I didnt listen to him and finally left him. After a week he calls me and sounded as if nothing happened. and he insisted that we should meet. I finally met him and he said he is attracted to me and he has feelings for me , he thought over it. He wants me to be gf untill the time his mom finds a girl for him ( he cant marry me because we are of different religion) he said that he feels for me but he cant have me due to his situation. I was fine with that cause i love him. I went on being his lover. Everything was going on well. I was having some really good times with him. Until now his business isnt going on well. finally i could feel he is not giving me enough of attention and love which he said he would. What I have regularly noticed is that when he is drunk , he keeps loving me and says things about how much he adores me how much the other guy will be who will marry me cause he cant marry me as his mom and family wont accept me. he tells me i am an excellent girl who loves and cares someone so much.

but once he gets sober he denies everything that he spoke. the other day i reminded him all what he told me when drunk , he told me to leave him alone , he denied having said such stuff. He says "please help me i am in a very bad situation, I invested so much into my business and no ones helping me. I am so fried in my mind. I think straight moreover my mom is going on forcing me to marry " he isnt getting a girl to marry cause of his financial status.

now he says maybe in the month of novemeber i told you things BUT right now just leave me alone. I dont want to be loved or give love. I dont think i will ever able to love anybody because My situation is so bad. Youre a nice girl you should search for another guy. Just leave me alone.

I told him how much i love him. I got so angry with him I abused him mom too. because i am hurt as because he is pushing me away now. I again asked me do you want to continue be my friend. he says give me a break, leave me alone for a month. I have terrible tension with my business.

Please help me someone over here,. I love this guy very much. What surprises me is that even after i abused him mom he still never got angry rather he was willing to meet me and sought things out. What really offended me was that he has changed all of a sudden because of all his financial tensions. he kept telling me please help me to get out of this situation. i was helpless. when he is drunk he tells me how much he loves me but when sober he denies it.

i dont want to loose him. what really confuses me also is that even if he really doesnt have feelings for like he says why he still wants me as a friend. I dont understand.

moreover he constantly tells me he doesnt have feelings for me and wants me to believe that even I dont love him. He tells me that " you dont love me " I was shocked.

He told me not to contact him for a month.

I did contact him back after a month. He just completely shut me out and told me to move on in life. we arent perfect for each other.

 

I really had a bad time with him. I really found that he is not at all communicative and non expressive. I would get confused with him even being just a friend. Now when i remind him of all he said about him being attracted to me - he completely denies everything. Now he doesnt want to meet me neither keep in touch.

Edited June 25, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[KatZee]

Oh God. I know people are going to say "don't base anything on astrological signs!" But dear God, Virgo is NOT good for a Libra. My ex was a Virgo and everything I've ever read about that sun sign was dead accurate.

 

That being said, your story has NOTHING to do with either of your signs. He's getting over an ex and he wants you to be the interim girl until his family handpicks a girlfriend for him? Please move on. You're wasting your time, effort and energy on someone that CLEARLY isn't that interested in you on a romantic level.

 

You may be a great friend to him and that's why he doesn't want you out of his life, but as far as partners go, please stop chasing him. Virgo's can be hot and cold, my ex Virgo was very internal and he never let me in to his true emotions and feelings.

 

You're smothering him, that is clear. He DOESN'T want to be with you, regardless of his attraction for you.

 

Please move on.

[ThaWholigan]

Once Virgo makes a clean break there's no going back. In any case, astrology or not, it's unfortunate but you're going to have to try to move on from him. His trying to figure things out on his own will only serve to alienate you and if you're a typical Libra, then the lack of communication is only going to hurt you gradually.

 

Best make a break for it.

 

(I'm a Virgo myself, so I know )

[Star Gazer]

Another thread got me to thinking about this.

 

My gut reaction is, "Uhhh, NO. That's silly."

 

BUT, every Aquarian I've known has just been a nightmare to date, for me, a Taurus. If I find out a guy is an Aquarius, he's immediately suspect.

 

Do you consider a potential date/mate's sign? Have you found any eery validity to astrological (in)compatibility?

[shuba]

Once Virgo makes a clean break there's no going back. In any case, astrology or not, it's unfortunate but you're going to have to try to move on from him. His trying to figure things out on his own will only serve to alienate you and if you're a typical Libra, then the lack of communication is only going to hurt you gradually.

 

Best make a break for it.

 

(I'm a Virgo myself, so I know )

 

 

 

My main question to a virgo male is WHY did he come back to me telling me that he is attracted to me , he does have feelings, I very well rememenber he told me that I am a very shy guy and i cant chase girls. I am afraid of rejection so most of the time its the girls who have to do it .. and he wants me to behave like his gf for three months. I had very very well stated to him that the only reason i am going to out of his life is because i have feelings for him. why did he tell me these things ??? i was happy to be his close friend. what was playing on his mind.? didnt he care for my feelings towards him.

 

 

now when i out of anger abused him thoroughly he just told me not to contact him rather he began saying YOU dont love me. why do you have feelings for me ? i dont feel that you love me . its always push and pull...

 

i was very happy to be his close friend. and now he blames me saying I am the one who always chased him.

 

is there anyway i could get him back ... please help me !!!

[ScreamingTrees]

Taurus and Libra Love Compatibility - Astrology.com

 

Hey, this webpage tells me that we'd be a great match. I'm willing to make this long distance thing work, how about you?

 

Forget about that virgo guy. Take away the o and replace it with in, and what do you get? My point stands. Don't go for the virgo, go for the awesome unpredictable taurus. Wait, does that even make sense? lol

[fortyninethousand322]

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Honestly, how would you even know someone's sign before going out on a date with them? Do you ask their birthday or steal a quick peak at their driver's license or birth certificate when they're not looking?

 

Maybe I'm just a weirdo, but it's just not something I'm concerned about when dating someone...

[Star Gazer]

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Honestly, how would you even know someone's sign before going out on a date with them? Do you ask their birthday or steal a quick peak at their driver's license or birth certificate when they're not looking?

 

Maybe I'm just a weirdo, but it's just not something I'm concerned about when dating someone...

 

OLD often has the person's sign.

 

You might otherwise just know their birthday. For example, my date last night told me he went on a particular trip the first week of a particular month to celebrate his birthday. Bam. Now I know his sign.

[tbf]

Have you ever heard of the Forer Effect?

[MrCastle]

I don't think anyone who's familiar with my posts on this forum would argue that I'm not a scorpio.

 

I think signs can help you learn stuff about a person but I would never not date someone based on that alone. Even though every Leo I've met has been a terrible match for me

[Star Gazer]

Have you ever heard of the Forer Effect?

 

Yeah. But setting aside the descriptions of the signs, I find it oddly coincidental that all of my nightmares have been with Aquarians.

[fortyninethousand322]

OLD often has the person's sign.

 

You might otherwise just know their birthday. For example, my date last night told me he went on a particular trip the first week of a particular month to celebrate his birthday. Bam. Now I know his sign.

 

Don't you have to look that up? Like, if someone told me their birthday was January 12th and I wanted to know their sign, I'd have to go home on the computer and look up what sign coincides with January 12th, because I don't know off hand.

 

Regardless, the idea just seems kind of arbitrary and random. So what if Susie is born in July and Bob was born in November? I think the fact that Bob is an alcoholic or Susie is a serial cheater might have more to do with the demise of the relationship than astrology.

 

Of course, that's just how I see it. I could always be wrong...

[KatZee]

Now I do, yes. My ex was a Virgo. I'm a Libra. Once we were at the end of our relationship I actually did a compatibility reading for a V&L. I can't even tell you how dead on accurate it was. It basically said "NO WAY!!!" From the get go.

 

I actually would never date another Virgo. They all have same traits, too rigid for a flirty Libra.

[Star Gazer]

Don't you have to look that up? Like, if someone told me their birthday was January 12th and I wanted to know their sign, I'd have to go home on the computer and look up what sign coincides with January 12th, because I don't know off hand.

 

Nope. I know them all, with some minor variances on the cusps.

 

January 12 is Capricorn. I knew that off hand.

[shuba]

Oh God. I know people are going to say "don't base anything on astrological signs!" But dear God, Virgo is NOT good for a Libra. My ex was a Virgo and everything I've ever read about that sun sign was dead accurate.

 

That being said, your story has NOTHING to do with either of your signs. He's getting over an ex and he wants you to be the interim girl until his family handpicks a girlfriend for him? Please move on. You're wasting your time, effort and energy on someone that CLEARLY isn't that interested in you on a romantic level.

 

You may be a great friend to him and that's why he doesn't want you out of his life, but as far as partners go, please stop chasing him. Virgo's can be hot and cold, my ex Virgo was very internal and he never let me in to his true emotions and feelings.

 

You're smothering him, that is clear. He DOESN'T want to be with you, regardless of his attraction for you.

 

Please move on.

 

 

his ex gf was Pisces... And he kept telling me my ex is very different from you. I would get very hurt cause i would give my 100 % to be with him and make him feel that i love him and i am willing to marry him.

 

i dont get it what is so different in Pisces that we librans cant get hold of Virgo men.

 

I believe we librans are the best for all signs. I could feel connected to him. sometimes he would open up but suddenly he would fall back. And sometimes I would talk so much . he would just sit quite that would kill me completely.

 

The worst part is MOst of the time I see virgo male who are attracted to me. I dont know why ?

 

 

why does he praise me when drunk and when he comes sober he denies everything.

 

Even now when i told him what he did to me. he says I dont know why i did it. All i know is he is Big fat liar.

[ScreamingTrees]

(I'm a Virgo myself, so I know )

 

No offense meant in my earlier post, Hoolie.. You are the exception.

[tbf]

Yeah. But setting aside the descriptions of the signs, I find it oddly coincidental that all of my nightmares have been with Aquarians.

Mine have been with Cancers.

 

As a challenge to you, go around to everyone you know (work, family, friends and contacts) and ask them their signs. What you'll find is that while there will be some coincidences (only twelve signs with vague descriptions so there's sure to be what appears to be some correlation), there will be quite a number of anomalies.

[TouchedByViolet]

Absolutely not. Any correlation between birth date and personality is a coincidence.

 

Whenever people discuss about astrology seriously (not just for fun conversation) my faith in logic and humanity decreases. I know that is an extreme feeling but if every person who believed in astrology put just a small amount of effort into learning lets say astronomy the world would be a better place. Education + Science please.

[sweetjasmine]

Another thread got me to thinking about this.

 

My gut reaction is, "Uhhh, NO. That's silly."

 

BUT, every Aquarian I've known has just been a nightmare to date, for me, a Taurus. If I find out a guy is an Aquarius, he's immediately suspect.

 

Do you consider a potential date/mate's sign? Have you found any eery validity to astrological (in)compatibility?

 

I've never considered astrological signs as a factor since I've never given any credence to them. Don't even know all of them! And I've never come across any eery coincidences. In fact, my H and one of my brothers share the same sign and are pretty much the exact opposite in personality.

[Star Gazer]

I've never considered astrological signs as a factor since I've never given any credence to them. Don't even know all of them! And I've never come across any eery coincidences. In fact, my H and one of my brothers share the same sign and are pretty much the exact opposite in personality.

 

Well, it's said that the male and female of each side have significant variances.

[tbf]

Well, it's said that the male and female of each side have significant variances.

My sister and I are the same sign. We're like night and day.

[sweetjasmine]

Well, it's said that the male and female of each side have significant variances.

 

I didn't know that. But I don't see how it applies in this case. My H and my brother are both men and are very different people. They're also pretty close to the same age.

[fortyninethousand322]

Absolutely not. Any correlation between birth date and personality is a coincidence.

 

Whenever people discuss about astrology seriously (not just for fun conversation) my faith in logic and humanity decreases. I know that is an extreme feeling but if every person who believed in astrology put just a small amount of effort into learning lets say astronomy the world would be a better place. Education + Science please.

 

Yeah, this is pretty much my feeling on the matter.

 

Don't get me wrong, I'm ok with the paranormal and supernatural, it's just astrology screams of fortune tellers at carnivals and people trying to make a quick buck. Like people selling you the secrets to making it rich on the stock market in under a year.

[MrCastle]

Yeah, this is pretty much my feeling on the matter.

 

Don't get me wrong, I'm ok with the paranormal and supernatural, it's just astrology screams of fortune tellers at carnivals and people trying to make a quick buck. Like people selling you the secrets to making it rich on the stock market in under a year.

 

Some of the charts are just too accurate (in my experience) to just completely write it off. There is something to it.

[shuba]

Taurus and Libra Love Compatibility - Astrology.com

 

Hey, this webpage tells me that we'd be a great match. I'm willing to make this long distance thing work, how about you?

 

Forget about that virgo guy. Take away the o and replace it with in, and what do you get? My point stands. Don't go for the virgo, go for the awesome unpredictable taurus. Wait, does that even make sense? lol

 

 

i am interested in long distance thing too