Dream causes relapse 8 months after BU

[richard9]

Its been around 8 months since BU after she left me after meeting a new group of friends. Its been a struggle, I loved her so much. But ive been living my life and dealing with the loss. Last night though I dream I was with her, we kissed passionatly and said we loved each other. I held her in my arms and it was asthough our souls came together and we healed (or at least I healed).

 

I woke up to reality and was devistated and depressed.

 

What does it mean?

 

I would never get back with her after the pain she caused me and that she has probably got with other guys by now. Can someone shed some light? I feel so low today.

[SimonSerenade]

Aw man I'm sorry, those dreams are good and bad all at the same time, dreams don't really have to mean anything but sometimes what we wish and what we desire come to life in our subconscious mind, by now you would of told yourself you'd never go back again and that she hurt you too much but maybe that's a desire your still struggling to overcome, these things happen and have to be accepted at face value, it might take a few days to get over this feeling but you will, keep on the right path friend, hope you feel better soon.

[richard9]

Thanks man your reply is appreciated. A lot of memories around at the moment especially with summer here, my first summer without her and with being alone its hard as hell, we had some great times in summer and she was so beautiful. I will continue on and try not to dwell on these things. Hopefully my dreams about her will subside with time, it was so real and it felt so good to feel her kiss. Her words 'i love you' filled my heart. I know this is another part of the loss process, I will somehow just have to find the strength to get through it. Thankyou again.

[SimonSerenade]

No problem, don't feel bad about how your feeling, it's not a bad thing, it's natural and it's wonderful that you have all those memories, I know right now it's hard, sleep is one of the main things we need to function, that becomes impossible when people occupy our heart's and mind's and break up our sleep patterns like that, your a good guy with a good heart for feeling the way you do, don't ever let anybody take that away from you, be proud of that.

 

I can tell you really loved this girl and it's hard for you to let her go completely, it will happen for you, give it time and take it easy, I'm sure little things trigger the thought of her from time to time and that's perfectly okay, life can be like that sometimes, just the other morning I woke up to "coldplay - warning sign" on the radio, a song I never thought I'd hear on the radio, it really does get to you but you take each day as it comes on and keep moving along.

Edited June 24, 2013 by SimonSerenade

[richard9]

I loved her with all my heart my friend, gave her every part of me, put her above anyone and anything. Unfortunately when an exciting new set of single 'friends' came along she decided they were more than I was to her.

 

And yes music is very difficult I know how that feels.

 

Thanks for the advice, I think you are right, one day at a time. Ive been doing well recently not going to let this set me back. One things for sure her dreams of me and associated feelings have certainly long since passed so why should I let dreams of her get to me.

[SimonSerenade]

I know it hurts, don't let what she did determine your worth because it doesn't, your a good guy and I'll bet a million of anybody's money that you treated her well, some times women especially younger women, they lose sight of what's truly important and worth having, she might not realise it now but when the time comes and she wants to settle down again and all her friends have moved on, she might just realise it then and regret her decision but for now she wanted what most young women have and went for it but I'll bet from time to time she still thinks about you and hurts the way you do, you'll never know for sure but it sure is comforting to think about.