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Am I just being foolish with this girl?

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Long story very short me and my ex broke up now for maybe 2 months. We dated for 2.5 years mostly me being at school and seeing her weekends. we dated after she had been in a long relationship before me but had been single for a year or so. I missed her and went NC for a while but it didn't stick. The other day I went to the park and noticed she had been there. I didn't say anything I just kept it moving. She was hanging out with someone I didn't know. That nit we spoke and she said she was just trying something out. I said to her that I wanted to work on us and would do what it took but she wasn't sure because in her past she invested in a relationship that didn't work and I think with us maybe she felt it may end that way too. I asked to hang out on Sunday and she said ok and we hung out at the park a little for lunch. We had good convo I think (nothing related to the relationship) and when we left I put my arm around her and walked her to her car and gave her a kiss on the cheek goodbye.

 

That night I asked her if she was busy that night it she said she had family stuff which I understand since they are close. That night I took mY parents out for dinner and she the texted me about some new stuff she had going on at work and to say hi to my parents. We chatted a little and that was all until later that Sunday night when I said gn and she replied gn using my nickname.

 

I know the details aren't much but idk if I'm playing myself by hanging around or not. I asked her what she felt and she just said she didn't know and for me that's worse than a no cuz with a no at least I know it's over. I dont ever thi she would tell he no anyways, its not really her to do that....I care for her and would compete against any man out there but at the same time is it worth it if she isn't 100% on board when she said she didn't know?? In all honesty I can understand why she would at least try and date because she's older than me and has never really dated around and maybe she wants that experience. I want her to have it but at the same time if I waited and she went in another direction that would be a blow....part of me feels I should just go and if she comes back she comes back but another part feels like if I gave up and didn't fight with my all then I wouldn't get her back. She sometimes worries that people don't change but in our case I think it was that we got comfortable and that's where it went wrong, not that the attraction faded...idk though..thoughts anyone?

 

I want to text her from time to time to just say hi but idk if I'm coming across as desperate or should I just leave it alone because in the end She may just choose to be single.

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StrongLass Established Member

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Everything you just typed is screaming "emotional clusterfu*k"

 

Point being?

 

You two broke up + she's not being clear about her feelings + you still wanting her back = YOU NEED SOME SPACE

 

Seriously. You're not doing yourself any favors with all this ambiguity between you & her.

OrangeSnack Established Member

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I think it's good that she's texting you back and you guys are still talking. Based on your information, she still has feelings for you but I can't gauge whether those feelings are deep or just "friendly." It seems like she is a very young and indecisive girl/woman, which is normal. You on the other hand, I am assuming are very straight forward and are possibly more mature than her?

 

Your story reminds me of my current situation where I have been NC with my gal for about 2 weeks. It's a very long story but what happened was one of her ex's passed away and a few weeks later she tells me she's back and then disappears again. Talk about confusion... So I said enough was enough, I can't be this half starved puppy looking to get back to her. I need to get my **** together and start looking out for myself.

 

Anyhow, my advice is don't put all your eggs in one basket. In other words, don't put too much hope into getting back together with your ex. She is the indecisive one, not you. You know you would take her back in a heart beat, it's time for her to start chasing you. If she doesn't then move on, don't dwell on it :)

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