aussietigerwolf Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 She does with herself. I don't see any drama. But for me personally I like to take things slower no matter how much I like a woman. It's fine if you're comfortable with him. just curious, how long would you wait?
BradJacobs Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 LMAO. I have a real feeling I'm going to turn into one with him. Then it sounds like it wasn't "too soon" but just long enough. Enjoy your fireman! And best of luck on Friday's date. 3
sweetheart5381 Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 Lol... oh ya, the whole fireman thing is pretty hot too I hope he saved you!! My man is the cable/internet tech... damn, he could climb a pole AND he saved me from life without LoveShack 1
Drseussgrrl Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 Oh come on now. You know we all just want to know the obvious. Was it good?
RedRobin Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 (edited) Yeah his actions are pointing to that direction Pointing? Which direction would that be? We haven't had "the talk" yet but we see each other regularly (and on prime date nights Fri/Sat) I was kind of just taking things a day at a time but he was acting total boyfriend last night. Wow... one night of 'boyfriend' is all it takes. Why not have 'the talk'? Yep, slightly over a month, I don't get the vibes that he's seeing anyone else Vibes? Why not ask him? Uh, yeah no drama here. Sorry. Don't recall me asking for assumptions for what he's looking for or thinking either, but thanks?? I was just curious if I had jumped the gun, nothing more than that. See above... ... and if you have to ask the question, the answer is yes. Don't really understand why it is so hard to just ask the question(s) or wait until you don't have to ask US whether you jumped the gun or not. Edited June 25, 2013 by RedRobin
Author KatZee Posted June 25, 2013 Author Posted June 25, 2013 Oh come on now. You know we all just want to know the obvious. Was it good? Bahahaha! It was wild. I'll tell you that.
Author KatZee Posted June 25, 2013 Author Posted June 25, 2013 Pointing? Which direction would that be? Wow... one night of 'boyfriend' is all it takes. Why not have 'the talk'? Vibes? Why not ask him? See above... ... and if you have to ask the question, the answer is yes. Don't really understand why it is so hard to just ask the question(s) or wait until you don't have to ask US whether you jumped the gun or not. One night of boyfriend? Who said anything about one night of boyfriend. We've been dating over a month. I'm taking it slow and taking each day as it comes. Letting it flow naturally without being all "hey so what are we, where are we going?" You may use that tactic but seems as if everyone here knows you and how you're a bit rigid and don't get laid at all so. Just stating the obvious here.
RedRobin Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 One night of boyfriend? Who said anything about one night of boyfriend. We've been dating over a month. I'm taking it slow and taking each day as it comes. Letting it flow naturally without being all "hey so what are we, where are we going?" You may use that tactic but seems as if everyone here knows you and how you're a bit rigid and don't get laid at all so. Just stating the obvious here. Letting it flow 'naturally' for a lot of people means they jump to conclusions and make assumptions when they'd be better off asking questions or waiting until they are more sure. I just don't see anything going on here for you to get so excited about. Looks like a lot of wishful thinking on your part. If you are too afraid to ask questions for fear of scaring him off, then that says something right there. If you really don't care where it is going... then that is a different story... but that is not the impression you left with this thread. As for getting laid... anyone can get that...
Author KatZee Posted June 25, 2013 Author Posted June 25, 2013 Letting it flow 'naturally' for a lot of people means they jump to conclusions and make assumptions when they'd be better off asking questions or waiting until they are more sure. I just don't see anything going on here for you to get so excited about. Looks like a lot of wishful thinking on your part. If you are too afraid to ask questions for fear of scaring him off, then that says something right there. If you really don't care where it is going... then that is a different story... but that is not the impression you left with this thread. As for getting laid... anyone can get that... I haven't jumped to any conclusion nor have I made any "assumptions." We've been dating over a month, we talk every day, we go out on dates, he takes me to dinner, he's been a complete gentleman, caring, attentive, interested in ME. He's invited me around his family. I'm really not quite sure why you keep projecting your own assumptions "fear of scaring him off?" "Too afraid to ask?" Where are you even pulling this s.hit from? Because it didn't come from this thread. I started a thread excited about a budding relationship and was wondering how long typical "wait time" for sex was for other people. And no offense, if anyone could get laid, wouldn't you have had it by now?
RedRobin Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 I haven't jumped to any conclusion nor have I made any "assumptions." We've been dating over a month, we talk every day, we go out on dates, he takes me to dinner, he's been a complete gentleman, caring, attentive, interested in ME. He's invited me around his family. I'm really not quite sure why you keep projecting your own assumptions "fear of scaring him off?" "Too afraid to ask?" Where are you even pulling this s.hit from? Because it didn't come from this thread. I started a thread excited about a budding relationship and was wondering how long typical "wait time" for sex was for other people. Well, maybe I missed another thread when you talked about the bolded... but in THIS thread, you sounded unsure. ... and I believe your question was, "Is it too soon?" Like I said, if you have to ask that question, then the answer is yes. ... and if you are too afraid to ask him any questions, then you either don't care about the outcome (which is fine) or you are taking unnecessary risks if you do care about the outcome. That's your choice though.
Author KatZee Posted June 25, 2013 Author Posted June 25, 2013 Like I said, if you have to ask that question, then the answer is yes. ... and if you are too afraid to ask him any questions, then you either don't care about the outcome (which is fine) or you are taking unnecessary risks if you do care about the outcome. That's your choice though. I don't think so. I think you completely missed the part where I said I was so comfortable and at ease with him. I merely asked a question for everyone else to answer. I DID NOT think it was too soon, hence why we had sex. I was curious what everyone else thought. Also, why do you keep saying I'm "too afraid" to ask him questions. Because I'm not. And what exactly is "Unnecessary risky" of having sex with a person you're dating? Two grown, mature and consenting adults? Are you a serious conservative, or elderly person?
MidwestUSA Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 To answer the question, not too soon, IMO. If you were both comfortable, why not? Life is short. My husband and I had sex on the second date. I had deliberately tried to avoid circumstances under which it could happen (did not invite him over for a nightcap) but bang! it happened. I was routing for you on date three 1
Author KatZee Posted June 25, 2013 Author Posted June 25, 2013 To answer the question, not too soon, IMO. If you were both comfortable, why not? Life is short. My husband and I had sex on the second date. I had deliberately tried to avoid circumstances under which it could happen (did not invite him over for a nightcap) but bang! it happened. I was routing for you on date three Lmao date 3 was def way too soon for me! I'm glad it happened the way it did.
MidwestUSA Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 Lmao date 3 was def way too soon for me! I'm glad it happened the way it did. Yes, it sounds like it all went well! Enjoy!
RedRobin Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 (edited) I don't think so. I think you completely missed the part where I said I was so comfortable and at ease with him. I merely asked a question for everyone else to answer. I DID NOT think it was too soon, hence why we had sex. I was curious what everyone else thought. Also, why do you keep saying I'm "too afraid" to ask him questions. Because I'm not. And what exactly is "Unnecessary risky" of having sex with a person you're dating? Two grown, mature and consenting adults? If you are so comfortable and at ease, then why did you create this thread? ... and about the bolded... That is for YOU to answer. Apparently something isn't sitting right with you... or else you wouldn't need to ask US if you had sex too soon. If you weren't too afraid to ask him questions... you wouldn't be going on assumptions... like you seem to be. Maybe you don't feel the need to ask him any questions. And that is fine... but something here doesn't add up. ... because this whole thread seems to be about you asking random internet strangers for validation that you SHOULD BE GETTING FROM HIM. Not sure how the logic of that keeps escaping you. Edited June 25, 2013 by RedRobin
Author KatZee Posted June 25, 2013 Author Posted June 25, 2013 If you are so comfortable and at ease, then why did you create this thread? ... and about the bolded... That is for YOU to answer. Apparently something isn't sitting right with you... or else you wouldn't need to ask US if you had sex too soon. Uh no, that question was actually for you. There are no hidden meanings or things to interpret in my question. I'm pretty literal. I'm asking you why you think there's risk to having sex with someone you're dating. I don't have an issue with it. Hence, again, why we had sex. Hence why I felt comfortable and at ease. The question was a very cut and clear direct question to YOU. I'm not afraid to ask him questions. I'm quite enjoying him leading the current relationship. I've also been on LS for a few years now. I don't consider anyone to be "random strangers" in that sense. I had sex after a month+ dating. I wanted to know what the average was. It's pretty cut and dry here and I have the mentality of a dude. I say what I mean, I mean what I say. You're the one making inferences and assumptions about my reasoning for this thread, and the question I asked. Not sure how THAT logic keeps escaping you.
RedRobin Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 (edited) I don't have an issue with it. Hence, again, why we had sex. Hence why I felt comfortable and at ease. The question was a very cut and clear direct question to YOU. Really? Take a look at the header for your own thread. If you are so sure of yourself, why do you care? Anyway... I'm not here to argue with you... If you feel sure about things, then fine. Edited June 25, 2013 by RedRobin
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