KatZee Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 Still seeing my guy, known him over a month now, about 5 dates, contact virtually every day. Hung with him last night, one thing led to another thing, and BAM I banged my fireman. :X Me almost 29, him 32. I didn't really have a set parameter for the sex thing, but I wasn't expecting to feel so completely at ease and comfortable with him. He asked me out for this coming Friday. 3
Author KatZee Posted June 24, 2013 Author Posted June 24, 2013 No i dont think thats too soon. However, hopefully this progresses to a relationship soon. Dont press it but hopefully by the 2 month mark you guys have the "talk" Some guys will never make the move if they dont know what you want. Yeah his actions are pointing to that direction, before we even had sex he was asking me out for this coming Friday. The way he's acting is like nothing I've ever experienced. He actually asks about ME and is genuinely interested in things going on in my life. Attentive, just an overall AUTHENTIC man. 2
TinyArdilla Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 I think it really all depends on the people. For me, it would be much to soon, but only because I'm so young. You're lucky you have found someone you are comfortable with - I hope this works out well for you two
Author KatZee Posted June 24, 2013 Author Posted June 24, 2013 I think it really all depends on the people. For me, it would be much to soon, but only because I'm so young. You're lucky you have found someone you are comfortable with - I hope this works out well for you two Oh yeah definitely. Way back when I was younger like 16/17 I waited months and months to have sex with someone. Once you hit late 20's/30's there's no need to wait as long.
Star Gazer Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 5 dates is prime sexy time for me; however, I make sure we're exclusive first. But no, I don't think it's too soon, and it's an obviously great sign that he made plans to see you again. 1
miss_jaclynrae Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 If it happened with ease and you were comfortable, it wasn't too soon. I believe in things happening naturally, and it sounds like they did! Plus you guys have another date! Is he dating anyone else? Are you guys exclusive? I don't think you always have to have the "where we stand" talk if both people make it pretty clear and obvious, but otherwise if you feel it is time, have the talk! Congrats btw. Thats exciting! 2
clia Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 I don't think it's too soon either. Sounds like things are going great! 1
Author KatZee Posted June 24, 2013 Author Posted June 24, 2013 If it happened with ease and you were comfortable, it wasn't too soon. I believe in things happening naturally, and it sounds like they did! Plus you guys have another date! Is he dating anyone else? Are you guys exclusive? I don't think you always have to have the "where we stand" talk if both people make it pretty clear and obvious, but otherwise if you feel it is time, have the talk! Congrats btw. Thats exciting! I am literally in shock with how at ease/comfortable last night was. We haven't had "the talk" yet but we see each other regularly (and on prime date nights Fri/Sat) I was kind of just taking things a day at a time but he was acting total boyfriend last night. Attentive, interested, all those things. I kind of believe guys need to get a sense of the physical before they jump in emotionally so I think it def is a good sign he wants to see me this Fri- so I'm kind of anticipating "the talk" happening soon. 1
Star Gazer Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 I am literally in shock with how at ease/comfortable last night was. We haven't had "the talk" yet but we see each other regularly (and on prime date nights Fri/Sat) I was kind of just taking things a day at a time but he was acting total boyfriend last night. Attentive, interested, all those things. I kind of believe guys need to get a sense of the physical before they jump in emotionally so I think it def is a good sign he wants to see me this Fri- so I'm kind of anticipating "the talk" happening soon. Sh*t like this makes me giggle and get giddy! 1
miss_jaclynrae Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 I am literally in shock with how at ease/comfortable last night was. We haven't had "the talk" yet but we see each other regularly (and on prime date nights Fri/Sat) I was kind of just taking things a day at a time but he was acting total boyfriend last night. Attentive, interested, all those things. I kind of believe guys need to get a sense of the physical before they jump in emotionally so I think it def is a good sign he wants to see me this Fri- so I'm kind of anticipating "the talk" happening soon. I love hearing that. That is a good way to go about it! As I said, sometimes you don't even NEED the talk. Sometimes it is just made aware. Some guys I had it with others I didn't. Keep us updated though on what happens? You said it has been a month right? 5 dates? What are you guys doing friday? Is it implied that you guys are exclusive? I knew from the get go my guy wasn't seeing anyone else and am curious if he is the same way.
Author KatZee Posted June 24, 2013 Author Posted June 24, 2013 I love hearing that. That is a good way to go about it! As I said, sometimes you don't even NEED the talk. Sometimes it is just made aware. Some guys I had it with others I didn't. Keep us updated though on what happens? You said it has been a month right? 5 dates? What are you guys doing friday? Is it implied that you guys are exclusive? I knew from the get go my guy wasn't seeing anyone else and am curious if he is the same way. Yep, slightly over a month, I don't get the vibes that he's seeing anyone else. When we're not out, he's talking via messages, sending me pics of stuff he's doing. Friday we're doing an outdoor movie at night in NYC. Get to be all snuggly on your own blankets under the stars!
Author KatZee Posted June 24, 2013 Author Posted June 24, 2013 Sh*t like this makes me giggle and get giddy! It made me giggle and get giddy when right before we did the deed he told me I made him nervous because it was his first time with me and he likes me! 1
miss_jaclynrae Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 Yep, slightly over a month, I don't get the vibes that he's seeing anyone else. When we're not out, he's talking via messages, sending me pics of stuff he's doing. Friday we're doing an outdoor movie at night in NYC. Get to be all snuggly on your own blankets under the stars! OMG that sounds amazing. The first part of your post sounds like excellent news. I hope you both have a blast! 1
Author KatZee Posted June 24, 2013 Author Posted June 24, 2013 Only 5 dates? You slut! LMAO. I have a real feeling I'm going to turn into one with him. 1
RedRobin Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 Good luck... sounds like a bit of drama already though. Me personally... I don't have sex with someone if I feel the need to ask the kind of questions you just asked us... or make assumptions about what he is looking for or thinking. Why is it so hard for so many women to ask for what they want and set expectations in advance?? (shaking head).
Author KatZee Posted June 24, 2013 Author Posted June 24, 2013 Good luck... sounds like a bit of drama already though. Me personally... I don't have sex with someone if I feel the need to ask the kind of questions you just asked us... or make assumptions about what he is looking for or thinking. Why is it so hard for so many women to ask for what they want and set expectations in advance?? (shaking head). Uh, yeah no drama here. Sorry. Don't recall me asking for assumptions for what he's looking for or thinking either, but thanks?? I was just curious if I had jumped the gun, nothing more than that. 1
Star Gazer Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 I see no drama either. Just a lot of giggles and giddiness and excitement over a fledgling relationship! 1
miss_jaclynrae Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 Good luck... sounds like a bit of drama already though. Me personally... I don't have sex with someone if I feel the need to ask the kind of questions you just asked us... or make assumptions about what he is looking for or thinking. Why is it so hard for so many women to ask for what they want and set expectations in advance?? (shaking head). I sometimes wonder if you EVER have sex. 4
Author KatZee Posted June 24, 2013 Author Posted June 24, 2013 Lmao, there's always one. Just ignore it.
sweetheart5381 Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 Glad to hear you are feeling it with him Good things come to those that wait! I think as you get a little older you come to appreciate the little things more, you realize that they mean more than a sexual encounter or 2.... or 10 (casual sex). The good ones are worth waiting for Congrats and have fun! 1
salparadise Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 Good luck... sounds like a bit of drama already though. Me personally... I don't have sex with someone if I feel the need to ask the kind of questions you just asked us... or make assumptions about what he is looking for or thinking. Why is it so hard for so many women to ask for what they want and set expectations in advance?? (shaking head). I sometimes wonder if you EVER have sex. I used to wonder... I think she just has drama. 1
curlygirl40 Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 I love these 'good vibe' threads. :-) To answer your question, no I don't think it was too soon. Hopefully the 'talk' will come soon enough, I would be more comfortable if the talk came before sex but sounds like you feel comfortable in the budding relationship. Good for you! This is the good stuff, enjoy it. :love:
Ripnet Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 I sometimes wonder if you EVER have sex. She does with herself. I don't see any drama. But for me personally I like to take things slower no matter how much I like a woman. It's fine if you're comfortable with him.
shexy Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 In my case - 5 dates/1 month IF I'm attracted and so is he, it's about time to get it on 1
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